social issue - quietness, logical v. emotional mind

[jteurolda]

i'm not an antisocial person at all. a lot of people would normally call me "quiet". but I'm never nervous to engage in a conversation with someone. I feel like where the problem lies is during casual conversation; like normal things teens would talk about. a lot of times when someone says something to me that's just a casual or humorous suggestion, I'll laugh and go along with it and say "yeahh hahah". and this isnt all the time, but frequent. on the other hand, Ill get deeper in conversation when were talking about something that actually requires objective to think about. this has kind of revealed to me that I'm a logical thinker. and i feel like a lot of the reason why Im not present as much in casual talk.
and even sometimes I feel like Ill do really well and lighten up a lot, but only during these rare times where Im not inside my head, and during these times, you can even ask people, ill be saying goofy shit, be loud and completely opposite. I feel like the majority of the time though, I'm too much in my head and the normal troubles happen. and what sucks is that gets even worse if I sleep less then i should. then im literally like a zombie

I just need some tips on how I can get out of my logical mind, and be able to flourish in casual conversation. I know theres ways to practice it, and I know its possible for me to achieve it. both my parents are very outgoing, and my siblings definitely show a difference from me. so i know i can get there if i try hard enough.

and sorry if this seems at first like it shouldnt be in "mental crisis". but i can say that the problem has mental origins. and it is something that bothers me a lot when I feel like I can change it.

any help anyone could offer would be much appreciated. THANKS

[CosmicNoodle]

Ye my mind is far to logical as well, for instance i can simply kill a conversation by talking. E.G.
Sam-hey Joe, why did the chicken cross the road?
Me- it must have escaped from its coop and is in danger in the road
Sam- *Sigh*

Luckily i managed to find friends with minds as logical as mine so we get on well.
But as for talking to other people who don't suffer from logic listen to other people conversation, analyse it and figure out what made it tick, that's what i did and it usually managed to work out fine.

But that's about all i can help you with i am afraid...i do wonder sometimes "where has all the logic gone from people"

[Yugen]

I understand. I find it hard to engage in regular conversation with people because I think more deeply and logically. Maybe you could try to find other people who are like-minded?

[figaro42]

You can't give this explanation to everyone you meet, and giving the wrong impression of yourself is not your goal I believe. Get out of your comfort zone and practice, initiate the casual talk yourself and loosen up.
Most relationships start with casual talk and then become complex. How can you expect complexity if you don't start with the simple?
It's like learning another language, can't hurt right?

[Versae]

Other people sometimes doesn't like to talk to me because I talk like real deep and emotions stuffs and they think I'm weird but other people can understand me too, no matter what I say even if it's too deep so I thought that just finding the right audience is much better that trying to fit into a conversation that you can't understand.

[teen.jpg]

Same. Didn't think there were other people like that. I think so much about a conversation that I end up saying nothing.

[sqishy]

The only way I can advise in getting out of your logical mind, is to delve into your feelings and emotions more, without suppressing them (if you already do that). Don't think about things, dive in and experience them.

It is a challenge, but it cleared an intrapersonal milestone for me.

[GuardianofReason]

I have the exact same problem. Casal convo isn't my strong point, especially since most of my friends are "logical" thinkers.

This may not be good advice, but it helps me. What I do is just say a few key words, and repeat what others say, and change it around.

E.G:

Guy: I like vanilla chocolate
Guy2:I like normal chocolate
Me:I like vanilla chocolate because....


I'm finding it hard to express my thoughts onto this keyboard. Hope it helps :/

[Tarannosaurus]

I have problems with normal conversations too, sometimes I say something other people don't understand and they look at me weirdly. Also when I try to take part in a 'normal' teenage conversation I keep thinking 'We sound so stupid' or ' this is really immature'. It doesn't matter with my close friends, they know how socially awkward I am. It's just with everyone else I have communication problems.

[Brice]

I'm a thinker and I've never had any issues being in my head. Just observe how people are and if they're sad or something, you can say what's wrong and use your thinking to help them if you can help. I find that it helps me to stay focused without being antisocial.