trying to have sex

[mynameisjane]

me and my boyfriend tried to have sex, but it really hurt because i couldnt stay wet, so he couldnt stay hard. he's tried fingering me before and it didnt feel like anything when he was touching my clit, it felt kinda good when he was inside, but i couldnt get off. its really disappointing to him, but i dont think its his fault. does this mean im not sexually attracted to him? is it normal to not stay wet your first time?

[ThatCanadianGuy]

This seems to be a pretty easy fix (I hope!). Of course you could use KY Jelly or some kind of lube to take care of the problem right away. But it also seems that YOU aren't getting much out of it for yourself. One of my main concerns is that both people are actually ENJOYING themselves. Do you masturbate? If so you can tell him how to masturbate you (communication is key!), and if you don't then I strongly recommend that you at least experiment on your own a little to figure out exactly what YOU like. With proper communication he just might be able to get you wet enough to not need lube!

Another way to maintain lubrication (your own) is foreplay (wow I sound like a sexologist lol). Just do something like a massage or something; maybe feeling or paying attention to your erogenous zones (look up erogenous zones on google) to help get you more turned on which should help with that. Good Luck!

[KatetheGreat]

I...have never had that problem.
Generally when a guy and I go at it, we're both turned on as hell.
So I'm always wet and he's always hard.

I was definitely wet my first time and he was definitely hard.

As for the fingering, have him use pointer and middle and move in and out very fast, sometimes massaging your clit.
I used to not get turned on by fingering until a guy did that to me.
I got scolded for being too loud. *blush*

[eskimogal700]

just try a lot of foreplay first

[ehhheydevin]

thats like my first time but he needed me to try another time i hated it the first time, looovvvveeddd<3 it the second:D

[just-another-guy]

i would say fore play and if that doesnt work and you still want to do it use lube thats a good sub

[nick]

me and my boyfriend tried to have sex, but it really hurt because i couldnt stay wet, so he couldnt stay hard. he's tried fingering me before and it didnt feel like anything when he was touching my clit, it felt kinda good when he was inside, but i couldnt get off. its really disappointing to him, but i dont think its his fault. does this mean im not sexually attracted to him? is it normal to not stay wet your first time?
Look everyone wants it to be perfect first time but its not like that for many people.

It sounds like you both need to relax, easier said than done. No one who hasnt been there yet will understand quite how desperately you want to be good for the other person (at least i hope you do), and quite what a barrier that can be to your own enjoyment.

Which would you prefer, someone who loves you learning with you how to make it work, or a professional with lots of experience just
going through the motions

[rubidoux]

Are you nervous or distracted when you're getting physical with him? That can have a lot to do with it. Someone at your age isn't going to need lube unless you have some kind of medical condition.

Sex is like a lot of things, it just takes practice. And unfortunately for us girls, your first few times are usually pretty terrible. After awhile you'll get more used to it and feel more comfortable, and it'll stop being so painful for you also. You just have to be patient, and try to relax and dedicate your full attention to the moment.

[Oblivion]

Please don't bump old threads. (Older than 1 month)
This is from 2008. Locking.