Advice please. So Confused

[clueless_one]

This is again about the same problem where I asked out a girl and she lied but the situation has turned onto its head and I would like some advice. This description is ended up being almost like a essay :P sorry and I hope you take your time in reading and helping me.

I had asked out a girl and she said yes but when organising the date she said she didn't want to go out with me (yes I know this is getting repetitive from my other posts but please bear with me). Her good friend got upset saying that she didn't want to talk to me because I asked out her friend.

The friend of the girl I asked out I liked last year (and had feelings for her now) and at the point I was going to do something about it, she entered into a relationship with another guy. But when she was dating the other guy, she was showing signs to me of interest like talking to be across the room and asked me to sit next to her in class and all. She also started asking me questions about my life and ask her friends to take photos of me and her during class but other than that there was nothing. She is in two of my classes and told me to sit next to her in one of them, if she liked me she would have sat next to me in the other class (this go me confused). Because she had been dating another guy and showed signs of interest to me when dating I thought that was the way she acts. Also I lost interest in her when she was dating the guy. Though, she never smiled at me or had any physical touch towards me (the girl I asked out was looking at me and smiling which was one on the reasons I went for her). She has also been calling me a few times especially when she hasn't seen me for a while.

The next girl (the one I like now due to all this), was surprised that I asked out a girl and was calling her my girlfriend. A boy told me that the girl I asked out was lying about wanting to go out with me. This girl (who I like now) said "Talk to her and find out if she has mutual feeling for you and if she actually wants to go out with you. Just to make sure. She is a nice girl, I don't think she will be lying." saying it with a sad face and tone. On the same day, she said she wondered why guys don't ask her out. (She said this when I was close to her but not directly to me).

The day or two after finding out I asked out a girl, she was talking about our essay project to me and another girl. She read one of the paragraphs and she looked at the girl 3-4 times and to me 7-8 times when reading it. I told her that I thought it was a good paragraph and she was smiling a bit.

Before she found out I asked out a girl she showed signs that to me told me she likes me...

When talking to me about my schoolwork, she touched/tapped my arm and later my back (this has never happened with other girls). Also her hand was close to mine and she didn't move her hand away and when passing pencils and pens to each other, she always made a way for me to touch her hand or her to touch my hand.

She talks to me and asks questions about my life (If I have brother or sisters)

She looks at me a lot. She also leans backwards towards me when sitting in class (she sits in front of me).

We were talking in a group and I did something and she said we have to have dinner before we go there and was laughing/smiling

she yelled my name out in a public place (school excursion) when she was with her girl friends and also in class (when in class she yelled my name out a lot throughout the lesson). It was also someones birthday on that same day as the excursion and her friend offered me some cake and she said that she made it.

She also enjoys the sport I like and the girl I asked out doesn’t really talk about the sport. (Seems to have things in common to me)


So, what should I do. The girl I asked out lied and now the girl I was going to ask out next said she didn't want to talk to me and the girl who I like now might think I'm desperate. I'm not sure what to do, which girl should I go for? If I ask one out would I look desperate? :cry:

[clueless_one]

This is again about the same problem where I asked out a girl and she lied but the situation has turned onto its head and I would like some advice. This description is ended up being almost like a essay :P sorry and I hope you take your time in reading and helping me.

I had asked out a girl and she said yes but when organising the date she said she didn't want to go out with me (yes I know this is getting repetitive from my other posts but please bear with me). Her good friend got upset saying that she didn't want to talk to me because I asked out her friend.

The friend of the girl I asked out I liked last year (and had feelings for her now) and at the point I was going to do something about it, she entered into a relationship with another guy. But when she was dating the other guy, she was showing signs to me of interest like talking to be across the room and asked me to sit next to her in class and all. She also started asking me questions about my life and ask her friends to take photos of me and her during class but other than that there was nothing. She is in two of my classes and told me to sit next to her in one of them, if she liked me she would have sat next to me in the other class (this go me confused). Because she had been dating another guy and showed signs of interest to me when dating I thought that was the way she acts. Also I lost interest in her when she was dating the guy. Though, she never smiled at me or had any physical touch towards me (the girl I asked out was looking at me and smiling which was one on the reasons I went for her). She has also been calling me a few times especially when she hasn't seen me for a while.

The next girl (the one I like now due to all this), was surprised that I asked out a girl and was calling her my girlfriend. A boy told me that the girl I asked out was lying about wanting to go out with me. This girl (who I like now) said "Talk to her and find out if she has mutual feeling for you and if she actually wants to go out with you. Just to make sure. She is a nice girl, I don't think she will be lying." saying it with a sad face and tone. On the same day, she said she wondered why guys don't ask her out. (She said this when I was close to her but not directly to me).

