Aglet
July 20th, 2013, 08:08 PM
TL;DR below.
So, I'm in this situation with a girl where I want to ask her out on a date, but there's so much reluctance that I felt the need to seek advice from the internet.
I've done a bit of searching, and I have decided to post here.
I'm a 17 year old male who works as an apprentice chef at a rather large restaurant. I start work every morning at 6 and normally get off at 3(Six to noon I do prep in the back of the house, noon to three I work the line), sometimes I leave as late as 6pm, depending on how busy we are or if prep needs to be done after I work line. I will be a Senior in high school this upcoming year. The girl I'm interested in will be a freshman in college. She also works at this restaurant, not as a chef/cook though. I'm apprehensive because I'm not sure how socially acceptable it would be to date someone who's not much older than myself, but still somewhat across a social barrier(High school and "Real Life"). Not only this, but she has the same last name as my stepfather, and they may actually be related. On top of, I always hear about workplace love going bad, and then months of tension following. To be honest though, I don't see her unless we both happen to take breaks, or if I catch a glimpse of her seating some guests. She likes to visit me in the kitchen every morning. My coworkers like to taunt and tease me. But up until now I had a girlfriend that I was trying to stay with..
I have no apprehension towards actually asking her out, after all I can only be better off having done it and nothing would change should the answer be no. But, along with the above reasons, I know I have problems with commitment. And I don't know how to fix that. Some of my previous girlfriends have only lasted a couple days. Sometimes I've gone out and asked someone new out before breaking up with my current. I know, it's terrible and I'm a horrible human for treating women like pokemon. But sometimes I really can't help it. I know where it stems from, something I don't talk about. I just haven't been able to figure out how to change my mindset. Although, for the first time in the years since I started dating, I can see this relationship extending past school. And the fact that we could be together through college is reassuring. The girl I was with before now was with me for 5ish months. It was actually her who broke the relationship off though. But I can't say I'm upset about that.
TL;DR/Questions
1. Is it weird for a high schooler to date a college student? I will be turning 18 soon. But it seems a little odd to me.
2. Would it be weird dating, maybe even marrying someone who has the same last name as your stepfather(ergo, your mother too) and who might be related to him.
3. Advice for committing to this relationship?
I'll be happy with any help, and nonchalant with hate.
Thanks.
So, I'm in this situation with a girl where I want to ask her out on a date, but there's so much reluctance that I felt the need to seek advice from the internet.
I've done a bit of searching, and I have decided to post here.
I'm a 17 year old male who works as an apprentice chef at a rather large restaurant. I start work every morning at 6 and normally get off at 3(Six to noon I do prep in the back of the house, noon to three I work the line), sometimes I leave as late as 6pm, depending on how busy we are or if prep needs to be done after I work line. I will be a Senior in high school this upcoming year. The girl I'm interested in will be a freshman in college. She also works at this restaurant, not as a chef/cook though. I'm apprehensive because I'm not sure how socially acceptable it would be to date someone who's not much older than myself, but still somewhat across a social barrier(High school and "Real Life"). Not only this, but she has the same last name as my stepfather, and they may actually be related. On top of, I always hear about workplace love going bad, and then months of tension following. To be honest though, I don't see her unless we both happen to take breaks, or if I catch a glimpse of her seating some guests. She likes to visit me in the kitchen every morning. My coworkers like to taunt and tease me. But up until now I had a girlfriend that I was trying to stay with..
I have no apprehension towards actually asking her out, after all I can only be better off having done it and nothing would change should the answer be no. But, along with the above reasons, I know I have problems with commitment. And I don't know how to fix that. Some of my previous girlfriends have only lasted a couple days. Sometimes I've gone out and asked someone new out before breaking up with my current. I know, it's terrible and I'm a horrible human for treating women like pokemon. But sometimes I really can't help it. I know where it stems from, something I don't talk about. I just haven't been able to figure out how to change my mindset. Although, for the first time in the years since I started dating, I can see this relationship extending past school. And the fact that we could be together through college is reassuring. The girl I was with before now was with me for 5ish months. It was actually her who broke the relationship off though. But I can't say I'm upset about that.
TL;DR/Questions
1. Is it weird for a high schooler to date a college student? I will be turning 18 soon. But it seems a little odd to me.
2. Would it be weird dating, maybe even marrying someone who has the same last name as your stepfather(ergo, your mother too) and who might be related to him.
3. Advice for committing to this relationship?
I'll be happy with any help, and nonchalant with hate.
Thanks.