Ugh... where do I start?!

[xxyzn]

alright.. .let's see. let me just cut to the chase. i meet this girl when i was 15.. well, i didn't meet her.. i started talking to her on MSN through a friend of mine. when i first talked to her, i thought she was pretty cool. i mean, what more could i know about her? we talked for about a week, then it just kindof faded away. now, this was when i lived in my home state florida. anyway, about a year went by and i moved from tallahassee florida to pensacola florida. we started talking again, as we were before. but, it was a little bit more indepth that time. as time progressed we stopped talking again, and yet another year went by. now i live in alabama, 1 state north of florida. and... low and behold, me and this girl started talking yet again. but, haha.. this is where it begins.

i always said i wasn't for long distance relationships. but, this totally caught me off guard. me and the girl started talking again. but it was waaay more in depth this time. we told each that when we first started talking to one another, we both liked each other. but it was subliminal, we didn't really let each other know. i mean, we were 15, ya know? we're now talking. and we're now talking as in "serious". we arn't "REALLY" dating, but we both like each other.. more or less love each other. keep in mind she lives in florida, and i live in alabama. we really want to see each other. infact we're dying to see each other because we've been deprived of sex for quite some time now. but, alas, this is the problem. im moving to china in about a month. which is awesome, im going to live with my father in china. i mean, that's pretty wicked. but this my problem. i only have about 1 more month in the states and i don't know what to do about this situation. we really love each other. i know we do because we can't stop talking to one another. i NEED to hear her voice on a daily basis. and she NEEDS to hear my voice. it's as if we were meant to be together.

well, let's get back to the facts. im moving to china in about a month. what should i do? should i try to see her as soon as possible? i mean, i don't know if that's just going to make the scenario worse! i think we'll cling on to each other and the fact that im leaving will be even more drastic. but, atleast we would be able to see each other. or, should i just call it off in the most polite way i can? i don't know what to do! i love this girl! UGHHHHHH!!!!!! OR should we just keep talking? even though im leaving? she said she'd come to china in about a year... haha, i doubt it though... that would be killer. i mean, if we really WERE meant to be together.. do you think she would wait for me?

[Nitchy17]

I don't think you should see each other. A month is a very short amount of time and the visit wouldn't be a good idea. I mean, if you guys stay in touch and what not then see how things go... But a visit before hand probably wouldn't be very smart.

[byee]

Let me see if I understand this correctly. You've never met this girl in person, never seen her?

If this is correct, if I've got this one right, then what you have here is a creation of another person in your own head, with them giving you some of the basics: MSNing, nightly contact, etc. That feeds your perceptions of her, you're basing your opinion of her on the things she writes you, and how you interpret it all. All that is pretty entertaining, who doesn't like attention. But love? Maybe it's the fantasy you've created here that's so enthralling for you, maybe you love the attention, but I think your feelings might represent something other than love for another person. People (and love) are much more than words on a screen and what we make of them.

You've moved around alot, and now you're facing an exciting, yet far reaching move. Maybe the consistency of that attention, especially in the face of so much change (and newness) is what feels so good. Maybe what you have with her seems so real because there's not as much in your life, that it keeps changing with all these moves and the anxiety at starting over?

I'd recommend you keep this relationship online, that way, whatever it is that works so well for you will continue to be there for you. Otherwise, you risk having reality intrude on whatever perceptions you've created here. And as they say, having isn't always as good as wanting.

Good luck with the move.