Get the feeling i'm not liked/loved

[clueless_one]

I just don't understand why this happens. Everywhere I look I see families being loved and in my school guys and girls in relationships, guys having friends and doing things on school holidays, and I don't have any of that.

Every time at school a lot of guys blame me for doing things and I am the one who looks bad. Like for instance, someone took a guys phone, the guy who owns the phone asked who took it everyone said that it was me who took the phone and then the person who owned the phone started searching my pockets (putting their hands in my pockets) hitting me asking to give his phone back and I said that I didn't have it.

Also, one day I arrived back from a great school excursion and when I found the boys who are from my group, they saw me and ran off away from me. Am I some kind of monster that this happens to me. :(

Then there is the girls i've liked. I had asked out a girl who had said yes, then she said she didn't want to go out with me. Then with another girl I like was with her friend walking the way I was walking after talking to them, they saw I was walking their direction and moved and walked in another way. Then there was a subject lecture and the girl I like asked where the lecture was and I asked her where it was. I then asked her if she does the advanced subject and she said yes (when I knew she didn't), but at the end she still went but went with a girl friend to the same lecture i was at. It seems girls don't want others to see them with me. Again am I some kind of monster. :cry:

Even my parents don't show any love towards me and help me. They only push me around and expect me to shove my head into my school work and only study. They don't even support me and help me. All they do is say that other relatives who have studied where i'm from did their studies and that I should do my studies. My parents also don't seem to have fun and take me to sporting matches because they expect me to do my school work.

I watch parents having fun with their teenage children in movies and television shows, that is the type of love I want :cry: Because I don't have this love, I want to try and get a girlfriend but they all see me like some kind of monster. :cry: Also being an only child I don't have anything to do none of my friends invite me to anything, also with them running away from me and acting like i'm some kind of monster. Its like no one wants others to be seen with me. The thing I always say is why? :cry:

I just want to be liked and loved and to also love others to be in a relationship.:( :cry:

All the girls I see go with other guys and never me, its like their scared of being with me and don't want to be seen with me. I'm a really nice guy and i don't concentrate on sports but on my school work (my parents push me even more). All the girls seem to go for the guys who do sport in the school and piss others off, these are the other ones who bully me and treat me like crap. Doesn't a girl want someone who tries hard at school and trying to get into a good job not someone who concentrates on their sports all the time. I dress well and have showers everyday.

I just don't understand what to do. :cry: Please help? :cry:

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Just be yourself. The right people will come along eventually.

[Trenton_]

I just don't understand why this happens. Everywhere I look I see families being loved and in my school guys and girls in relationships, guys having friends and doing things on school holidays, and I don't have any of that.

Every time at school a lot of guys blame me for doing things and I am the one who looks bad. Like for instance, someone took a guys phone, the guy who owns the phone asked who took it everyone said that it was me who took the phone and then the person who owned the phone started searching my pockets (putting their hands in my pockets) hitting me asking to give his phone back and I said that I didn't have it.

Also, one day I arrived back from a great school excursion and when I found the boys who are from my group, they saw me and ran off away from me. Am I some kind of monster that this happens to me. :(

Then there is the girls i've liked. I had asked out a girl who had said yes, then she said she didn't want to go out with me. Then with another girl I like was with her friend walking the way I was walking after talking to them, they saw I was walking their direction and moved and walked in another way. Then there was a subject lecture and the girl I like asked where the lecture was and I asked her where it was. I then asked her if she does the advanced subject and she said yes (when I knew she didn't), but at the end she still went but went with a girl friend to the same lecture i was at. It seems girls don't want others to see them with me. Again am I some kind of monster. :cry:

Even my parents don't show any love towards me and help me. They only push me around and expect me to shove my head into my school work and only study. They don't even support me and help me. All they do is say that other relatives who have studied where i'm from did their studies and that I should do my studies. My parents also don't seem to have fun and take me to sporting matches because they expect me to do my school work.

I watch parents having fun with their teenage children in movies and television shows, that is the type of love I want :cry: Because I don't have this love, I want to try and get a girlfriend but they all see me like some kind of monster. :cry: Also being an only child I don't have anything to do none of my friends invite me to anything, also with them running away from me and acting like i'm some kind of monster. Its like no one wants others to be seen with me. The thing I always say is why? :cry:

I just want to be liked and loved and to also love others to be in a relationship.:( :cry:

All the girls I see go with other guys and never me, its like their scared of being with me and don't want to be seen with me. I'm a really nice guy and i don't concentrate on sports but on my school work (my parents push me even more). All the girls seem to go for the guys who do sport in the school and piss others off, these are the other ones who bully me and treat me like crap. Doesn't a girl want someone who tries hard at school and trying to get into a good job not someone who concentrates on their sports all the time. I dress well and have showers everyday.

