How to explainit to others?

[EmptySoul]

I have too friends who know that i have restarted SH. One is my bestfriend since like year 7 when we met, she told me the other day to cal her if i ever need to talk about nything as she lives on the other sde of the country and is just over on a holiday. So yeah. But my terh friend, he keeps tellign me at school go talk to hte school psychologist tht it will help, buthtat wil mean tht he has to tell my parents, but my friends just doesn't seem to get that how do i explainit to him and about SH in general? he is a really good frined of mine and i know that his heart is in the rightt place, but how do i explainthat talking about it to a 'trusted adult' isnt what is best for me at the moment. I'm ust not ready for an adult to know, especially not my parents by default. Please give em you opinions n this i would much appreciate them thanx :)

[Hyper]

Sorry but how do you know not talking to the psychologist is ''what's best for you at the moment''

[EmptySoul]

Sorry but how do you know not talking to the psychologist is ''what's best for you at the moment''

coz at my school they have to tell your parents if you are at risk to yourslef or others so with SH they will find out and my paretns are one of my biggest triggers as they are always arguing with each toehr (they are divorced) and then complain to me because i am the quiet child and have no choice but to listen, iv tried tellign them that always tellign me hteir problelms is stressful adn i get yelled at that 'well what am i meant to do bottle it up... i need to tell someone" soo tellign them about my SH will probs not go down well. My aunty used to have Bulimia so i would have though that my mum would understand ED's adn Sh a bit better, she is even datign a mental health nurse for over 8 or 9 yeares now, butu unfortunately shes constantly says things that show she doesn't comprehend what we go through.Muy point being talking to a school psych wont help it will just make it worse. (i also suck at telling poepl who ar not my friends about my emotions and feelings, even then i just blurt it out coz i don't know how to say it without sounding delusional or offensive to the other person.

[Hyper]

coz at my school they have to tell your parents if you are at risk to yourslef or others so with SH they will find out and my paretns are one of my biggest triggers as they are always arguing with each toehr (they are divorced) and then complain to me because i am the quiet child and have no choice but to listen, iv tried tellign them that always tellign me hteir problelms is stressful adn i get yelled at that 'well what am i meant to do bottle it up... i need to tell someone" soo tellign them about my SH will probs not go down well. My aunty used to have Bulimia so i would have though that my mum would understand ED's adn Sh a bit better, she is even datign a mental health nurse for over 8 or 9 yeares now, butu unfortunately shes constantly says things that show she doesn't comprehend what we go through.Muy point being talking to a school psych wont help it will just make it worse. (i also suck at telling poepl who ar not my friends about my emotions and feelings, even then i just blurt it out coz i don't know how to say it without sounding delusional or offensive to the other person.

But you are where you are right now because you can't resolve your emotional stress in a healthy way.

And you are wanting to choose a course of action that deepens the problem.

Sooner or later people will find out either because the problem gets too bad to hide or because you take the first steps and tell them.

I don't want to push you into anything but I don't want to give you advice that will just help you avoid your problem and give you short term relief while hurting you in the long run.

Your parents and your perception of them may differ from reality. The situation may differ as well. I can't promise it but parents can often get over their own problems if they realize their children need their support.

If you really feel you aren't ready to have your parents know then just tell your friend how you feel... There is really no ''explaining'' your feelings other than just letting people know them.

I do urge you to seek professional help. I am not exactly sure of the system where you are but you might be able to get some form of help through a child help center without having your parents know immediately.