I wish I could "un-meet" him just to not worry about losing a great friend...

[Dawn01]

I have this guy, he is one of my best friends... The problem is that I fell in love for him and now being friends with him is just not enough :(

We kissed last year, I was the one to take the iniciative of kissing and he answered it, but then he told he was going out with another girl, which made me really mad because I didn't knew it. We had some fights but we became friends again.

Ok, now he is in college and I'll begin college in August. He has been really busy and he almost never answers his phone or text me back. He has a lot of problems with his family too, his parents are divorced, his brother has severe depression problems and he has a 6 year old little sister. I know all his problems, but still... I just feel in the right place when I'm with him.

Yesterday he came to my home, we were walking through the neighborhood, he talked about his college (he is a biology student) and how he is worried about the future, when I suddenly feel a some kind of "wave of excitment", I don't know, I just got real horny and I pushed him against the wall! He was all like "No, please, I can't do this to you, I can't have a relationship right now" while I was like trying to kiss his lips and kissing/bitting his neck (Oh God :whoops: )... HE WAS GOING CRAAAZY, and while telling me to stop "Seriously, I can't, it's not going to end up well". I kept teasing him like crazy and he said "Seriously, it's not that I don't want, I just can't... Look, we are good friends, we've already have problems, I can't give you all the attention now, you'll be sad and you will be angry at me, it will end up bad! Don't do this to me, I can't, I just can't right now".

I felt really sad because of it, and he seen to be surprised about my sadness ("Hey, I didn't want to make you sad, I just... I just can't, you know? It's not a good thing to do now, I can't focus on a relationship now, please understand") I said that I was never been refused and he said "I'm not refusing you, I just don't think it would end up fine, I've lost many female friends because I kissed them but I couldn't give them many attention, I'm not saying that it'll happen to you, I just don't want that to happen because it have high chances to happen! You are so nice and I'm here visiting your home... Please, stop, I don't wanna feel like I'm taking advantage of you, because you are not some random girl to me" **Ok, remembering those words almost brought me tears now**

F#ck, I'm head over heels for this guy, I'd do everything to be with him, I'd wait a million years if I could be sure that he would be there for me! I wanna help him and being with him is what I want the most now :( I do love him as friend, but I know that want more than this. At the same time, I don't wanna lose him as friend, but I think the risk is something I have to take... I wish I could just un-meet him, so this risk wouldn't exist!

What are your opinions? I want to say to him what I feel about all this, but I think need some advice. He doesn't believe in "friends with benefits", we would only be or my friend or my boyfriend.




I'm afraid I'll end up giving him a blowjob or having sex in the next time we see each other, because seriously, I've been away too horny and he can't resist that much ;S

[Melodic]

I know the feeling of falling in love with your best friend, and it can be tough. He said doesn't want to have a relationship with you right now because he's afraid with all that's going on, it will ruin what you guys have. So there are options you can take to it. You can either wait for him and be there for him and see if it ever progresses, or you can just move on, go to college, and start a new life. This is from personal experience of my best friend. He wasn't ready for a stable relationship with me either, but overtime things will change.

[Dawn01]

I know the feeling of falling in love with your best friend, and it can be tough. He said doesn't want to have a relationship with you right now because he's afraid with all that's going on, it will ruin what you guys have. So there are options you can take to it. You can either wait for him and be there for him and see if it ever progresses, or you can just move on, go to college, and start a new life. This is from personal experience of my best friend. He wasn't ready for a stable relationship with me either, but overtime things will change.

Yeah, I don't know, it's just hard to keeping looking at him and pretending I feel nothing :(



I would take the risk just because I think it's better try than keep thinking "what if...", I'm just afraid I'll deeply regret this if the things go wrong. Do you guys think I'm being too impulsive? I don't know, I think about the whole situation as it is a math problem, and I think the best solution is try, so we can say "at least we tried".

[Dawn01]

No more tips/advice? Oh God, I just feel really lost sometimes :/

In the last I talked to him (we talked in the phone), he said that he has been thinking about this, but he doesn't know when he will make a decision. It's crazy because I just said that I wanted to kiss him (OK, I tried to kiss him), and he just came with this talk about serious relationship... I don't know if I should feel glad about this or not >.<

[unnamed94]

hes probably feeling pressured to make a decission. put yourself in his place. he ceratinly values your friendship and doesnt want any possible relationship to end up badly and then he would also (most likely) lose you as a friend. just wait for him to think about it. dont have sex with him or whatever you are thinking could happen, that will just confuse him even more

[Dawn01]

hes probably feeling pressured to make a decission. put yourself in his place. he ceratinly values your friendship and doesnt want any possible relationship to end up badly and then he would also (most likely) lose you as a friend. just wait for him to think about it. dont have sex with him or whatever you are thinking could happen, that will just confuse him even more

The tension between us has been so crazy that it's just hard not to go with the flow and do something sexual :rolleyes: Not that I'm complaining, cause it is surely a good thing, it means we have chemistry!

I actually admire how he is being cautious about it... He is such a nice guy! It makes me love him as person even more *-* The problem is that I wish I wasn't his friend so I could be his girlfriend with no worries ;/ Anyway, he deserves to be happy no matter if I won't end up being his girlfriend!

I shall wait to whatever he decides...