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DanteZombie
July 7th, 2013, 11:55 PM
I'm trying to figure out if I'm gay or not. If you could please read my story, and give me your opinion and advice? PLEASE!

Every since I remember I have always been an extremely horny person. I found out about sex early from a neighborhood friend (my parents are NOT open about sex at all, I NEVER got "the talk" in my life). I remember that I used to stay up late and get off to those censored girls gone wild commercials. I had a friend who was also a horny person (we hadn't even really started puberty yet). We started experimenting (fooling around, touching each other, and oral).

Around this time I was also starting to get into porn. It was all softcore and straight. As I got older, we still continued to experiment. I started to move into more graphic porn, but still it was all straight. I remember he always asked me, "do you think we will keep doing this when we are older?" and I would always say no. I started to feel guilty, because I don't like the idea of premarital sex, plus he wanted to go really far and I didn't want to. I would always try to lead it to mutual masturbation, but he hated that.

Fastforward a bit, we are both around 16 and we meet up again. He actually convinces me to do anal with him. I hated every second of it and found no pleasure. At that point I had enough and finally told him I couldn't do it anymore.

Fastforward a bit more, I'm now 18 and really confused. I am big time into porn, but I find myself going more for gay porn since they seem to be more sensual encounters, not as loud as straight, and it has an element of taboo to it. That's not the only thing I like about it though...I feel like there is more hidden elements to men, as now a days women just show like everything so there is no mystery. Also I'm a heavier set fellow and look nearly pure ugly. Part of me feels like there is no way I would actually get a girl, so that's why I view men as a way just to release sexual tension.

I'm worried that I'm just denying the gay part of myself, as it seems that I mostly get off to gay porn and my parents have explicitly stated their intense dislike (near pure hatred) for gay men. However, at the same time I'm not attracted to any of the males I know. I can't see myself kissing any gender to be honest, and the thought of having sex with a female scares me, because I don't know anything about it. I've only dated one girl, and I was to nervous and scared to do anything about it. I'm not the much of an outward sexual person.

Sorry for the long post, and any extra graphic details I added that I probably shouldn't have. If you could please just give me some advice I would be so HAPPY and THANKFUL! Please and thank you.

FrostWraith
July 8th, 2013, 12:21 AM
I'd probably label you as straight due to the apparent lack of sexual attraction to guys, but it's really hard to say especially since you don't seem to really be into either gender unless they're in porn. That's fine, though; I think relationships are scary to everyone.
Remember, you don't need to label yourself or be defined by anyone else. Most people's sexualities can't be described by simple terms. Just love who you love and be comfortable with it.

DanteZombie
July 8th, 2013, 01:13 AM
Well after thinking about it for a bit I found out what I really think. I find men just for sexual release, like just to get off for pleasure, but women are like for true, real love. I guess that makes me bi?

BenjiCleland
July 10th, 2013, 03:43 PM
You are proboaly straight if you don't like guys at all exept for on the Internet