can't I make real friends anymore.....

[Nekroshade]

I don't know how to start.... okay so I'm not good with making friends with people. Like we could be in a room for 2 days straight and unless I had to which I won't (I've become very good at entertaining myself) i wouldn't say anything to you unless you made the first move no matter how much I'm telling myself in my head to strike up a conversation. I wasn't always like this I was normal (besides ADHD of course lol) I had 2 great friends(bestfriend to the end) and lots people I just cool with or whatever we lost touch. I've always been crazy about American football and been on a team.

But my whole personality changed when I moved to Baton Rouge in the 6th grade. I wasn't use to the ghettoness of Baton Rouge schools so I shut my self off from the others. They would try to bully me (name calling, knocking my stuff down, stupid stuff like that) keep in mind I'm 6 foot 187 pounds I let it go until I snapped one day and couldn't take it anymore I told myself enough was enough and going into 9th I wouldn't take any crap I beat this kid so badly I broke 3 fingers in my right hand. I only got suspended for 4 weeks which was a relief because I could've went to juvenile and I had to take some anger management classes. But I wasn't angry I was lonely my family is wonderful we fuss and fight but I don't know where I would be if I didn't have that support system. People were literally scared of me and nobody talked to me I stopped wanting to go to school my 9th grade year I went maybe 30 days the whole year. So I finished up that year at home. The next year I moved in with my grandparents they lived in my hometown. But after years of being to myself I couldn't break it so I didn't make any friends even on my football team we would go to parties and stuff but we weren't like friends. I don't know I wish I was more outgoing and not so damn awkward . I've got/given oral from girls but I've never had a girlfriend either. I don't know I think I'm just going to get a puppy......

Anyone else like this?? Thoughts/comments good or bad all are welcome.

[Nekroshade]

I sound so whiny that wasn't my intentions sorry if it comes off like that. Just had to get this off my chest.

[Sara97]

Sounds like we have a lot in common! I'm from Louisiana and will probably be moving back to Baton Rouge next year. I've never been one to have many friends, I kind of keep to myself. And I'm not looking forward to this year because I won't have anyone now that my best friend moved. I think the most important thing is to see yourself how others would and if it disappoints you, change that in any way you can. I have been working on that. I am learning to accept myself so that others can. But I also know that with time the right people will come along so it doesn't bother me too much. I think you just need to understand who you are. And I'm not trying to give you the whole "be yourself" bullshit, but I know that for me, learning to do what I want to for me has been the first step to finding friends who are genuine...good luck. You're not alone out there.

[Sara97]

Sounds like we have a lot in common! I'm from Louisiana and will probably be moving back to Baton Rouge next year. I've never been one to have many friends, I kind of keep to myself. And I'm not looking forward to this year because I won't have anyone now that my best friend moved. I think the most important thing is to see yourself how others would and if it disappoints you, change that in any way you can. I have been working on that. I am learning to accept myself so that others can. But I also know that with time the right people will come along so it doesn't bother me too much. I think you just need to understand who you are. And I'm not trying to give you the whole "be yourself" bullshit, but I know that for me, learning to do what I want to for me has been the first step to finding friends who are genuine...good luck. You're not alone out there. Oh yeah, and Geaux Tigers ;)

[Nekroshade]

Sounds like we have a lot in common! I'm from Louisiana and will probably be moving back to Baton Rouge next year. I've never been one to have many friends, I kind of keep to myself. And I'm not looking forward to this year because I won't have anyone now that my best friend moved. I think the most important thing is to see yourself how others would and if it disappoints you, change that in any way you can. I have been working on that. I am learning to accept myself so that others can. But I also know that with time the right people will come along so it doesn't bother me too much. I think you just need to understand who you are. And I'm not trying to give you the whole "be yourself" bullshit, but I know that for me, learning to do what I want to for me has been the first step to finding friends who are genuine...good luck. You're not alone out there. Oh yeah, and Geaux Tigers ;)

Personality wise I'm cool just gonna have to work on the outgoing part. Being the lone wolf is cool until it's not lol. Baton Rouge is cool I just can't deal with some of the drama from people. What school are you going to be going to the only good public one I can think of is Central. Anyways good luck next year you'll be fine you seem like a good person. Laissez les bons temps rouler

[Sara97]

I'm hoping to get into Baton Rouge high with my grades...that would be nice...I just don't know how my chances would be as far as waiting lists and whatnot. If not then probably central. And I get what you mean about the lone wolf thing. I have kind of always prided myself for not going along with the in crowd, but it gets kind of lonely. But hey, we'll face it together :)

[annakatherine]

Many people struggle with making friends, so you're not alone. People who already have lots of friends are sometimes averse to the idea of letting more people into their little "group".

I guess just be nice to people, go places where you'll meet people, and if you become friends with enough people, there must be a few good ones in there somewhere!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dgw4BW8Qj9U

[Luminous]

Yes get a puppy! I don't have many friends but in a way thathas always been my choice. As a homeschooler I am often paired with other homeschooling kids that are the perfect examples of stereotypes- nerdy, no sense of style, etc. I am different. I wear skinny jeans and makeup and jewelry. I hate math. I did not really agree with the people I am given the opportunity tobe friends with. So I don't have any. However unlike you, I am pretty good at talking to people, I have been to a lot of interviews and things like that as an actor. It's all about the confidence. Why not talk? Why not socialize? You don't have a legitimate reason. So do it!

[Fanta_Lover44]

You're not alone....I only have one friend who I know who will be there, apart from that socializing to make more is hard for some people. Just try and open up and start talking to people, I managed it after ages of siting in the dark. You can do it ;)

[Croconaw]

Don't worry. I can definitely relate. A lot of the time, I feel like I don't have any real friends. It can really suck, but I know you'll get through it. I have a dog and it really helps. :)

[Annonymous1997]

Many people struggle with making friends, so you're not alone. People who already have lots of friends are sometimes averse to the idea of letting more people into their little "group".

I guess just be nice to people, go places where you'll meet people, and if you become friends with enough people, there must be a few good ones in there somewhere!

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dgw4BW8Qj9Uis that a video to try and help people or too get people interested into buying a book?