The day or two after finding out I asked out a girl, she was talking about our essay project to me and another girl. She read one of the paragraphs and she looked at the girl 3-4 times and to me 7-8 times when reading it. I told her that I thought it was a good paragraph and she was smiling a bit.

Before she found out I asked out a girl she showed signs that to me told me she likes me...

When talking to me about my schoolwork, she touched/tapped my arm and later my back (this has never happened with other girls). Also her hand was close to mine and she didn't move her hand away and when passing pencils and pens to each other, she always made a way for me to touch her hand or her to touch my hand.

She talks to me and asks questions about my life (If I have brother or sisters)

She looks at me a lot. She also leans backwards towards me when sitting in class (she sits in front of me).

We were talking in a group and I did something and she said we have to have dinner before we go there and was laughing/smiling

she yelled my name out in a public place (school excursion) when she was with her girl friends and also in class (when in class she yelled my name out a lot throughout the lesson). It was also someones birthday on that same day as the excursion and her friend offered me some cake and she said that she made it.

She also enjoys the sport I like and the girl I asked out doesn’t really talk about the sport. (Seems to have things in common to me)


So, what should I do. The girl I asked out lied and now the girl I was going to ask out next said she didn't want to talk to me and the girl who I like now might think I'm desperate. I'm not sure what to do, which girl should I go for? If I ask one out would I look desperate? :cry:

Can anyone please help...

[MoonMan]

Didn't you post another thread about looking desperate to this new girl already? I'm starting to ignore your threads because most of them seem redundant and like you don't even take the advice we give anyways...

[clueless_one]

Didn't you post another thread about looking desperate to this new girl already? I'm starting to ignore your threads because most of them seem redundant and like you don't even take the advice we give anyways...

The previous threads were about finding out if I'm desperate with what happened. I'm just going to go ahead and ask one of them out saying the girl I asked out lied. This thread is about asking what I should do now because of the girl lying about wanting to go out with me and the next girl I liked saying she didn't want to talk to me. I'm thinking if I ask out the other girl it will be uncomfortable because I asked out her friend. I'm asking for advice if I should ask out the girl I liked before who had a boyfriend when I liked her or go for the girl I like now. I will ask out one of these girls anyway

[MoonMan]

In your thread: Not sure what to do? you had nearly the same storyline besides the girl who had a boyfriend jumped in all of a sudden. Jesus how many girls do you fucking like? This story has become nearly impossible to follow and it seems like you're just trying to get a girlfriend instead of actually following your heart. I liked the other thread because you seemed to have moved on from the girl who lied and you were just worried you might seem desperate if you asked the new girl out, which I gave some advice on already. Now you're asking if you should go for the girl you used to like or go for the girl you like right NOW? Seems like you answered your own question. If you like both of them you need to fucking prioritize and take some time to sort out your feelings, you can't have a girlfriend while still harboring feelings for another girl. Because then you would be an asshole who's just stringing her along to distract you from these feelings. What matters is you ask out the one whom you have genuine feelings for and can see yourself in a relationship with, not which one would be the less risky to go after. If she's uncomfortable with you asking she's most likely not into you anyways. It's really not that hard, you're over complicating things. I would go after the girl you like now, if she has mutual feelings she won't care if you asked out her friend. How about you try actually asking one of them before posting a thread again?

[clueless_one]

In your thread: Not sure what to do? you had nearly the same storyline besides the girl who had a boyfriend jumped in all of a sudden. Jesus how many girls do you fucking like? This story has become nearly impossible to follow and it seems like you're just trying to get a girlfriend instead of actually following your heart. I liked the other thread because you seemed to have moved on from the girl who lied and you were just worried you might seem desperate if you asked the new girl out, which I gave some advice on already. Now you're asking if you should go for the girl you used to like or go for the girl you like right NOW? Seems like you answered your own question. If you like both of them you need to fucking prioritize and take some time to sort out your feelings, you can't have a girlfriend while still harboring feelings for another girl. Because then you would be an asshole who's just stringing her along to distract you from these feelings. What matters is you ask out the one whom you have genuine feelings for and can see yourself in a relationship with, not which one would be the less risky to go after. If she's uncomfortable with you asking she's most likely not into you anyways. It's really not that hard, you're over complicating things. I would go after the girl you like now, if she has mutual feelings she won't care if you asked out her friend. How about you try actually asking one of them before posting a thread again?

What I mean is if I ask out the girl I liked it would be uncomfortable for me to ask her because I had asked out her friend. She had a boyfriend when I liked her and moved on, like what I'm doing with the girl who lied. I just wanted to know what I should do. The girl I like now is the one I've been talking about in previous threads who is not friends with the girl I asked out but still knows I asked her out. The girl I like now was surprised that I asked out a girl and was sad when she told me to talk to her and find out if she actually has mutual feelings but the next day was smiling and seemed to show signs if liking me. Like I said I will explain to her that the girl I asked out lied and that I like her. Is that a good idea?

