Asking girls out

[Blowfish]

Hey girls/guys what's the best way to ask a girl out who you know but arnt close friends with or anything? Any help would be much appreciated.

[jaimiee]

Bro. All u gotta do is this.
1. Get chocolate or flowers
2. Get her alone
3. Give the gift
4. Hold both hands of hers yours
5. Stare her deep in her eyes for 15seconds
6. Bring her left(your right) hand close to your mouth
7. Ask "will you be my girlfriend"
8. Kiss her hand
9. Put her arms around you.

BOOOM you'll have a gf

[Steven1]

You could whats been said above, or you could go for the old fashioned approach- take her out for dinner or to see a movie (alone), look at her in the eyes a couple of times, and then let things grow from there.

[DerBear]

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[indoxyl]

srsly? who does that work on?

i guess if she's lonely or doesn't have any options she might ride that chocolate thing as far as it'll go, but that could be the reason she doesn't have other options.

this probably sounds mean, but i don't intend it that way. what's with all these threads where guys are talking about have to get her alone, need to be alone to ask her, etc? guys, listen closely, it reeks of lack of confidence. we can smell it and it doesn't smell good.

...wanting to ask the girl out privately reeks of lacking confidence? i dont even understand how that works. thats dumb. if someone wants to be alone to ask soeone out then who cares? its more romantic that way and less awkward if they were to do it in front of their friends

[qurious17]

It's a risk but it's hardly likely youre going to offend her by asking her out. Isn't it paying her a compliment after all ?

[Sydneyy]

You barely know her and she barely knows you I don't think she'll say yes if you just approach her. You have to be friends. And don't do what the first guy said about the chocolate and kissing hand thingy because that only works on movies.

[MoonMan]

Bro. All u gotta do is this.
1. Get chocolate or flowers
2. Get her alone
3. Give the gift
4. Hold both hands of hers yours
5. Stare her deep in her eyes for 15seconds
6. Bring her left(your right) hand close to your mouth
7. Ask "will you be my girlfriend"
8. Kiss her hand
9. Put her arms around you.

BOOOM you'll have a gf

That would be creepy as hell, especially since he doesn't know her that well.

[Pacaveli]

I'd just get to know her personally, because I have liked girls I didn't know too well and they usually said no. If I were you be her friend more and get to know her.

[MoonMan]

to each her own i guess. i'll have nothing to do with a boy that isn't brave enough to risk embarrassment for me.

Has nothing to do with confidence, asking someone out shouldn't be a public display anyways. Doing it in public usually puts the girl on the spot and makes her uncomfortable as well, so it's not just for the boy's sake. Remember, he's already risking embarrassment by trying to ask the girl out with a chance of getting rejected (which is the 2nd worst feeling in the world for a guy right behind getting kicked in the balls). It takes a lot of courage to ask out a girl you've been crushing on, especially when you don't know if she likes you back. I think it's a bit unfair you would dismiss a guy just because he doesn't want to put his proposal on the loudspeaker so he could show everyone how brave he is, not to mention nobody really gives a shit if you start a relationship outside of the couple's circle of friends (who would probably gossip about it for two minutes and go on about their lives). It doesn't show anything and it shouldn't be interpreted as such.

[chezhans]

The old fashioned way always works- what the other guy said about chocolates and kissing is exactly what Sydney said...the movies, the movies and more of the movies. Next please.

[teen.jpg]

Befriend her first, get to know her. And then make your move.

[MoonMan]

whatever. just said what I know to work best for me and the girls in my circle of friends. you can take it fwiw but i turn down every guy that acts like a weasel and tries to get me alone.

Well, good on you for weeding out those pesky weasels then. We all know if a guy just wants some intimate privacy he has no confidence and shouldn't be bothered with. I mean first impressions are everything anyways, right?

[DanteZombie]

bro. All u gotta do is this.
1. Get chocolate or flowers
2. Get her alone
3. Give the gift
4. Hold both hands of hers yours
5. Stare her deep in her eyes for 15seconds
6. Bring her left(your right) hand close to your mouth
7. Ask "will you be my girlfriend"
8. Kiss her hand
9. Put her arms around you.