I just don't understand what to do. :cry: Please help? :cry:

You don't have picture posted so we don't know what you look like and you say people run away, so we can't help you with that part, but if you saw a scary person, you'd run away too, so work on not scaring people.

Sports are very important for several reasons, one is that you're a part of something and you're fit. You can under stand that dating someone who only goes back and forth to school and study isn't the most fun thing for a girl right?

You're probably missing the social skills that you could learn from sports and you end up putting people off and then you only study, so you're a loner and to girls they don't want that.

I don't get your parents, seems like they should be nice to you. Ask your friends what you should do differently.

[clueless_one]

You don't have picture posted so we don't know what you look like and you say people run away, so we can't help you with that part, but if you saw a scary person, you'd run away too, so work on not scaring people. I'm nice to everyone so weather they are ugly, look nice or scary. I'm nice to everyone. If I wanted to be in a relationship with a girl I won't want a ugly girl. But scary girls or nice girls are alright.

Sports are very important for several reasons, one is that you're a part of something and you're fit. You can under stand that dating someone who only goes back and forth to school and study isn't the most fun thing for a girl right?

You're probably missing the social skills that you could learn from sports and you end up putting people off and then you only study, so you're a loner and to girls they don't want that. well I don't do sports but I attend a youth group and the girl I like also likes the sport I like to watch. So of cause I have things to do not only school work and homework. But seriously what girl doesn't want a guy who doesn't do their school work well and just tries to do sport and piss others off. (Those are usually the people who do sport I know, the people who bully me are the ones who do sports). Isn't it also a bonus if the girl you like also has things in common with you so you can go to events you both enjoy. Just tell me if I'm wrong, but not doing sports is not such a big thing if you have things to do like youth group and enjoying watching sports especially if the sport is also enjoyed by the girl you like. Also I'm a fit person, I don't really do much exercise but I do push ups and walk to and from school everyday so I consider myself as a fit person. Its my final year of school so I would rather concentrate on my school work.

I don't get your parents, seems like they should be nice to you. Ask your friends what you should do differently. All my friends do is bully me and think its fun. Sometimes its fun sometimes its not. So I can't talk to my friends for advice for my parents because I get bullied and annoyed sometimes by a few of them.

[Castle of Glass]

Hey, firstly: :hug:
I know what you mean. I am in a sport(wrestling) and i know people, but the thing is, i can't trust any of them. I get verbally bullied nearly everyday, and you would be surprised. I am 6'2", weigh 220lb, so you would think i am a "badass bully" but in reality, i am just a caring person. I don't have a group of friends to be with during school or out of school. Yes i know girls, but i know all of them think i am not good looking enough. I have a friend, but in reality the two of us are only friends because we both know our way around a computer, and that friendship is pretty much falling apart.

My family is another story. My mom thinks that i need to study, study, and study some more. No fun for me. In her opinion i would be a better person if i didn't have a computer. My dad just bosses me around. Do the dishes. take out the garbage. Clean that up. DO that, to this. As for my brother, the only thing he does is yell at my parents. and at me. never anything kind. There is nothing i can do. the rest of my family lives on the other side of the world.

I guess it doesn't help that i am a stranger and an outsider everywhere i go. i have moved more times than a lot of my teachers. But because all this, I have become harder. hiding my emotions. not letting anything in or out.

-Niilo789

[Castle of Glass]

no one ever wants to hear this but... be glad you have someone that cares enough to yell. i only have 1 parent now and she forgets me more than remembers. i kinda like it that way cos i get to do more of what i want but at the same time it sucks to know your truly alone in the world.

ha. he only yells at me when i am in the way. so not too sure.

[Castle of Glass]

that may only be how it seems idk but you always have a chance to make a better relationship with him mine is dead so there is no chance.

sorry for your brother, but my brother is a jerk, he makes me do everything, he doesn't do anything for himself. While i am stuck in summer school, he is of in finland and rubbing it in my face.

[clueless_one]

sorry for your brother, but my brother is a jerk, he makes me do everything, he doesn't do anything for himself. While i am stuck in summer school, he is of in finland and rubbing it in my face.

You have brothers...Well, I have... Nothing. No Brother or sister.

[removeddddd]

Talk to people who have the same interests as you, that's a good way to make friends

[clueless_one]

Talk to people who have the same interests as you, that's a good way to make friends

well the girl who I like now has a few of the same interests as me. But i'm not sure if she likes me back with the issues that have occurred. http://www.virtualteen.org/forums/showpost.php?p=2407211&postcount=1