I've Been Holding This In From All of You. Please Help. What do I do? :(

[PinkFloyd]

I had been with my girlfriend, Mariah for 2 years, 9 months, and 4 days. Well it's all over because she is moving to to Malaga, Spain. She of course didn't want this. She had no choice. Her Mom was offered a higher paying job there, so they had to move. Her parents never did like me hanging around her. They thought the relationship was harmless when we were in 7th and early 8th grade, but once the middle of our 8th grade year hit and we were both 14, they started to worry that we weren't just hanging out and riding bikes and stuff like that and that we moved on to..... other things. That was correct of them to think that.

On Novemer 11th, Mariah and I both announced to both our parents that we had been having safe sex for the past 8 months. My parents said they were happy that we did the adult thing and told people. Her parents said the same thing, trying to play along and not sound like the true up-tight people they are and that inside they were mortified. I would have been more suspicious because I really wasn't expecting the outcome of them beeing all too cheery at all. It's just that we had been given permission to bang, and it didn't have to be a big deal.

As some time went by, I guess her parents talked to my parents asking them to not allow me to have sex with her any more. So yeah, they told me a few months ago that I couldn't do that with her any more. I obviously didn't didn't listen. Honestly, what teenager like me would? But yeah, eventually we got caught by her parents. I was caught on I think June 15th. and then when I got home, my parents grounded me for 2 weeks. I was never allowed to see her after that. It's been about a month, and we've only seen each other about 5 times total, and that required like days of planning.

I found out she was moving last Monday that she was moving to FUCKING EUROPE, and I just decided to deny it as much as I can. It's finally sunk in that I will most likely never see her again because she is leaving this Saturday. :(

I never cry, but Damn..... :(

[Meganium]

I had been with my girlfriend, Mariah for 2 years, 9 months, and 4 days. Well it's all over because she is moving to to Malaga, Spain. She of course didn't want this. She had no choice. Her Mom was offered a higher paying job there, so they had to move. Her parents never did like me hanging around her. They thought the relationship was harmless when we were in 7th and early 8th grade, but once the middle of our 8th grade year hit and we were both 14, they started to worry that we weren't just hanging out and riding bikes and stuff like that and that we moved on to..... other things. That was correct of them to think that.

On Novemer 11th, Mariah and I both announced to both our parents that we had been having safe sex for the past 8 months. My parents said they were happy that we did the adult thing and told people. Her parents said the same thing, trying to play along and not sound like the true up-tight people they are and that inside they were mortified. I would have been more suspicious because I really wasn't expecting the outcome of them beeing all too cheery at all. It's just that we had been given permission to bang, and it didn't have to be a big deal.

As some time went by, I guess her parents talked to my parents asking them to not allow me to have sex with her any more. So yeah, they told me a few months ago that I couldn't do that with her any more. I obviously didn't didn't listen. Honestly, what teenager like me would? But yeah, eventually we got caught by her parents. I was caught on I think June 15th. and then when I got home, my parents grounded me for 2 weeks. I was never allowed to see her after that. It's been about a month, and we've only seen each other about 5 times total, and that required like days of planning.

I found out she was moving last Monday that she was moving to FUCKING EUROPE, and I just decided to deny it as much as I can. It's finally sunk in that I will most likely never see her again because she is leaving this Saturday. :(

I never cry, but Damn..... :(

Well, not that this is the most effective way of keeping you happy while staying on everyone's good side, here's my suggestion:

Do what you've done before. Defy your parents and keep in touch with her at any cost. If her parents disapprove, so be it. Clearly you won't be able to see her, but keeping contact and making sure your love for her stays apparent us all that matters.

Hope things get better, mate.

