I'm Gay, but don't know what to do with Friend- Please Read

[achris15mbi]

Hi Everyone! Wow, it's been a while since I have posted on here, but I do always check my messages and such. Now I'm 17 years old, and have figured out that I'm Gay. I have finally come to terms with it as well. But, my friend Paul, who I have been friends with since the 6th grade has recently made me question myself. WHen he gets high, or drunk, he is very horny. Or sometimes just randomly he does, but mostly when he gets high. The first time this happened we were at a sleepover, and I totally forgot that he had smoked weed before the sleepover. He asked me if I would ever give him a handjob and I said yes, (he is like almost my bestfriend, and he's pretty cute). So I did that, and after that we just hung out the rest of the night. The next day I texted him and we talked about it. he said that he would wanna do it again even if he isnt high. Last night he texted me and asked if I would "blow him" i replied yes, but if your high then no. He told me he wasn't high ( i knew that he was). My question is: is it wrong to do these things with him if he's high? is that considered taking advantage? he says he wants it, and that it makes him feel good so he doesn't care, but I'm not sure. Thanks for your help!
Chris

[Better Call Saul]

Sounds to me like he's the one taking advantage... I think he might be confused or something and is hiding behind being drunk or high.

if you're worried it might affect your friendship then start saying no

[Abyssal Echo]

Sounds to me like he's the one taking advantage... I think he might be confused or something and is hiding behind being drunk or high.

if you're worried it might affect your friendship then start saying no

I agree with Ben. sounds like he's the one taking advantage of the friendship.
if you are feeling bad about doing stuff with him then stop doing it.

[teen.jpg]

1. Yes, that is taking advantage of him, in a way.

2. I really hope you know there is a 99% chance this won't work out the way you intend it to. So you should make the decision in your mind now, do you want your friendship, or do you want to risk it all by doing sexual things with him?

[Nekroshade]

Maybe the weed is the way he is trying to come to terms with his sexuality. (I'm not a smoker so I just going on how I've seen people who have) While Cannabis dose make you more persuasive I don't think you lose the will to think on your own. You guys should talk about it and see where y'all wanna go from there.

[Morgoth42]

Sounds to me like he's the one taking advantage... I think he might be confused or something and is hiding behind being drunk or high.

if you're worried it might affect your friendship then start saying no

Agreed.

[achris15mbi]

Thanks guys! I talked about it with him the other night, and he said regardless of wether he is high or not he would still want to do these things. I told him that I had to think it through because he means too much to me as a friend to ruin it all by doing the sexual things i've actually wanted to do with him since the 8th grade. Hope I did the right thing
-Chris

[Nomad_X]

Sounds to me like he's the one taking advantage... I think he might be confused or something and is hiding behind being drunk or high.

if you're worried it might affect your friendship then start saying no

I'm in agreement with this also.