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AyVannah
July 20th, 2013, 08:33 PM
Day zero is almost up. It's actually been pretty dang hard for me. I don't cut every day, but today I just keep feeling the urge... Is this normal? Is it because I know I'm trying to quit? Advice please? X:
The-Chosen-Hero
July 21st, 2013, 01:16 AM
It is normal for a cutter to have an urge to cut again. Instead of cutting try finding a rubber band instead and snap it on your wrist to see if you can relieve that feeling. Or you can try to ignore it by keeping your mind off of it. Such as watching videos or doing something entertaining. If you can try to confide in a friend.
Conqueror of Hearts
July 21st, 2013, 02:31 AM
Yeah, it is normal to have an urge. What helps me is going out with friends, or just calling a friend over thephone. They don't need to know what's going on but just talking about other things will keep your mind of cutting.
Watching a movie can help too. Take some comedy and try to forget about cutting.
Keep going and good luck.
AyVannah
July 21st, 2013, 09:41 AM
Thank you all so so much. I'll try these solutions. Thank you so so much, again :)
Castle of Glass
July 21st, 2013, 10:51 AM
Also, there is something called the butterfly project. When ever you have the urge to cut, you take a sharpie or a marker and draw a butterfly on yourself, with the name of someone you care inside it. if you cut or rub it off, that butterfly dies. It has to fade naturally.
AyVannah
July 21st, 2013, 11:13 AM
Yeah :) I've just started that, actually! :)
EternalSadness
July 22nd, 2013, 02:03 PM
It's ok to have relapses most people do! Depression isn't generally something you get fully over the course of a day, it usually takes a while to affect you, so don't expect the road to recovery to take a short time either. :) and yeah the other replies all have good help so I hope those methods help you. And I've heard people like to bury or get rid of their razors and stuff all at once because it gives them a sense of finality, but if you're trying to stop for good it's a very positive sign indeed. :)
AyVannah
July 22nd, 2013, 05:12 PM
Thank you very much :) I've tried to get rid of the knife, but I couldn't..
britishboy
July 24th, 2013, 07:24 AM
Thank you very much :) I've tried to get rid of the knife, but I couldn't..

try reading this, its reliable advice from a charity that helps children and teenages

www.childline.org.uk/explore/damagingyourself/pages/selfharm.aspx
AyVannah
July 24th, 2013, 09:41 AM
Thank you, Jack. This helps some :)
Castle of Glass
July 24th, 2013, 06:25 PM
hey i have a surprise for you :hug:

keep strong. wish i could say the same about myself :(
AyVannah
July 24th, 2013, 07:16 PM
Hehe ^.^
It's hard to stay strong :/ I came very close to cutting last night. Twice.
Castle of Glass
July 24th, 2013, 10:54 PM
Hehe ^.^
It's hard to stay strong :/ I came very close to cutting last night. Twice.

I have come close to cutting for the first time before, but in this past week, it has been more than ever.
AyVannah
July 24th, 2013, 10:59 PM
I have come close to cutting for the first time before, but in this past week, it has been more than ever.

Be careful...:/ once you start, you won't be able to stop without some help... It's not just LIKE an addiction, it IS an addiction.. And a tough one to break, too, for that matter. You may come to rely on it as your only stress reliever. And that is not good.
Be careful please > <
Castle of Glass
July 24th, 2013, 11:12 PM
Be careful...:/ once you start, you won't be able to stop without some help... It's not just LIKE an addiction, it IS an addiction.. And a tough one to break, too, for that matter. You may come to rely on it as your only stress reliever. And that is not good.
Be careful please > <

Sadly i know. i haven't experienced it, but I know from being here for while. Why do you think i always post there whenever i get close to or feel like cutting. I try to keep my mind off these things. but the dark thoughts come back.
AyVannah
July 24th, 2013, 11:15 PM
This is true.
I suggest things like... A stress ball. It helps with me sometimes. Or the 4 P's. Pissed People Punch Pillows.
There's also journals you can keep, art you can draw, music you can listen to, do things that normally make you happy! ^^
Talking helps too. To a close friend, family member, councillor, or hell, a random person on here! X)
If you wanna talk, you can always talk to me :)
Castle of Glass
July 24th, 2013, 11:30 PM
This is true.
I suggest things like... A stress ball. It helps with me sometimes. Or the 4 P's. Pissed People Punch Pillows.
There's also journals you can keep, art you can draw, music you can listen to, do things that normally make you happy! ^^
Talking helps too. To a close friend, family member, councillor, or hell, a random person on here! X)
If you wanna talk, you can always talk to me :)

stress ball: have those arm work out nunchuck things.
4 P's: wrestling
Journal: how bout no
Art:can't draw for shits
music:play it and listen :D
Things that make me happy:League of Legends :D

Yea, but i have one butterfly :) and i talk to a lot of ppl on this site. But can't trust any of my "friends", parents or brother, or councilors :(
AyVannah
July 25th, 2013, 12:03 AM
stress ball: have those arm work out nunchuck things.
4 P's: wrestling
Journal: how bout no
Art:can't draw for shits
music:play it and listen :D
Things that make me happy:League of Legends :D

Yea, but i have one butterfly :) and i talk to a lot of ppl on this site. But can't trust any of my "friends", parents or brother, or councilors :(

Those are all good ways :)
And journaling didnt work for me either xD
Music!! <3
I haven't started LoL yet... But I want to xP
Butterflies are good. I have five.

I get that :/ like I said though, I am here to talk to! :)
Yugen
July 26th, 2013, 05:35 PM
I understand. I get the urge to cut almost every day, but I've managed to stay clean for 81 days. I think it's normal; a big part of overcoming self harm is learning to overcome the urge. :D
AyVannah
July 29th, 2013, 12:26 AM
I understand. I get the urge to cut almost every day, but I've managed to stay clean for 81 days. I think it's normal; a big part of overcoming self harm is learning to overcome the urge. :D

It's just so hard, ya know? Congratulations on 81 days :) it's a challenge. Thank you :)
Castle of Glass
July 29th, 2013, 01:04 AM
It's just so hard, ya know? Congratulations on 81 days :) it's a challenge. Thank you :)

nearly cut today. have a red mark where the blade was
These.scars.are.me.
July 29th, 2013, 02:45 AM
I play with plasticine I can shape it so it keeps my hands busy but I can make it into people and rip their heads off if they are annoying me!
Yugen
July 29th, 2013, 06:56 AM
It's just so hard, ya know? Congratulations on 81 days :) it's a challenge. Thank you :)

Oh, I know. But you'll get there. :) We can overcome this challenge together.
AyVannah
July 29th, 2013, 08:57 AM
nearly cut today. have a red mark where the blade was
Awe x.x I'm glad you didn't! Stay strong! :)

I play with plasticine I can shape it so it keeps my hands busy but I can make it into people and rip their heads off if they are annoying me!
That's a very good idea! :) I will keep it in mind

Oh, I know. But you'll get there. :) We can overcome this challenge together.
I hope so. Thank you :)