[Plane And Simple]

I had been with my girlfriend, Mariah for 2 years, 9 months, and 4 days. Well it's all over because she is moving to to Malaga, Spain. She of course didn't want this. She had no choice. Her Mom was offered a higher paying job there, so they had to move. Her parents never did like me hanging around her. They thought the relationship was harmless when we were in 7th and early 8th grade, but once the middle of our 8th grade year hit and we were both 14, they started to worry that we weren't just hanging out and riding bikes and stuff like that and that we moved on to..... other things. That was correct of them to think that.

On Novemer 11th, Mariah and I both announced to both our parents that we had been having safe sex for the past 8 months. My parents said they were happy that we did the adult thing and told people. Her parents said the same thing, trying to play along and not sound like the true up-tight people they are and that inside they were mortified. I would have been more suspicious because I really wasn't expecting the outcome of them beeing all too cheery at all. It's just that we had been given permission to bang, and it didn't have to be a big deal.

As some time went by, I guess her parents talked to my parents asking them to not allow me to have sex with her any more. So yeah, they told me a few months ago that I couldn't do that with her any more. I obviously didn't didn't listen. Honestly, what teenager like me would? But yeah, eventually we got caught by her parents. I was caught on I think June 15th. and then when I got home, my parents grounded me for 2 weeks. I was never allowed to see her after that. It's been about a month, and we've only seen each other about 5 times total, and that required like days of planning.

I found out she was moving last Monday that she was moving to FUCKING EUROPE, and I just decided to deny it as much as I can. It's finally sunk in that I will most likely never see her again because she is leaving this Saturday. :(

I never cry, but Damn..... :(

So sorry to hear this Rob...

Best advice I can give is always keep in touch with her. Via Skype or phone or whatever. But never let her go. If when you're talking to her your parents ask you what are you doing, don't be afraid to tell the truth, and remember it's never bad to cry a bit. It'll relieve you.

I'm here to talk man, really sorry to hear this.

Stay strong.

[PinkFloyd]

So sorry to hear this Rob...

Best advice I can give is always keep in touch with her. Via Skype or phone or whatever. But never let her go. If when you're talking to her your parents ask you what are you doing, don't be afraid to tell the truth, and remember it's never bad to cry a bit. It'll relieve you.

I'm here to talk man, really sorry to hear this.

Stay strong.

My parents do understand that I'm hurt, and they don't care about the sex. They just wanted to respect her parents' request.
I'm not giving up easily. I will move to Spain after I graduate to see her.

[Plane And Simple]

Look. Málaga is 3h from where I live. If you come sooner or later, drop me a message.

[Synyster Shadows]

Sorry about that, Rob. But like others have said, it's definitely a good idea to keep in touch with her, especially if you've been together for that long. Do whatever to keep in touch with her and keep your head up. You'll see her again.

[PinkFloyd]

Look. Málaga is 3h from where I live. If you come sooner or later, drop me a message.

Well I'll be active on this site until I'm in my early 20's, so yah.

[Plane And Simple]

Well I'll be active on this site until I'm in my early 20's, so yah.

Good luck man, you deserve all the best. Just keep in touch and don't give up. You'll see her sooner or later.

[Meganium]

My parents do understand that I'm hurt, and they don't care about the sex. They just wanted to respect her parents' request.
I'm not giving up easily. I will move to Spain after I graduate to see her.

I admire your devotion, man. Truly.

You two still definitely see each other before then. Nothing to worry about.

[teen.jpg]

This is quite painful to read, and I don't know what you must feel like right now, but I'm going to give you the best advice I can. And I'm going to be harshly blunt, but I think you need it.

You're 15, you WILL get over it. When you put your whole life into perspective, including your future, your relationship is a small portion of it. There's other people out there, you just gotta find em'.

I'm pretty sure she doesn't want you to feel crappy about this when you can be happy and enjoy your life. Because happiness is what life is all about.

[PinkFloyd]

This is quite painful to read, and I don't know what you must feel like right now, but I'm going to give you the best advice I can. And I'm going to be harshly blunt, but I think you need it.

You're 15, you WILL get over it. When you put your whole life into perspective, including your future, your relationship is a small portion of it. There's other people out there, you just gotta find em'.

