First Anal

[DanielleIU]

So my bf and I have been together awhile and he wants us to try anal sex. I am very interested but also scared. For girls who have tried it:

Does it hurt a lot the first time? Is it like, a screaming OMG hurt or just a little? (Sometimes we don't get lots of privacy.)

Does the pain last the whole time or does it get better?

What is the best position to try it in? I was thinking missionary b/c it is so intimate though doggy seems more natural.

Will I be sore after?

I know to use lots of lube, but what's the best kind for this?

Did you enjoy it the first time?

Any other info on what to expect would be appreciated.

[Taryn98]

Your best bet is to start by using your finger for a few weeks before you do it so you get used to it. But yes it will likely hurt but if you use lube, go slow, try to RELAX, and don't do it hard the first few times it won't be bad. Start slow and work up to harder or faster. After a bit you'll start to like it.

[GigglyAbby]

Honestly -- it wasn't much of an issue for me because we were slow -- he was gentle -- I was relaxed. As stated -- try to loosen it up yourself to help things out -- maybe use a toy and definitely have him finger you to loosen you up. Any water based lube like KY or the generic brand should work.

[CatieBi]

If you start giant yes it's goning to be a "screaming OMG" pain but if you work your self up and loosen up and never start going fast you want to get used to it slowly then work your self to go at a faster pace, a lube may also help out.

[ElliEvens]

Your best bet is to start by using your finger for a few weeks before you do it so you get used to it. But yes it will likely hurt but if you use lube, go slow, try to RELAX, and don't do it hard the first few times it won't be bad. Start slow and work up to harder or faster. After a bit you'll start to like it.

Probably the best advice I've heard. I just don't think anal is something you should try with a partner if you aren't comfortable doing it to yourself. This way you can go slowly and start with a finger then two, etc.... Also you can control the depth and speed. This is was i am doing cause i got super interested. Now i have been doing for a little while but still not with a boy yet.

Honestly, the way i've done it it has never really hurt. If it did i stopped.

[butterflykisses69]

Does it hurt a lot the first time? the amount of pain/discomfort depends on how much you worked up to the actual anal sex

Does the pain last the whole time or does it get better? it gets better

What is the best position to try it in? with you on top so you're in full control

Will I be sore after? somewhat

Did you enjoy it the first time? yes

[melissa13]

Hurt a little at first, got better, he was huge so when he went deep it was not real comfortable, now its no problem.

[Theekshana]

I'm not a great fan of it cos it always makes me uncomfortable afterwards. The anus is made to send stuff out, not to put stuff in. :)
It is enjoyable as well if you go slow. maybe u should just try it for the experience and see. As someone else said, use your finger first and prepare yourself. else it could be really bad as i found out the first time.

[graci]

I love it and often mbate analy lol

[Saraaaarrgh]

I love it but good advice is to take it slow the first time so u dont hurt urself

[HillaryLovesIt]

Does it hurt a lot the first time? Is it like, a screaming OMG hurt or just a little? Yes but like everyone else, go SLOW and try it yourself first. Don't tense your muscles it will get worse.

Does the pain last the whole time or does it get better? Nope once he is in and moving slowly at first the pain goes away and is replaced with mind boggling pleasure!

What is the best position to try it in? I was thinking missionary b/c it is so intimate though doggy seems more natural. Doggy, definitely doggy.

Will I be sore after? That all depends on how gentle he is with you.

I know to use lots of lube, but what's the best kind for this? KY

Did you enjoy it the first time? LOVED IT!!

[DanielleIU]

Thanks everyone for the posts. It sounds like most advice is to go slow, use lots of lube, and do some prep.......but even then, it's gonna hurt at least some, and maybe a lot. And the best position is either on top or doggy, and I might be sore down there awhile. But it is enjoyable too! Anything else I should know or do?

One thing that confuses me. Everyone says the first time is the worst, esp the first inch or two. That's prolly from the initial stretching, which eventually goes back to normal, right? But if it really goes back to normal, why wouldn't it hurt like that EVERY time? Is it because the first time is just such a new weird feeling and so it's a mind thing (and after that you know what to expect), or does the first time somehow change your body physically? That could make me think twice.

[SammyG17]

Its a mental thing, and its something your body has to get used to. it doesn't do much physical change if any, but it does get easier to relax. The more relaxed you are back there, the less pain you have initially. But that takes time...a few times, and needs to be practiced every now and then, to keep your body remembering how to relax/squeeze/open things.

The more exploration you do, the better you are. You can teach yourself how to relax and control things. Prep is really important to get clean. That alone will help you get used to the feelings of things, and help your inside stay moist/relax.

First time will suck. Second time will suck less. Third time will kinda suck. 4th time and you'll never want to go back to vagina.

[ShelleyCA]

for me, it has always hurt. i know some girls that love it though. ive heard you have to just relax and use lots of lube..

[Jennycool]

It sounds cool that you are going to try it. Do you know when you and your b/f are planning on it?

[Sandra Main]

I don't know if i would ever try it.
Sound to pain to me.

