Dominant/Submissive

[Cognizant]

Just a few questions.


What would you consider yourself?

Do you think it really does have an effect on a relationship? In other words, do you think there needs to be one dominant and one submissive figure in a healthy relationship?

Have you been in a relationship where you've been a different character than you'd like to? (for example, you consider yourself submissive but you've been in a relationship(s) where you've had to be dominant.)


Thanks for your feedback!

[Its Pretty]

You can change things up from time to time, flip a coin to see who's on top :D Who knows, you might discover a part of yourself you didn't know existed! In the long run, it doesn't matter as long as both individuals know what their partner wants. And I suppose I would consider myself dominant.

[MoonMan]

I would consider myself neither, as I don't really try to be dominant or submissive. It's more situational than anything I suppose, I can be dominant at times and submissive at times. A lot of the times when I'm a bit submissive to the girl are usually because A) she has tits B) she'll probably just outsmart me anyways C) she really is the dominant figure or D) she has tits. A and D seem to be recurring reasons in my experience.

[Cognizant]

I'm bringing this thread back for a few reasons.

1) i made the thread when i was going through a semi-abusive relationship with someone - they expected me to be dominant regardless of how i felt. coming out of the relationship, my perspective on dominance and submission has changed: it's okay to be both.

I personally think that for me, though, i'm generally a pretty submissive person, regardless of the relationship type I have with someone (friendship, classmate, romantic partner, etc). maybe this will change, but idk. It's been a big enough struggle to find someone to date, let alone one who isn't open to change...

[Gamma Male]

I've never really had a boyfriend or anything, but when I do get one I'll probably be the submissive one. Which is no big surprise, given my parental issues.

There's just no way I could handle being the dominant, supportive one in a relationship right now.

[Blood]

Are we talking sexually and generally?

I don't know. I can be a bit of both at times.

[Abyssal Echo]

Generally I'm more submissive.
I can be either one Depending on the situation

[ElectricForest]

I like "wearing the pants" in a relationship, but I do know my limitations.

[Hollywood]

I'd consider myself a submissive person in general. I tend to put everyone else's wants and desires above my own, but hopefully any relationship I find myself in will be fairly leveled.

[ozteen]

l'm neither really...

[Horatio Nelson]

In general I am more submissive, but it depends upon the person/situation.

I have no idea sexually though. I would like to think dominant.

[Dalcourt]

I may come off as dominant and somehow aggressive on the outside but as a whole I'm more of a submissive nature. I want to please everyone and put the wishes of others above mine. I feel bad when I have to make decisions, I always long for a strong person by my side to tell me what to do...I'm okay with depending on someone...So yeah, I'm outwardly dominant but if you know me you find that I'm a submissive person.

[Lovelife090994]

I am so shy that I'd probably be submissive.

[bob97]

Regular life probably neutral. But in bed submissive for sure. I'd much rather the girl be on top and ride