How can I best break up with a girl softly?

[Jackinapickle]

Hello. As you may have guessed by my username, my name is Jack, and I'm in a pickle. Im gay and I go to an all boys catholic school, so there is no chance of me being able to come out openly to anyone (I've seen what happens to those unlucky enough to be outed). The other guys started to wonder why I didn't have a date for the school dance with our all girl sister school, so to save my skin I quickly sourced one I thought looked pretty (I'm sure she is I'm just not exactly an expert here) who we'll call Sue. The dance went well and she started calling me her boyfriend. So because I was looking for some extra safety I called her my girlfriend and tried to mention her after I did anything I thought was "too gay" in front of people. Eventually sue became my best friend. We just had so much in common, favourite books, tv shows, ideas on politics, family troubles, attraction to men... Which she doesn't know about. About a month ago she said she loved me, I managed to swallow my feelings and say I loved her. Recently we had sex and I just feel so guilty for 'being her first' under false pre tenses. I didn't mean to let it get this far, all I wanted was to not seem gay.

Since I first realised I was gay I've had this knee melting crush on a guy we'll call Andrew. He was just so nice and friendly, he played on my football team, was in my swimming team and lived in my street so on the way back from practice we often talked and had such great conversations. Over the winter break just passed we met at the park a block from our houses. It was sunny and we were playing footy with each other and when we both went for the ball, we kissed. I suppose I was to busy crushing on him to even think he felt the same way. When we hug and I hold him, it just feels so right, this is what I want, for as long as I can. This is the first time I've ever felt love, but I feel so guilty about doing this while I'm still technically together with Sue no matter how little I actually like her.

I need a way to break up with a girl without breaking her heart, and with out coming out, please help

Jack

[LydiaSmiley]

Hey :)..there is no way to break up with a girl softly especially while you were her first..the softer way would be to tell her u are gay..she will understand because the only problem with break ups are that people think the other person dont like them and prefer to be with someone prettier and stuff..so just go on and tell her softly you are gay..she will be fine...:)..hope i helped..:)

[unnamed94]

why did you let it go that far with sue? just tell her you are gay (as lydia said earlier). no need to keep on lying. you being her first and after leading her on she will obviously going to be hurt. theres no way you can avoid that.

p.s. just tell this guy how you feel about him. if he doesnt feel the same way and he is your friend, he wont make a big deal out of it or tell anyone else if you ask him

[Nekroshade]

Hooking up with sue, having sex with her, cheating on her with Andrew, and saying you loved her. Your in a HUGE pickle you should put all this lying behind you and tell the full truth too sue. You made your own bed now you have to lay in it. Not only for you but for everyone involved. Goodluck

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Make her break up with you? That way she feels better coming out of the relationship, and you get yourself out of the situation. It's a win-win.

[LouBerry]

First of all, you are a complete dick, people like you are the reason girls like me have trust problems.

Second of all, if this girl is your best friend, do you not fucking owe her the truth? You took this girls virginity, you need to tell her why you're leaving her.