Houtz96
July 16th, 2013, 09:09 PM
So, I've recently gone to a "bro" night with a group of my friends. It was late and me and a friend were up by ourselves and started on the conversation of "reluctant topics".
He was talking about how his girlfriend (also a longtime friend of mine) and him were starting to think about having sex. This girl has been my good friend for a while;quiet, insecure, introverted, not someone who I'd think would have sex before marriage. Well, they are and that doesn't bug me, that's not it at all.
On the subject of "reluctance", I said I'd really think having sex would actually be fun, and I would actually be wanting to try that in some form sooner than later.
I've realized I've shadowed myself in the "oh there's no need to have a girlfriend because we'll probably break up before ever thinking about marriage or future lives", and now I've realized, I wouldn't mind having a girlfriend and getting into that sort of stuff.
Honestly, I really think I'm being selfish, and being a "guy" as some women would say, but I'm basing off the possibility of actually getting somewhere with the girl I would "end up dating". Meaning, I would actually want to have sex.
Sure, there are girls I find "attractive", but when it comes down to it, I do really push the possibility of having sex over other things. Not all, but some.
So, any advice? I know I sound like an ass saying all this, but any assurance would be nice :)
He was talking about how his girlfriend (also a longtime friend of mine) and him were starting to think about having sex. This girl has been my good friend for a while;quiet, insecure, introverted, not someone who I'd think would have sex before marriage. Well, they are and that doesn't bug me, that's not it at all.
On the subject of "reluctance", I said I'd really think having sex would actually be fun, and I would actually be wanting to try that in some form sooner than later.
I've realized I've shadowed myself in the "oh there's no need to have a girlfriend because we'll probably break up before ever thinking about marriage or future lives", and now I've realized, I wouldn't mind having a girlfriend and getting into that sort of stuff.
Honestly, I really think I'm being selfish, and being a "guy" as some women would say, but I'm basing off the possibility of actually getting somewhere with the girl I would "end up dating". Meaning, I would actually want to have sex.
Sure, there are girls I find "attractive", but when it comes down to it, I do really push the possibility of having sex over other things. Not all, but some.
So, any advice? I know I sound like an ass saying all this, but any assurance would be nice :)