Help! Crumbling relationship.

[lildill]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year and a half now. When we hit a year our relationship got very rocky! We haven't really gotten out of the rocky place yet. Things will get better and then be bad. I have trust problems with him! I've caught him in multiple lies. He's never cheated on me as far as I know, he has cheated on pretty much all his ex girlfriends,so him cheating is a huge concern for me!!! My boyfriend and I clash quiet a but when it comes to "values " and things like that. He loves drinking and getting drunk, I hate being around drunks ( he get mean when he's drunk), he's a bit racist and I can't stand it. I dint understand the point of being racist and I find it extremely rude and disrespectful. Recently I tried to talk to him about some stuff that bothers me and it's like he didnt care. We don't really talk about our problems because it causes more then fixes them. We fight instead of have a conversation , I feel like he never listens so what's the point in telling him. I have tried helping our relationship by any means, he says he wants us to work but when it comes down to it he won't help work on us with me. Please any help, advice, tip, anything, would be great!

[LunarScorpio]

pull out of it for a while, then get back once things get a bit less rocky.s

[Its Pretty]

Give him a really big hug, maybe he just needs some luv

[Melodic]

There's no point of being in a relationship if it isn't even a relationship. He seems like he doesn't respect you, and guys with no respect can go even worse than that. I say get out of the relationship before it goes too far.

[Meganium]

There's no point of being in a relationship if it isn't even a relationship. He seems like he doesn't respect you, and guys with no respect can go even worse than that. I say get out of the relationship before it goes too far.

This. If he's gone this far with you, and he is unwilling to cooperate, it's time to back off. At least for a bit.

[Jevon]

Just let him go if that's how you guys are with each other then you shouldn't be together it just won't go well in the future

[Synyster Shadows]

I'd let him go, if I were you. This guy sounds like a total asshole. A good boyfriend/girlfriend should be respectful, caring, and pull his weight.

[LifeOfLove]

I agree with the others, get away from him for just a bit. I don't think there is much of a better way to teach somebody to respect you other than to make them see what they can lose by not. So, if it were me, I'd pull out. Although it may not be real easy, only talk to him when he's going to respect you, and when he stops being respectful, you stop talking and leave. Let him realize what he is missing, and give yourself a chance to see how you really feel about him and the relationship. An important question to ask yourself is if you actually love him, or just love the idea of being with him. There is a small but VERY important difference here, and until you can confidently say the first one without lying to yourself, I don't think it's a relationship worth having.
That's just my $.02, take it or leave it! :)

[batwomr.smithshane]

My boyfriend and I have been dating for over a year and a half now. When we hit a year our relationship got very rocky! We haven't really gotten out of the rocky place yet. Things will get better and then be bad. I have trust problems with him! I've caught him in multiple lies. He's never cheated on me as far as I know, he has cheated on pretty much all his ex girlfriends,so him cheating is a huge concern for me!!! My boyfriend and I clash quiet a but when it comes to "values " and things like that. He loves drinking and getting drunk, I hate being around drunks ( he get mean when he's drunk), he's a bit racist and I can't stand it. I dint understand the point of being racist and I find it extremely rude and disrespectful. Recently I tried to talk to him about some stuff that bothers me and it's like he didnt care. We don't really talk about our problems because it causes more then fixes them. We fight instead of have a conversation , I feel like he never listens so what's the point in telling him. I have tried helping our relationship by any means, he says he wants us to work but when it comes down to it he won't help work on us with me. Please any help, advice, tip, anything, would be great!

It seems he doesnt respect you and if he doesntt have respect why does he deserve a respectable woman?