it doesnt get better you liars

[AdolescentBoyBlue]

It gets better as you get older..no.no it doesnt in fact every year i progress further dow then line to a new level of depression. 6th grade depression 7th anxiety 8th cutter 9th family n i dont talk for a couple of years 10th first suicide attempt 11th mental break down become a stoner sent to therapist. 12th 2nd mental break down 2nd suicide planned hospitalization released 10 day later momth later became a nihilist. JUNE2013 push away friends and family
Freakin liars and tired of people saying oh its just a phase.people have it.worse. dont compare situations because its not the same jerks

[Its Pretty]

They want to make themselves feel better, not you.

[Ashleigh]

i know how you feel. every year has gotten worse for me too and it annoys me when people compare and say you dont have it that bad. they dont know what you have been through. they dont know how much an individual can take before they snap cause everyone is different. if you want someone to talk to then i am here ok?

[Jessiibear]

Frankly, I agree...and I HATE that: "Oh! Stop your whining. Others have it way worse than you." Well, okay. So I haven't lost all my limbs or got raped in the front or watched several people die before my eyes in the hood, haven't gotten shot or stabbed, haven't been shoved into lockers or stuffed into a microwave or stove as a kid. So what, I've never been in the army or lost a parent. Does that really, honestly, make my problem any less of a problem? We're all different. All we know about how someone feels on the inside is how they express it. We can't actually feel what they feel.

This guy who's like in his twenties told me that it never gets better and that people just say that to make you feel better. That they're just being nice. I wouldn't know, but maybe try looking at the little things. When you were younger, where were you exactly? And how has it changed now? Example: When I was 13, I was forced to leave my mum in a different country and go live with my abusive dad. It was hell. But now I live back with mum, even though I'm still very miserable. See where I'm going with this? There's gotta be something...even if it's very small. When you look at the big picture, and sum everything up, you go Okay, yeah, my life is shit and always has been shit. Just try looking at it differently, more thoroughly, I guess.

I'm here if you need me.

[AdolescentBoyBlue]

I also havent noticed that the bullying i endured by my brother and our friends has greatly affected me even though.they didnt know that im gay, and one of the more crappy things that im not proud of is that i use sex as a way.to feel good about.myself im such a dumbA

[Ryhanna]

I'm sorry that you have to feel this way. No one deserves that. :(

In my experience, people only say 'it gets better' to give you hope. The truth is, it doesn't always get better. They want it to get better, but that's not always how it works. But what else can they say, really? Trying to support someone going through these sorts of problems must be hard, and there's really not much they can do other than give you a tiny little bit of hope. :(

I really hope it does get better for you, Ramses. I'm not saying it will get better, I just hope it does, no matter how long it takes. We're all here for you, man.

[AdolescentBoyBlue]

I'm sorry that you have to feel this way. No one deserves that. :(

In my experience, people only say 'it gets better' to give you hope. The truth is, it doesn't always get better. They want it to get better, but that's not always how it works. But what else can they say, really? Trying to support someone going through these sorts of problems must be hard, and there's really not much they can do other than give you a tiny little bit of hope. :(

I really hope it does get better for you, Ramses. I'm not saying it will get better, I just hope it does, no matter how long it takes. We're all here for you, man.

I have very little hope,im actually getting a tattoo that says whrn in darnkness look for the light follow the fireflies,i cant believe i actually want to go to school right now i feel like an object taking space my craving for cigarettes or other stuff has risen /:

[Austins]

things only get better if you make them better.

[AdolescentBoyBlue]

things only get better if you make them better.

I obviously tried ive done everything i could that was legal

[Abyssal Echo]

things only get better if you make them better.

that's a load of BULL SHIT ! I've done my part to make things better. like the op I gone to see my Psych gone to counseling taken my meds and I'm no better in fact prob worse then I was.

it'll get better. biggest lie I've ever heard

[AdolescentBoyBlue]

that's a load of BULL SHIT ! I've done my part to make things better. like the op I gone to see my Psych gone to counseling taken my meds and I'm no better in fact prob worse then I was.

it'll get better. biggest lie I've ever heard

Thank you! Ive done the same.meds dont work anymore,therapist dont knowbwhat they are doing and talking about it to your family doesnt work eithet >:(

[Austins]

that's a load of BULL SHIT ! I've done my part to make things better. like the op I gone to see my Psych gone to counseling taken my meds and I'm no better in fact prob worse then I was.

it'll get better. biggest lie I've ever heard

I've been through this just as bad and have tried to commit suicide three times, You an make yourself better by persevering through everything. The moment YOU lose hope is the moment YOU die. In the end only YOU can choose how your depression takes a turn on your body. You'll fail of course but you KEEP TRYING.

