Is There a Chance for us...?

[AyVannah]

Okay, so my boyfriend and I have been together since February 3, 2013. At first it was amazing. Simply amazing. But then there were other girls he talked about an I don't know, maybe I was just overly jealous or something, but he got all pissy with me when I talked to him about how I felt. Don't get me wrong, he's not an insensitive jerk face. No. He's quite sweet. I don't really get why he got pissy :l anyways. Lately there was this other girl.. He talked about her a lot. And said he loves her the same as me. Well, I come to find out that he's seen her pleasure herself and they webcam while she's completely naked. It really hurts. I don't know what to do. I don't want to lose him but at the same time this really REALLY hurts...

[Melodic]

Seems like he's pretty much cheating on you or something around that. I say break up with him before you get hurt even worse.

[AyVannah]

I guess... But he's now saying that he's not gonna get with her because she had her chance and blew it. Should I still dump him...?
I mean, I've never actually felt this way before. The way I feel about him. I can't help feel its partially my fault...

[Cooper197]

Well, it comes down to the question of do you trust him? Do you believe him that she had the chance and blew it? Seems like he could be saying that to keep you around, pretty common among cheaters. Honestly, I wouldn't stick around.

[AyVannah]

I do trust him... But... Well... There were a few other girls. He doesn't talk to him anymore and I have a feelin this girl will be gone soon too. But there will always be another, it seems. He thinks he's joking around and being funny when he compares us. But he's stabbing me in the heart. With an icicle. So it melts and leaves no trace he was the one to do it e.e anyways. I'm tired of being second best (or, rather, feeling that way) but he says I genuinely make him happy and that I'm all he needs (haha .-. ) I'm hurting but it feels like I'm gonna be hurting even more either way...

[Jevon]

Just leave him if he is going to get all pissy and shit like that when you tell him how it makes you feel

[AyVannah]

Well... You're right. All of y'all are. I'm tired of coming in second best all the dang time -.-' next time I see him, I'm dumping his sorry cheating ass on the hot, hard concrete! >:l

[Meganium]

Well... You're right. All of y'all are. I'm tired of coming in second best all the dang time -.-' next time I see him, I'm dumping his sorry cheating ass on the hot, hard concrete! >:l

I agree with all of the above posters.

Just be sure that you explain why you are leaving him when you do. This way you have one last shot at getting the truth before you dip. (Not saying don't dump him, just get the truth.)

[AyVannah]

I will, no worries :) thank you all.
Gosh, I'm just so tired of all the heart ache he's caused me. Both in the past and now. I am done (unless I chicken out...)

[Jevon]

Well... You're right. All of y'all are. I'm tired of coming in second best all the dang time -.-' next time I see him, I'm dumping his sorry cheating ass on the hot, hard concrete! >:l

Now that's what I like to hear lolol

[AyVannah]

Haha, I can be pretty kickass when I wanna be! X) this whole things really pissing me off now. Ill talk to him about it calmly..... But after that 2 minutes is over, he is IN for it! xP

[ValerieR10]

i had that problem too. i told him how i felt and he stopped talking to her. FINALLY. well you have to tell him is it gonna be me or her? let him answer. if he says her, leave him. you deserve better. and if says you, make him stop talking to her. i know how it feels, just be glad that you dont hurt him like that. i hope everything goes well. stay strong, love.

[AyVannah]

i had that problem too. i told him how i felt and he stopped talking to her. FINALLY. well you have to tell him is it gonna be me or her? let him answer. if he says her, leave him. you deserve better. and if says you, make him stop talking to her. i know how it feels, just be glad that you dont hurt him like that. i hope everything goes well. stay strong, love.

Thank you so so much :) I'm seeing him tomorrow. And you've given me the perfect way of dealing with this :)

[ValerieR10]

no problem. i hope it goes well. and just try to control temper. lol i know its hard especially if it involves jealousy. just tell me what happens if you can

[AyVannah]

I will try my hardest. I'm half Irish though and apparently I've got my granddad's temper >.< but I will try to show constraint lol.

[Jevon]

Oh yah ask him that first and I guess you could give him a little while to actually decide but since he got all pissy the first time idk because it's just wrong to do

[AyVannah]

I'm not giving him time. Well. Maybe a few minutes. Or if I'm feeling nice, I'll give him a day or so... But after that, I'll need his decision or I'm leaving him. I feel as if I've been taken advantage of. X.x

[Jevon]

Yah it sounds like it

[AyVannah]

Good news is, I feel better now. About all if this. You all are awesome ^.^

[AyVannah]

He...didn't seem to care....:/

[Meganium]

He...didn't seem to care....:/

Then your decision to back out is correct. Nothing further to worry about.

[AyVannah]

Yeah. Wow. I can't believe this...x.x...
He chose me, but he was just... I don't know.... Indifferent...?

[Jevon]

Ohhh what an ass so did you do it???

[AyVannah]

Yeah. I dumped him.

[Meganium]

Yeah. I dumped him.

Good. Sorry you had to go through that.

[AyVannah]

It's whatever. Guess I'll hafta get over it... Yeah...? ^^

[Meganium]

It's whatever. Guess I'll hafta get over it... Yeah...? ^^

Yep. And you will.

[AyVannah]

I really hope so.
Thank all of you so much. Really. Thank y'all. :)