Telling my parents I want to come out.

[Bornsteller]

Ok, so I have been "out" to my parents and a few select friends for going on two years, and have not wanted to tell anyone else because of how I am involved with my church, of which is against homosexuality, my position in my Boy Scouts troop, and the fear of being hated at school. My grandparents are very very involved in my life, and live less than 3 minutes away, and my grandma is homophobic.

Just a while ago, the Boy Scouts of America announced its acceptance of homosexual teens, so I told my friend to heck with it, I want to come out. I said I was tied of being alone and wearing a mask all of the time, and crying myself to sleep every single night. He said that was great, and asked my permission to tell everyone we know from our school, so I said sure. That's what he had done to come out, sounded ok to me.

My big question is, how should I tell my parents that I want to come out? They already know, but I get mixed vibes about it, and I don't want to go "too far" and have them disgusted in me or something.

Sorry for the long post, I thought it might help if all ya'll knew a bit of my situation. Thank you for even taking the time to read my post.

[NikosamA98]

Well, it is your choice not your parents. If you want to come out and you feel you are ready just do it. If you want you parents opinion, thats ok, but do what you want to do and what you think will be better for your future :P

[Camazotz]

Well, it is your choice not your parents. If you want to come out and you feel you are ready just do it. If you want you parents opinion, thats ok, but do what you want to do and what you think will be better for your future :P

I can't really say it better than that. You should come out to the people that you feel comfortable with, and don't ever let other people pressure you to "put a mask on." Be who you are.

[Bornsteller]

Thanks for the help. Of course, my mom and grandma teamed up on me about my total failures in school and everything else, so now I'm back in my total downhill spiral of depression. Again. So I am sorry your help just got wasted. :(

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Ok, so I have been "out" to my parents and a few select friends for going on two years, and have not wanted to tell anyone else because of how I am involved with my church, of which is against homosexuality, my position in my Boy Scouts troop, and the fear of being hated at school. My grandparents are very very involved in my life, and live less than 3 minutes away, and my grandma is homophobic.

Just a while ago, the Boy Scouts of America announced its acceptance of homosexual teens, so I told my friend to heck with it, I want to come out. I said I was tied of being alone and wearing a mask all of the time, and crying myself to sleep every single night. He said that was great, and asked my permission to tell everyone we know from our school, so I said sure. That's what he had done to come out, sounded ok to me.

My big question is, how should I tell my parents that I want to come out? They already know, but I get mixed vibes about it, and I don't want to go "too far" and have them disgusted in me or something.

Sorry for the long post, I thought it might help if all ya'll knew a bit of my situation. Thank you for even taking the time to read my post.

you can't let your whole life be delegated by you're parents. one day, you will be moving out of their house and you'll be free - and if you've went by their ways your whole life, you'll never survive. there are some thing's you've just gutta do ur own way :)

[Hermes96]

i know how you feel about the school and scout but when i asked my parents have told me if i come out to people in the family i'll be hatede considering my uncles a vicor and my family are all supper religious but as most people have said its up to you to deside not theirs ppluss its better to regret somthing than go what if