[Moondust]

Uh, well it got better for me. I'm happy I had depression. Made me into the creepy person I am! :) *pulls out knife with eyes turning red*
Look, it only gets better better if you make it. Man up, your almost an adult. You can't expect those who were trying to help you to do anything more for you if you call them such names. It's your mind, it's your fault for not pulling yourself out of your emo slum to stop thinking so much about how pointless life is and start thinking about how to help change the world which is clearly facing crisis. Since you will be old enough for a job, why not help make the world a better place to help prevent others from having to go through what you did and stop wasting your time getting angry over the emotions you as an individual should deal with and not force on kind people. I still have nightmares every night and have been for 3 years nonstop. I didn't try to kill myself because I'm stronger than to think so much about my own selfish desire to end it all and not what the people I haven't even met yet will miss.
It doesn't get better. You just have to let it all go and proceed to something of more importance than yourself.

[thewhiteyeezus]

To me, it only gets better when u think its getting better, sure some may think reality is harsh, but this is right and wrong. I would think you would have a counselor or a person to talk to. If not get one because they may just hopefully change your view of life. To sum it up if u think life sucks then it sucks, if you love it, its going to have its ups and downs but you will deal with these and be happy. Trust me i have depression and contemplated suicide but i realized is it really worth it? Its not trust me, as long as you can verbally express your pain or even write it down and show it to someone they will help you.

[Mob Boss]

You know what, I'm just going to be frank; This is turning into a big wallow session where people are taking turns saying, "Yeah, life never ever gets better".

LET'S EXAMINE A FEW THINGS FOR A SECOND!
1.) None of us here even know much about"life" yet. We're all in our teens so saying life never gets better is complete invalidated, equivocal statements some of y'all are making. No, we do not know that life doesn't get better. Giving it a year or two or even three to completely change directions may be high expectations.
2.) You can't generalize. Yes, for some and most it does and will get better. Everyone has a different story, different demons to fight, struggles their going through, etc. All of it is part of life. It's bound to happen. In a perfect world, life wouldn't even be perfect. We can either choose to sink or swim.
We can tap out and give up and call BS or keep fighting. What's so bad about continuing to fight? Life is worth it, so I see no reason not to fight.

I understand things are rough. Things have been worse than rough for you. And seem to have only escalated. However , is that to say life never gets better? No, that means it hasn't had time to get better yet. No, people don't just say it does to give you hope, to hear themselves talk or to make you feel like someone cares. Some may, but there are too many success stories to ignore and say people are lying. They aren't. I know from experience. I've made friends on here that know from experience. It isn't a lie. The bottom line is you can either sink or swim. You can continue searching for happiness, contentment, bliss, or you can give up because it's getting too hard and people don't understand. If they don't understand, MAKE THEM UNDERSTAND. Tell them what you're feeling and why you're feeling it. Who cares what they think of you?! That would be fighting for what is rightfully yours by any means possible -- that means fighting for your life.

[Yugen]

It's never gotten better for me either, but I think that what they really mean is that you get stronger.

[Croconaw]

Things are getting better for me. It could happen. I mean, anything's possible...

[uglyinsideandout]

things only get better if you make them better.

Well that's a refreshing point of view... :(

[jayyy-lmao]

I know how this feels. My life seems to get progressively worse too. People say it gets better to give you hope. I know I need hope to get by. If you think of it as a rough patch that you can get through, you will get through it. It doesn't get better for everyone but for most people it does. Just remember hat if you keep going it will get better. We aren't lying. It's always darkest before the dawn, and it will always be hardest before it gets easier. It will be at it's worse before it gets better.

[Bobbybobby99]

My life has not gotten better, actually gotten worst, but I admit that while I only have a snippet of life under my belt, it sure is a rather bad snippet. A snippet involving me having to get help after my father attempted suicide by cutting his balls off, me attempting suicide, my clinically insane mother harassing me by email, and much, much more. So while I don't know if life does get better, you have to wonder if it will be worth it.

[teen.jpg]

When someone tells you "You can't be sad because somebody has it worse", tell them "You can't be happy because somebody has it better."

[Apathy15]

Things only get better for some people....you can make things better but if u have the resources to make them better....

[numbness]

When I'm in a dark place everybody tells me that to feel better I have to think positively well guess what I havnt got a positive thought left. what is the point in being "positive" when every day you feel a little bit shitter. I'm here if any of you guys want to chat to a person that won't judge you

[Fanta_Lover44]

For some it gets better, some just put a plaster on the issue that keeps peeling off and the cut just gets bigger and bigger, not everyone can make things better. With me I'm in a dark tunnel with light at the end.. not a lot but I can never reach it, no matter what I try...... IM here for you if you want to chat.

