Did I abuse my classmates?

[mrsparks]

When I was in grade 8 and 9, I was a perverted person. A generally well-meaning guy, but still perverted. In grade 9, I made a TON of sexual comments about this one girl, and I didn't even think I was doing anything wrong. It wasn't explicit stuff. It was more like "here let me get that for you" and in the process of bending down to get something, taking a peek at a girl's private parts.

In grade 8, I did some of that stuff, but it was more physical than sexual. I used to pat this one girl REALLY hard on the back, so that she'd say "ow", and when she told me to stop, I just kept on hitting her. I still didn't think that was wrong, because nobody said to me "You're a bad person".

But now I know so much about abuse (although not everything)...I know what the effects are. I'm so worried that I ruined both of those girls' lives. I've done a lot of stupid stuff in my life, but NEVER have I thought I ruined somebody's life!

Nowadays, I try my best to atone for the things I've done, and I try my best to be an honourable person, like my grandfather, who died when I was in grade 7. This means no more of that perverted or physics stuff. I have to make my grandpa proud, and I have to make everything alright again.

[Wylex]

Abuse is abuse, whether you know it or not. I wouldn't put your actions as abuse. It was just a young mind being a young mind. You realize that what you did wasn't exactly "right" and you try to fix your actions. That's what's important. Don't worry about your actions, because you're already trying to stop and fix them. What's in the past is past, and worrying about the past does nothing, fix now and the future.

[Nomad_X]

When I was in grade 8 and 9, I was a perverted person. A generally well-meaning guy, but still perverted. In grade 9, I made a TON of sexual comments about this one girl, and I didn't even think I was doing anything wrong. It wasn't explicit stuff. It was more like "here let me get that for you" and in the process of bending down to get something, taking a peek at a girl's private parts.

In grade 8, I did some of that stuff, but it was more physical than sexual. I used to pat this one girl REALLY hard on the back, so that she'd say "ow", and when she told me to stop, I just kept on hitting her. I still didn't think that was wrong, because nobody said to me "You're a bad person".

But now I know so much about abuse (although not everything)...I know what the effects are. I'm so worried that I ruined both of those girls' lives. I've done a lot of stupid stuff in my life, but NEVER have I thought I ruined somebody's life!

Nowadays, I try my best to atone for the things I've done, and I try my best to be an honourable person, like my grandfather, who died when I was in grade 7. This means no more of that perverted or physics stuff. I have to make my grandpa proud, and I have to make everything alright again.


How old are you now? Have you thought about apologizing to these girls?

[Nekroshade]

Maybe try apologizing to these to girls. While I've never did the patting on the back thing I have seen up a few skirts never deliberately but I didn't look away either. So I don't see this as being abuse more in line with being young dumb and way to many new hormones.

[CosmicNoodle]

If i where you i would be ashamed of what i had done, you should go and apologies to them for being dick.
But then agane i am proud of you for being so remorseful for what you have done

[Seth.]

It sounds like you were more ignorant and rambunctious than sadistic. I think you can forgive yourself. You seem to have mended your ways.

[Stryker125]

Eh, shit happens. Don't beat yourself up too much over it. As long as you're trying to make things right, that's all that matters. I'd say talk to those girls and let them know that you're really sorry for that stuff and that you didn't mean any of that personally at all, you were just ignorant and thought that stuff was okay but now that you know it isn't, you're trying to do better.

[britishboy]

well im not going to lie, that was really bad! you should speak to them, apologize and see if you can help!

[teen.jpg]

I think you're making a big deal out of basically nothing. I wouldn't call that "abuse" just apologize and move on with your life.

[Bobbybobby99]

I think you're making a big deal out of basically nothing. I wouldn't call that "abuse" just apologize and move on with your life.

Precisely that. While you were a general asshole,a very straight, very hormone filled asshole, I doubt you ruined those girls lives,just apologize and move on with your life.

[Seth.]

My grandfather taught me to be careful about bringing up past wrongs and opening old wounds. Not that you shouldn't apologize, but not if it makes someone feel bad all over again being reminded of it. Tread carefully.

[jayyy-lmao]

You just seem to have been ignorant of people's feelings. Not abusive.