[MoonMan]

What I mean is if I ask out the girl I liked it would be uncomfortable for me to ask her because I had asked out her friend. She had a boyfriend when I liked her and moved on, like what I'm doing with the girl who lied. I just wanted to know what I should do. The girl I like now is the one I've been talking about in previous threads who is not friends with the girl I asked out but still knows I asked her out. The girl I like now was surprised that I asked out a girl and was sad when she told me to talk to her and find out if she actually has mutual feelings but the next day was smiling and seemed to show signs if liking me. Like I said I will explain to her that the girl I asked out lied and that I like her. Is that a good idea?

I know what you mean, but frankly, you shouldn't care that much about the method. Like I said in the other thread if you explain to her what happened and just be respectful and honest when asking her, you should be fine. Why would she be uncomfortable if you asked her out after you explained what happened with the other girl? If she likes you I don't think that it would make much of a difference to her and, even if she was uncomfortable, she should still be able to give you an honest answer either way.

[clueless_one]

I know what you mean, but frankly, you shouldn't care that much about the method. Like I said in the other thread if you explain to her what happened and just be respectful and honest when asking her, you should be fine. Why would she be uncomfortable if you asked her out after you explained what happened with the other girl? If she likes you I don't think that it would make much of a difference to her and, even if she was uncomfortable, she should still be able to give you an honest answer either way.

Either I explained it wrong or you read it wrong.

The girl I USED to like got a boyfriend meaning I lost interest later she broke up with him (maybe she liked me). This girl is friends with the girl I asked out and said she didn't want to talk to me anymore because I asked her friend out. It would be uncomfortable for ME asking her out after asking out her friend who had said yes and lied about wanting to go out with me.

The next girl I CURRENTLY like but she knows I asked out a girl and got a yes answer which she was surprised about calling her my girlfriend. A boy told me that the girl I asked out was lying about wanting to go out with me. This girl (who I like NOW) said "Talk to her and find out if she has mutual feeling for you and if she actually wants to go out with you. Just to make sure. She is a nice girl, I don't think she will be lying." saying it with a sad face and tone. On the same day, she said she wondered why guys don't ask her out. (She said this when I was close to her but not directly to me). But this girl seemed fine about the situation that I asked out a girl (maybe she found out she lied before me).

I like a girl now and am losing interest in the other because she got a boyfriend when I liked her and now said she doesn't want to talk to me but still want to be friends with her. I will ask the girl I currently like out anyway by explaining the girl who I asked out lied. The problem is I don't want to hurt anybody so that is the problem. :cry:

[MoonMan]

Either I explained it wrong or you read it wrong.

The girl I USED to like got a boyfriend meaning I lost interest later she broke up with him (maybe she liked me). This girl is friends with the girl I asked out and said she didn't want to talk to me anymore because I asked her friend out. It would be uncomfortable for ME asking her out after asking out her friend who had said yes and lied about wanting to go out with me.

The next girl I CURRENTLY like but she knows I asked out a girl and got a yes answer which she was surprised about calling her my girlfriend. A boy told me that the girl I asked out was lying about wanting to go out with me. This girl (who I like NOW) said "Talk to her and find out if she has mutual feeling for you and if she actually wants to go out with you. Just to make sure. She is a nice girl, I don't think she will be lying." saying it with a sad face and tone. On the same day, she said she wondered why guys don't ask her out. (She said this when I was close to her but not directly to me). But this girl seemed fine about the situation that I asked out a girl (maybe she found out she lied before me).

I like a girl now and am losing interest in the other because she got a boyfriend when I liked her and now said she doesn't want to talk to me but still want to be friends with her. I will ask the girl I currently like out anyway by explaining the girl who I asked out lied. The problem is I don't want to hurt anybody so that is the problem. :cry:
I read it fine, why the hell would you even mention the girl with a ex-boyfriend in this thread if you're losing interest in her and she doesn't want to talk to you after you asked her friend out? Simple, don't ask her out, I see no reason why she was even brought up as an option in the first place.
How are you going to hurt anybody by asking out the girl you currently like? More importantly, why should you care? The girl you used to like doesn't even want to talk to you so she could go fuck herself as far as you're concerned, and the other girl you asked out lied to you so she could go fuck herself twice. If you really want to pursue this new girl, and can see yourself in a relationship with her and no one else, this is the way you have to think. In short, grow a fucking pair dude. If you hurt someone it obviously wasn't intentional and there's little you can do about it at this point so you shouldn't be hung up about that at all. You're the problem, stop putting thoughts and emotions into hypotheticals and what could happen and just go and try for a change. I believe I'm done with these threads, you seldom take advice anyways and I feel like it's a waste of time to even suggest things to you because you already have your mind set on what COULD happen. Go and ask her, you'll have your answer. Maybe you need to learn from experience because advice doesn't seem to work for you.