Booom you'll have a gf

boom restraining order!

[Meganium]

Hey girls/guys what's the best way to ask a girl out who you know but arnt close friends with or anything? Any help would be much appreciated.



Bro. All u gotta do is this.
1. Get chocolate or flowers
2. Get her alone
3. Give the gift
4. Hold both hands of hers yours
5. Stare her deep in her eyes for 15seconds
6. Bring her left(your right) hand close to your mouth
7. Ask "will you be my girlfriend"
8. Kiss her hand
9. Put her arms around you.

BOOOM you'll have a gf

To avoid "boom restraining order", I would advise against this, and try to get a bit closer to her before asking her out. If you're not good friends, try to move a bit more in that direction, but not too much.

[Salader]

Keep in mind that some confidence issues can't be easily helped. Not like people are purposely developing poor social skills.

I am biased however, I speak from experience .-.

[Cygnus]

Just go like
You: Hey you!
Crush: Yes?
You: I like you, do you like me?
Crush: (Answers yes or no)

If she says yes ask her if she wants to go eat someplace or watch a movie, if she says no just say like "so be it" and walk away.

[MoonMan]

like i just told someone else: i think its ok if i decide what i like for myself if that doesn't work for you um... to bad?

lets agree that i won't tell you who you should like if you'll do the same for me. sound good? otherwise i know some girls that no one will touch that would love to have a bf. lmk. :)

I never told you who you should like. You made a blatant statement that wanting to get a girl in privacy is somehow linked to low confidence, I believed that statement was false. I never once mentioned who you like nor do I really care about them. Opinions are very interesting once you know how to actually identify them. Just like you have the opinion that boys asking out girls privately is "weaseling" around things, my opinion about the same subject is the method doesn't really matter and they're not weaseling around anything if they decide they want to do it privately.

[Its Pretty]

Smile constantly, make eye contact, straight posture, drugged chocolates...

[Its Pretty]

that's the spirit be confident and have a backup plan.
That's right :) just make sure that if you do get rejected, accept it, and smile upon your learning! Remember, there's always more fish in the sea!

[MoonMan]

i didn't say who i like i said what i like. and you also told me how unfair i was for 'dismissing' guys that i'm not interested in. so i guess in your opinion i'm not allowed to like what i want to like it's unfair. fwiw i never said you can't do it anyway you want just that working it out to do it privately doesn't impress me at least in a positive way. maybe you could re-read YOUR statement about opinions before you reply it might help i made it bold so you can find it easier.

"Let's agree that I won't tell you who you should like if you'll do the same for me.." I guess this is what happens when you try to end your post with a smartass zinger, you basically just refuted your own argument. You literally just stated in your prior post I was trying to tell you WHO you should like and now you backtracked and stated you were talking about what you liked, which was what I was trying to say I had a differing opinion on in my last post. So, basically, your prior post was a waste of text. True I said it was unfair, but it's also true the words "I think" came before that statement, putting emphasis on the fact it's just a fucking opinion. I never even stated you weren't allowed to like what you want, I just gave my views on it. I could be wrong for all I know, that's why I called it an opinion, and why I refrained from saying you shouldn't be allowed to do things (again, not sure where you even got that claim from). I also never said it was unfair to dismiss guys you were not interested in, I said it was unfair for dismissing them solely because they don't want to ask you out in public, which you said yourself only has a negative inpression on you for whatever reason. You never said anything about interests and neither did I, you simply stated you turn down EVERY guy who does this which I thought is unfair, so please stop putting words in my mouth. Whether or not you agree it's unfair (because some random fucking guy on the Internet told you it was) is entirely up to you, but everything I said was acknowledgedly subjective. Nothing I said was objective nor did I make it seem like it was objective in any of my posts, it was all opinionated and it's influence on you is entirely controlled by yourself.

[hyperkid99]

You just have to be confident and positive. And make sure you ask her in a way that makes it sound romantic