I need help

[Bornin96]

Hi guys, I'm 16 years old, almost 17. At this point in my life I'm pretty unhappy. Most of my friends have distanced themselves and now I'm left with very few friends. It's summer and I barely spend time doing anything, I don't have my license yet and I live in a rural town so I can only hang out with neighbors because my moms working so I don't have anyone to drive me anywhere (single mother). My neighbors don't even really wan to hangout with me considering I'm always the one who has to contact them. No one else ever calls me and I'm not the type of person to start relationships with my acquaintances whom I only chil with due to mutual friendships. I've never had a girlfriend and I don't even talk to one girl. It makes me feel like I'm hopeless when it comes to having a relationship because I have no experience and wouldn't even know where to start. Ugh life is just so boring right now and I really wish I had people to spend time with but I know I'm just too boring. I've had a rough past (father committed suicide) and I don't know if this is the reason I can't hold relationships. It really tears me apart that I've never had a girlfriend and that i don't even talk to any girls, it's not that I'm weird because I make people laugh and I'm generally liked in school, its just that no one attempts to make conversation with me so I don't attempt to talk to them. Please, any advice for a lonely teen looking to make some friendships would be appreciated. How do I just start making friends? I can't just talk to random people. More importantly, how can I start talking to girls, I think by this time all the girls in my school think I'm socially awkward when that's not true, I just can't initiate conversation.

[Bornin96]

Can anyone help me?

[Browny]

It really just comes down to talking to random people that's just the way making friend works, same with talking to girls you just gotta get out there.

[aprilshowers]

Hey, I feel your pain with the whole relationship thing. Almost 18 years now, and I'm completely boyfriendless. Never even been asked out. So I can't really give you any advice on that front, but at least you aren't alone. Maybe we have anti-pheromones?
And if it makes you feel better, I can't drive either, and I've already failed the test twice. So I get the whole stranded at home feeling.
Anyways, my best advice for you is start doing something. Anything. My thing is theater and music. It really helps to have something in common to talk about with people. It's hard not to make friends and interact in group activities like that.
And this will might make me sound like a complete jerk, but whatever. You know the phrase "Man proposes, God disposes?" I don't know for sure what it's supposed to mean, but I always figure that it means that nothing will happen unless you make an effort to make it happen. You want to have friends? Go out there and be a man who proposes. I know it can be nerve-racking, but you won't make friends unless you initiate those conversations. You seem likable enough to me, so just go out there and give it your best! All you can do is put in your best effort, then life will take care of the rest.
And no, you're not boring. Just a little insecure. So go on and make some friends. I'm cheering you on.

[aprilshowers]

Hey, I feel your pain with the whole relationship thing. Almost 18 years now, and I'm completely boyfriendless. Never even been asked out. So I can't really give you any advice on that front, but at least you aren't alone. Maybe we have anti-pheromones?
And if it makes you feel better, I can't drive either, and I've already failed the test twice. So I get the whole stranded at home feeling.
Anyways, my best advice for you is start doing something. Anything. My thing is theater and music. It really helps to have something in common to talk about with people. It's hard not to make friends and interact in group activities like that.
And this will might make me sound like a complete jerk, but whatever. You know the phrase "Man proposes, God disposes?" I don't know for sure what it's supposed to mean, but I always figure that it means that nothing will happen unless you make an effort to make it happen. You want to have friends? Go out there and be a man who proposes. I know it can be nerve-racking, but you won't make friends unless you initiate those conversations. You seem likable enough to me, so just go out there and give it your best! All you can do is put in your best effort, then life will take care of the rest.
And no, you're not boring. Just a little insecure. So go on and make some friends. I'm cheering you on.