No real friends.

[DanteZombie]

I'm 18 and I'm about to move into college. I have some really close friends who I talk to via text or facebook all the time and we talk about really personal stuff. However, the problem is that I don't feel like they are really my friends. We don't go out and hang out anywhere, mostly because I'm to nervous too. I feel like they are going to stop being my friends because I don't go hang out with them. I'm just a heavier set fellow, and a bit socially awkward, so the stuff they usually want to do end up embarrassing me.

This is getting real bad with one of my friends who I've known my whole life. We used to talk all the time, and during school we would go to a bookstore every so often and hang out. However, that was the issue, all we did was go to a bookstore. We stopped going ot actual places to hang out (like we used to). Now we don't talk that much (maybe like 2-3 quick conversations via text a week).

It just makes me angry and jealous that I'm seeing all my friends go out and hanging out with other people (esp my life long friend), and I'm getting shoved away. I know it is my fault, but I just don't like going out. I get sweaty REALLY easily, and I'm really big and ugly looking. I don't want to be friendless in college....and I really want to win back my life long friend (and maybe become best friends again).

Any advice on anything please.

[Austins]

Compared to the idea of just "lose some weight" I recommend finding friends who would support you and aren't that judgmental. I mean friends will tease abit, but good friends will stop if you tell them up front it's annoying. But if you do want to try and lose weight find friends who will help you.

[Dark Blue]

Yeah, find friends that are supportive. Also, I don't want to come off as offensive or what not but lose weight. It may help boost your confidence and not get jealous. I'm not toned, but all my friends work out and are quite toned so I know the feeling. I'm a go with the flow type person and I make more of a joke out of it so ^^. Just relax, try and get active.

[LouBerry]

Don't you worry about a thing. I'm a Senior this year, so I guess technically there is no validity to my statement, but when you get into college, holy shit things with be so much better. If you get out there and you talk to people and join a few groups, I promise, you will have friends, and not shit friends like we all have in high school, either.

[Santiago1618]

Add me and we can talk about this... I'm in a very similar situation :/

[annakatherine]

Losing weight might help your self confidence and then you'll probably feel better about yourself too. But in general, people who don't like you because of how you look just aren't worth it. Try to make some friends. If you're the type of person who waits around for people to make friends with you, then turn that around and you be the one to make the first move.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dgw4BW8Qj9U

[ElectricStar21]

Find friends that wouldn't care how you look or how your personality is. That's probably what it is. He's just afraid to tell. That's what it seems like to me. Hope this helps.

[DanteZombie]

Thank you everyone for your advice and tips! Ironically enough my friend who I've known my whole life sent me a text today asking to go over his house and watch that show together with him. That's something. Progress. Also I took people's advice and I'm starting to get over my shy nature and such. Thank you everyone again!