[Yugen]

When someone tells you "You can't be sad because somebody has it worse", tell them "You can't be happy because somebody has it better."

THIS THIS THIS THIS THIS <3

Sorry, I get a little excited over perfect quotes sometimes.

[Syvelocin]

I used to feel just as bitter about that phrase. Then it finally did get better. The issue is, you can't really say it doesn't get better until you die lol. I'm a VT vet and it started getting better about three years ago, though only officially got better last month when I found the truest happiness I've ever felt. A month after my 21st birthday. I'll even bet you I'm an early bloomer. It took me thirteen years of therapy with a bunch of backslides when I went to the hospital (honestly, meds and hospitalization make everything worse. I got very dark after I left the psych ward the first time) to get here, and all I really have is a one bedroom flat in the right part of this country and my partner at my side.

The rest of it is in your head. One of the most helpful things I learned in outpatient at the eating disorder clinic I went to for about a year was how to rewire your brain. They talked about this in inpatient but I didn't have the emotional maturity yet. Basically, if you tell yourself something often enough, you can start to believe it. This can be a negative thing in many people's cases, but if you stay positive, it can make a big difference. I started pretending I was confident, and eventually I got confidence. "Better" is a mindset. I forget who posted it, but yeah, I have to agree you can only get better if you believe you have/can. Even though I've been struggling for many years, I got over my hopelessness very quickly, and most of it I spent very hopeful although with low self-esteem.

And yeah, agreeing with another post, you gotta make it better. Work with the things you can't change and change the things you can, including your mindset, emotions, and reactions. This is CBT territory. This, I really don't know if you can do on your own, but it's worth a shot. I was first hospitalized when I was thirteen and I kept hearing that term, CBT. Thought it was bullshit until outpatient last year. Like, how can the little girl who's been the squishiest fucking bug since she was a toddler ever grow a shell, ever learn to change? It's definitely possible; I'm living proof.

[1_21Guns]

The reality is, and from talking to people I know with depression, no, you're right, it doesn't 'get better,' depression is a mental illness, and recovering is simply learning to cope, learning to deal with your feelings, and in my case learning to accept that sure, I do have a pessimistic onlook on life because of what I've been through, but that's okay. There isn't a quick fix, if you want to get really technical there isn't even a fix, it's not about things 'getting better' it's about learning to deal with things, it's about changing how you look at life, we can all sit there and dig our graves moaning about how it'll never get better, lie down in the hole we dug with our eyes shut and complain about how dark everything is, but that's not going to get you anywhere but stuck in that hole.
It's perfectly okay to find things frustrating, it's perfectly okay to find recovery frustrating, it's perfectly okay to feel the way you do, but if you want things to seem better, you have to look at them differently, you have to admit you're finding things frustrating and approach them differently, say to yourself yeah this situation that I'm in sucks, but I want it to improve so one way or another it will.

[Sudds3]

It gets better as you get older..no.no it doesnt in fact every year i progress further dow then line to a new level of depression. 6th grade depression 7th anxiety 8th cutter 9th family n i dont talk for a couple of years 10th first suicide attempt 11th mental break down become a stoner sent to therapist. 12th 2nd mental break down 2nd suicide planned hospitalization released 10 day later momth later became a nihilist. JUNE2013 push away friends and family
Freakin liars and tired of people saying oh its just a phase.people have it.worse. dont compare situations because its not the same jerks

I know a lot of people say that it will get better or that it will get better over time and that is correct, partly. They leave out a big part, you have to work to get better. You can't just sit back and wait for it to get better because it will swallow you whole and take you to even deeper. I believe you have been working but you need to work a lot harder. Especially if it is really bad.

I have been in a few places that you have been and I've gotten out of hard times. Im not completely healed yet but i am getting there. I check VT at least once a week so PM me if you want help. We aren't liars, its just really hard to convey these feelings and how to get better because its drastically different for everyone. But having other people to help can help you find the way for you to get better and listening to other people's stories can help inspire you to think of the correct formation of words that can appropriately convey your feelings so that other people can help.

It will get better, if you put in the effort. It may sounds simple but i am going to be brutally honest, its not. It takes energy that you probably don't have so the first thing you need to do is get a person you can talk to daily and face to face. In other words, try and get your friends back. That sounds like a good place to try and start to me.

I am here if you need me, good luck and feel better.

[Luminous]

No. It gets better for a while and then comes back worse. We just say it gets better because human beings naturally lie.