I'm pretty sure she doesn't want you to feel crappy about this when you can be happy and enjoy your life. Because happiness is what life is all about.

That is 100 % true. I will get over it even though I don't believe it. It's just hard for now.

[Plane And Simple]

That is 100 % true. I will get over it even though I don't believe it. It's just hard for now.

Just keep in mind that getting over something is not forgetting. You'll get used to only being able to chat with her via phone etc, but I know you won't forget about her. Cheer up man. Be sure to make this "Talk to you soon" something to remember :)

[chezhans]

All I can say is two things:

1) Congratulations on a VERY VERY long lasting relationship!
2) Stay strong. Sounds very difficult but you'll pull through. All part of life.

[PinkFloyd]

Just keep in mind that getting over something is not forgetting. You'll get used to only being able to chat with her via phone etc, but I know you won't forget about her. Cheer up man. Be sure to make this "Talk to you soon" something to remember :)

Thanks, that is true, but there is one thing that I possibly won't have ever again, and that's like seeing her in person. There's no physical relationship any more. If I see her over Skype, I'm afraid it'll just be a huge teaser for me.

[Plane And Simple]

Thanks, that is true, but there is one thing that I possibly won't have ever again, and that's like seeing her in person. There's no physical relationship any more. If I see her over Skype, I'm afraid it'll just be a huge teaser for me.

Sorry to say you're wrong. Who told you you won't come to Spain to see her in person? :) I know that it's bad but what you can do is try and see that you're not loosing her forever. He may go back to your place in holiday, or you may come in holiday to Spain, which is kinda normal for English and american people to do.

Not everything's lost man, you have to try and cheer up.

[PinkFloyd]

Sorry to say you're wrong. Who told you you won't come to Spain to see her in person? :) I know that it's bad but what you can do is try and see that you're not loosing her forever. He may go back to your place in holiday, or you may come in holiday to Spain, which is kinda normal for English and american people to do.

Not everything's lost man, you have to try and cheer up.

Yeah, you're right. Her parents do absolutely hate me for what I did though...

[Plane And Simple]

Yeah, you're right. Her parents do absolutely hate me for what I did though...

I don't think that's a problem if you want to meet her. I'm sure they'll let you see her if you knock on their door in Málaga.

[ElectricStar21]

Wow, what a story, Rob. I hope the best for both of you and that you two can once again meet. If you love her that much, you'll get her back. Best of luck man.

[OrKing]

Damn, I'm sorry man. I can say that long distance relationships aren't so bad though and if you really do want them to work they do. I've been in a LDR for nearly eleven months now and it's gone pretty awesomely. We have ups and downs like every relationship but I honestly believe we have far more good times than we do bad and the good days always outweigh the bad ones. It's a good test of love as well man, if you both really want it to work it will. Once again though, I'm sorry bro, it can't be an easy thing to go through. Oh, and as a fellow dude who finds it extremely hard to cry to the point of it being frustrating I'd say if you feel like you need to and you can, go for it. It always seems to make things a little better and help put things into better perspective on the rare occasions I've been able to cry.

[PinkFloyd]

Damn, I'm sorry man. I can say that long distance relationships aren't so bad though and if you really do want them to work they do. I've been in a LDR for nearly eleven months now and it's gone pretty awesomely. We have ups and downs like every relationship but I honestly believe we have far more good times than we do bad and the good days always outweigh the bad ones. It's a good test of love as well man, if you both really want it to work it will. Once again though, I'm sorry bro, it can't be an easy thing to go through. Oh, and as a fellow dude who finds it extremely hard to cry to the point of it being frustrating I'd say if you feel like you need to and you can, go for it. It always seems to make things a little better and help put things into better perspective on the rare occasions I've been able to cry.

Wow, what a story, Rob. I hope the best for both of you and that you two can once again meet. If you love her that much, you'll get her back. Best of luck man.

