Just a question for everyone...

[TheFSM]

I've heard that a few people around my age have already had some kind sex with a guy/girl. Does anyone think they're lying, and if they/you're not how should I ever go about it?

[Troy35216]

some of them are lying and some of them aren't. but why do you think yo have to go about it just because they did? it's not a contest or a race. if you have a gf/bf and you reach that point then that's when it will happen. if you try to make it happen before it reaches that point your just gonna mess up what you've got. if you just wanna get laid so you can say you got laid that's why God made hookers I guess.

[TinyDancer]

Lying or telling the truth about having sex makes some people feel better about themselves for whatever reason. The way to go about it is either to lie or tell the truth. You can't have it both ways obviously. Honesty is usually the best because it is easier to remember.

[TheFSM]

Thanks you guys!

[sixguy6]

No I dont know why people would say that

[Jasperf]

I've heard that a few people around my age have already had some kind sex with a guy/girl. Does anyone think they're lying, and if they/you're not how should I ever go about it?

You don't even say your age?

[TheFSM]

Whoop, sorry I'm thirteen. And it's not just on here, but out in the real world, too. I also mean people like 13 or 14. I even heard someone say they had sex when they were 12!

[Swagging god]

Loosing your virginity like others have said it shouldn't be a contest, you'll know when you feel ready, that is the time in my opinion to loose it preferably to someone you care about

[answers-101]

I've heard that a few people around my age have already had some kind sex with a guy/girl. Does anyone think they're lying, and if they/you're not how should I ever go about it?

I'll be honest, i don't think they are lying. i know for a fact that one of my mates has taken the virginity off of quite a few girls haha

[kirikiri94]

Your are raising a very interesting and tough question: to what extend posters in this forum tell the truth about themselves and their sexual behavior?

There is no proper answer to this question but I will have my word by saying this:

Nowhere else than here could teenagers feel so free to talk about their sexual orientation, sexual life and thoughts. Why? Because there is no pressure in VT: no parents pressure, not even peers pressure. In our society, teens got a lot of pressure in order to adopt a "normal" behavior; this forum is a small and unique place where you can be yourself, ask questions you wouldnt dare asking anywhere else, etc.

Conclusion: maybe a couple of posters are lying. But on that kind of subjects, they would lie much more frequently to their parents, to their teachers and to the medias.

[Austinb13]

You can tell if they're lying because they're always talking about it bragging or over exaggerating to the point it doesn't seen real. But some of them are not lying I know a lot that have.

[marc_not_mark]

Yeah i wouldn't believe anyone that's all bragging about it but are you asking because you want to try it when you ask how you should go about it?

[GigglyAbby]

Who knows if it's the truth or not though I'll say it's not uncommon kids in grades 5 or 6 and even middle school to be sexually active. As far as "how should I ever go about it?" -- you may need to evaluate:
* Are you ready to see a girl naked?
* Are you ready to be naked with a girl?
* Are you confident with your body?
* Are you aware of birth control options ESPECIALLY condoms?
* Are you confident buying condoms?
* Do you feel confident discussing body parts and body functions?
* Would you feel comfy buying or paying for a pregnancy test?
* Would feel comfy paying for birth control?
* Could you handle a late period?
* Would you know what to do if the condom broke?
* How would you handle being a father?
* Are you considering it because you feel pressured or that you need to fit in?
* Are you aware that many people have some form of regret the first time?
* Can you communicate openly with a girl now?

As stated -- do it when you're ready and do it because it seems like a quest or contest.