[kitten13]

i use my fingers and a small dildo. would like to try it one day.

kim

[Tina36DD]

Practice first by yourself and you will get used to what you like...when it's time for the real thing..go slooww and use LOTS of lube...I mean lots! Spit is not enough...trust me. I lost my anal V before I had regular sex. if done right its an amazing feeling and will only get better over time;) Enjoy..I know I do!

Its a mental thing, and its something your body has to get used to. it doesn't do much physical change if any, but it does get easier to relax. The more relaxed you are back there, the less pain you have initially. But that takes time...a few times, and needs to be practiced every now and then, to keep your body remembering how to relax/squeeze/open things.

The more exploration you do, the better you are. You can teach yourself how to relax and control things. Prep is really important to get clean. That alone will help you get used to the feelings of things, and help your inside stay moist/relax.

First time will suck. Second time will suck less. Third time will kinda suck. 4th time and you'll never want to go back to vagina.

I kinda feel the same way...I prefer anal over vaginal... it is amore intense O for me.....

[missy_moo]

Lube lube lube lube LUBE! You'll need a fair bit of it.

Totally agree that prep is needed. You need to make sure he's either wearing a condom or you've cleaned yourself out down there to stop things like infections. Even then, I still insist on condoms.

The first 5 times or so were horrible. It just didn't 'feel' right but I love the naughtiness of it and still wanted to keep doing it as a once off every so often. So I started just practicing by myself just using a dildo and working out at what angle etc
would make it feel better. Bingo! Totally agree I love it more than vaginal now.

[LaraE]

First it hurts a bit but when its in for some time and ass muscle start to tense it feels damn good. It's even stronger like vagina muscle i think. But can anyone tell me what is an Anal orgasm? I don't understand when people say i did have an anal orgasm because when i orgasm my ass is always contracting. So isn't every orgasm an anal orgasm?

[CCC1079]

Before reading these post I was against anal but after reading them I very curious. I still have my V card but I might have to try this one day.

[Jennycool]

Jamie, you think you will try it first? Have u ever used a finger when masterbating?

[CheekyLinda]

I know it's not the same, since I am a lesbian, but I love to penetrate myself anally when I m'bate, or be penetrated anally when I'm playing around with someone.

Just take it slow, make sure you're properly lubricated, and maybe you could practice masturbating anally before you have anal with your bf??

[DanielleIU]

I got the lube and have been practicing on myself with a finger, sometimes two. Mostly I have done it on my back or flat on my stomach. What position did you all use for the first time with your bf, and what do you think is best? And Laura, what exactly do you mean by horrible???

[bethgirl1986]

Not trying to be gross here, but how does a penis or a dildo compare to a very large poop? Everything seems to stretch just fine down there for that, so is there even more stretching required for anal?

[hoboliz]

I'm a huge fan of it! My first time was in doggy (and admittedly involved some wine and half a xanax, which I kinda regret). Now I can handle it in any position you'd have regular sex in.

[anyone50]

There are so many variables present that it's hard to give a good answer. first will it hurt? Probably unless he is very small and the amount of pain is related to how thick his penis is. and yes you will be sore afterwards but for some girls the pain subsides after a few minutes of penetrations and others say it's painful the whole time. I do know that when he pulls out it's not like the opening snaps shut like the Vagina and stays enlarged for awhile and with prolonged anal sex there will be some permanent stretching and that's why it gets easier the more you do it. The best lube is a water base like KY gel. Vaseline is just to messy. I tried it a couple times and found I prefer the sex vaginally but if you really want to go through with it my suggestion is to open yourself up to the point you can comfortably take an object as large as his penis before you have anal sex with your bf. start with a pencil or Sharpe and work your way up to maybe something like a cucumber about the size of his dick. one more thing in addition to using lots of KY gel cover any object you insert into you anal passage with a condom. Good luck let us know how it works out

[missy_moo]

I got the lube and have been practicing on myself with a finger, sometimes two. Mostly I have done it on my back or flat on my stomach. What position did you all use for the first time with your bf, and what do you think is best? And Laura, what exactly do you mean by horrible???

Horrible as in it hurt every time he started and it wasn't feeling any better than vaginal sex. It takes a bit to work out which position works best for you hence why you should try it by yourself a bit beforehand. At least then there'll be a nice smooth transition from foreplay/vaginal sex to anal/cum time.

Personally I'd rather be on top and then arch my back. Works a treat!

[bowhuntress]

From my experience, my ex bf and I tried anal sex for the first time two years ago. No it doesn't hurt "a lot" as long you use the anal lube. I would strongly suggest you to do anal masturbation first to get it loosen up before having anal sex. If you do without anal lube, you would be screaming like OMG! The pain doesn't last long at all. It'll get better once you get more experience doing anal sex. The best position is doing "cowgirl" position because you'll be able to have your anal control better. Missionary is okay, but not good for the first timers. Doggy position is good only for experienced ppl. From my experience, I did get a little sore like a muscle tense just like doing work outs. After that it was fine and got use to it. The best lube is Eros for women. I got that from my sister (ssshhhh, she'll get piss at me for "borrowing" it from her hidden box LOL).

[AnnaThaBabe]

if he knows what hes doing it wont hurt that much, usually the most is when the first inch or so is going in, but he cant ram it in gotta take it easy.

my first was with a 4" n that hurt like hell, ive had bigger that knew what they were doing and it was just really good

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