All I can say is two things:

1) Congratulations on a VERY VERY long lasting relationship!
2) Stay strong. Sounds very difficult but you'll pull through. All part of life.

Sorry about that, Rob. But like others have said, it's definitely a good idea to keep in touch with her, especially if you've been together for that long. Do whatever to keep in touch with her and keep your head up. You'll see her again.

Thanks for all your support, guys. It really helps. I'm not giving up.

[Bilbo Baggins]

Keep in touch. I have nothing else. Sorry man

[LouBerry]

I had been with my girlfriend, Mariah for 2 years, 9 months, and 4 days. Well it's all over because she is moving to to Malaga, Spain. She of course didn't want this. She had no choice. Her Mom was offered a higher paying job there, so they had to move. Her parents never did like me hanging around her. They thought the relationship was harmless when we were in 7th and early 8th grade, but once the middle of our 8th grade year hit and we were both 14, they started to worry that we weren't just hanging out and riding bikes and stuff like that and that we moved on to..... other things. That was correct of them to think that.

On Novemer 11th, Mariah and I both announced to both our parents that we had been having safe sex for the past 8 months. My parents said they were happy that we did the adult thing and told people. Her parents said the same thing, trying to play along and not sound like the true up-tight people they are and that inside they were mortified. I would have been more suspicious because I really wasn't expecting the outcome of them beeing all too cheery at all. It's just that we had been given permission to bang, and it didn't have to be a big deal.

As some time went by, I guess her parents talked to my parents asking them to not allow me to have sex with her any more. So yeah, they told me a few months ago that I couldn't do that with her any more. I obviously didn't didn't listen. Honestly, what teenager like me would? But yeah, eventually we got caught by her parents. I was caught on I think June 15th. and then when I got home, my parents grounded me for 2 weeks. I was never allowed to see her after that. It's been about a month, and we've only seen each other about 5 times total, and that required like days of planning.

I found out she was moving last Monday that she was moving to FUCKING EUROPE, and I just decided to deny it as much as I can. It's finally sunk in that I will most likely never see her again because she is leaving this Saturday. :(

I never cry, but Damn..... :(


Oh God Rob. I am so fucking sorry. If you need to rant and rage about it, I'm always here.

[PinkFloyd]

Oh God Rob. I am so fucking sorry. If you need to rant and rage about it, I'm always here.

I'm doing my best to get over it. The pain isn't as bad as it was the day that she left. That saturday, I layed on my bed the entire day doing nothing but staring at the ceiling.

But that was then and this is now. I'm feeling a little better. I talked to her over skype which is monitered by her parents. We plan to meet when both of us are adults and out of highschool. Her parents can't keep us apart as adults.

Thanks for the reply. :)

[LouBerry]

I'm doing my best to get over it. The pain isn't as bad as it was the day that she left. That saturday, I layed on my bed the entire day doing nothing but staring at the ceiling.

But that was then and this is now. I'm feeling a little better. I talked to her over skype which is monitered by her parents. We plan to meet when both of us are adults and out of highschool. Her parents can't keep us apart as adults.

Thanks for the reply. :)

I'm glad you're handling it positively. Hang in there.

[PinkFloyd]

I'm glad you're handling it positively. Hang in there.

I'll do my best.

[LouBerry]

I'll do my best.

Like I said, I'm always here if you need someone to talk to.

[PinkFloyd]

Like I said, I'm always here if you need someone to talk to.

Thanks. :)

[Laquifa]

Oh my... I am so sorry to hear that ): Feel free to tap my PM's if you need about anything (:

[Steve Jobs]

Thanks, that is true, but there is one thing that I possibly won't have ever again, and that's like seeing her in person. There's no physical relationship any more. If I see her over Skype, I'm afraid it'll just be a huge teaser for me.

And that's what will make you two closer than ever, if you fight through these struggles and make it through.

Cheer up buddy, I don't know if you need advice more than you need time to step back and take a breather. :beerchug: