Obsession?

[Discomposure]

It's been a while since I've been here but I've recently got some feelings I can't control - and I'd like some advice.

I've recently started a new job (yay:yeah:) and there is this girl at work who I've got pretty close to.
Bearing in mind - I have a girlfriend who I've been with over 2 years now, and she also has a girlfriend.

Looking over my past, I've came to realise that I become attached to a certian individual and I centre everything I do around them. In school it happened with a teacher; I'd do things so that I'd have to see her or speak to her just to make sure she was thinking about me - if that makes sense!

Anyway.. recently this girl at work, I can't get her out of my head. I can't stop thinking what she's doing, if she's thinking about me, how I could get her to think about me, what I could do to make her happy, to make her like me etc. Thinking about things I can do to 'bump' into her just to be around her. Trying to change my shifts so I'm always working the same time as her. Wondering what she's doing when she's not at work - and loads more.
I can't sleep properly because all I do is think about her; I get sad knowing nothing could ever happen and get scared knowing nothing could ever happen and I'll feel this way forever.
Obviously I know how horrible and selfish this sounds as I have a girlfriend who I thought I loved; up until these feelings. I've always been so sure that I loved my girlfriend, there was a time I felt so low without her that I considered suicide - and now i'm feeling this way? I don't understand it and I know it's unfair because I shouldn't be feeling like this while I'm with someone.
I can never ever make decisions and I'd prefer another person to make them for me, even with little things such as 'what to have for lunch' ( I annoy people sometimes with the way i am) but recently all I wonder is what would this girl choose etc. I want her to make my decisions, I want her to know how happy I am when i'm around her.

Sorry, i'm confused. Why do I get stupidly obsessed over people? Is there anything I can do to stop it? I drove to her house the other day just sat outside wondering what she was doing. Everytime she touches me I just want to save the moment and remember it forever. It's really weird I know. Just want to know if there's anything I can do to stop all this.

[KAKY]

Well well well,firstly you can`t stop those feeling except if you`ll find someone better or you`ll have her,and the thing that you should do right away is telling your girlfriend about that or you can just tell her that you have to break up with her,but for the girl at work,you have to tell her your real feelings towards her,you really have to do so as soon as possible.
(Btw i`m like you)

[Discomposure]

This is exactly what I mean. I know I could never tell about these feelings as it would hurt her, my girlfriend and myself because she'd no longer have anything to do with me. At least keeping quiet I still get to work with her and be friends. I know how unfair it is on my girlfriend, I don't not care about her as I said before I've always been so sure about my feelings for my girlfriend even when she's done wrong in the past we've gotten through so much. I was hoping it was just a daft crush but I cant sleep or eat properly I need to get this girl out of my head because I know nothing at all can happen from it.

Thanks for the replies too, means alot x

[KAKY]

This is exactly what I mean. I know I could never tell about these feelings as it would hurt her, my girlfriend and myself because she'd no longer have anything to do with me. At least keeping quiet I still get to work with her and be friends. I know how unfair it is on my girlfriend, I don't not care about her as I said before I've always been so sure about my feelings for my girlfriend even when she's done wrong in the past we've gotten through so much. I was hoping it was just a daft crush but I cant sleep or eat properly I need to get this girl out of my head because I know nothing at all can happen from it.

Thanks for the replies too, means alot x

Hey i will tell you about my story ok,i was obsessed of a guy....the rest of the story is just like you,he has a girlfriend which that made me so so so sad,i tryed to contact him and be his friend,but he was to busy to notice that i`m here,i found out that he will never ever will be my boyfriend even at dreams,so i just tryed to make him out of my head,i failed but lately i found out that he is just a looser which that made me feel better.
I know that the Obsession is terribly hard,but your feelings won`t stop until you`ll find someone else or you`ll have her,Hey do you still love your girlfriend?

[KAKY]

i think you need to find something about you to focus on. other ppl can never make you happy. your obsessing about something that isn't even real. if you had her it wouldn't be magic and soon enough you'd move on to someone else to obsess over.

you have a lot of energy channel it into something good and healthy for you.

fwiw, i'm not a fan of bearing feelings to ppl when it won't help or will just cause sadness, so i wouldn't feel you should tell your girlfriend unless you want to end that relationship and i wouldn't tell the girl at work unless you plan to make a move and aren't worried to make it awkward if she rejects you.

Yeah yeah you are right^^ that made me feel good either thank you^^

[Discomposure]

Yeah I still love my girlfriend, my feelings haven't changed for her. I mean we argue but no more than other people in relationships. This is why I'm so confused because I feel the same way I do about my girlfriend but I can't get this other girl out of my head. I know nothing could ever happen, only in my imagination haha.
I just need to find a way to stop thinking about her because she seriously is all I have on my mind at the moment. I guess the hard thing is going to be sort of getting over something that was never there in the first place! Sound like a right weirdo but that really is what it's like, having to get over her..

[KAKY]

Yeah I still love my girlfriend, my feelings haven't changed for her. I mean we argue but no more than other people in relationships. This is why I'm so confused because I feel the same way I do about my girlfriend but I can't get this other girl out of my head. I know nothing could ever happen, only in my imagination haha.
I just need to find a way to stop thinking about her because she seriously is all I have on my mind at the moment. I guess the hard thing is going to be sort of getting over something that was never there in the first place! Sound like a right weirdo but that really is what it's like, having to get over her..

You know what? Try to know alot about her,mybe you`ll find out something bad about her and then you`ll hate her

[Discomposure]

I don't want to hate her, but I see where your coming from; try find something that will put me off.
Thanks all :)

[KAKY]

I don't want to hate her, but I see where your coming from; try find something that will put me off.
Thanks all :)

Excuse me i didn`t get it^^ ,what i was trying to do is helping you