Asking a girl to be my girlfriend

[Appypollylogges]

I'm not sure when to ask.
Here's the specifications-

So over the span of a little over two months I've had five dates with this girl.
I really like her, and I'm pretty certain she likes me (I don't think she'd keep seeing me if that wasn't the case).
We really get along and have fun on dates.
We've got similar tastes.
On our last date we held hands for the first time.
We haven't kissed yet. Hopefully we'll kiss by the next one or two dates.


So, when do you guys and girls think I should ask if we can be an official couple?
And yes, obviously everybody's different. What works for you guys might not work for me, but I'd just like some tips to go by.

[MoonMan]

By five dates, I probably would've asked already. You don't have to kiss to validate that you have feelings for each other, and that's all being a couple really means anyways. Mutual feelings for each other that you build upon in the future. All the other stuff, including kissing, is just icing on the cake.

[dontfiguremeout]

I say it's time! I think after 5 dates you guys still seem strong, then you really need to ask her. Ask her before it's too late! I bet she's waiting for you to make the move. So go for it!

[Appypollylogges]

I say it's time! I think after 5 dates you guys still seem strong, then you really need to ask her. Ask her before it's too late! I bet she's waiting for you to make the move. So go for it!

By five dates, I probably would've asked already. You don't have to kiss to validate that you have feelings for each other, and that's all being a couple really means anyways. Mutual feelings for each other that you build upon in the future. All the other stuff, including kissing, is just icing on the cake.

So assuming that I ask her about it on our 6th date, how should I?
Should I say that I really like her and have that just lead into it smoothly?
Or should I bluntly say "will you be my girlfriend"?

Something seems kinda pushy about saying "Will you be my girlfriend" rather than "I really like you"

[MoonMan]

So assuming that I ask her about it on our 6th date, how should I?
Should I say that I really like her and have that just lead into it smoothly?
Or should I bluntly say "will you be my girlfriend"?

Something seems kinda pushy about saying "Will you be my girlfriend" rather than "I really like you"
Whatever gets the job done, I'm sure she'll get the message if you just say you really like her.

[Cooper197]

5 dates seems like enough to make it official. Seems like whatever gets the job done is best, I know for me we just had gone on enough dates, kissed and held hands in public and stuff so it just kind of happened and one day somebody asked me who she was and I told them that she was my girlfriend and she had no problem with that. So...I would probably go more the route of something like you know I really like you, we should do this more often or something like that rather than Will you be my girlfriend. That just seems so...blunt.

[Appypollylogges]

So...I would probably go more the route of something like you know I really like you, we should do this more often or something like that rather than Will you be my girlfriend. That just seems so...blunt.

Yeah asking like that sounded kinda pushy to me :)

[Appypollylogges]

Btw, do people think the following idea is corny?
There's this coffee shop we're going to that has all these notes stuffed into a brick wall in the crevasses of it. on our fourth date, we spent 20 minutes looking through all of them. On our next date, we're gonna meet at that coffee place. Would it be corny to put a note in the wall saying something like "I like you a lot" and direct her to find it?

[CyrustheGreat]

Btw, do people think the following idea is corny?
There's this coffee shop we're going to that has all these notes stuffed into a brick wall in the crevasses of it. on our fourth date, we spent 20 minutes looking through all of them. On our next date, we're gonna meet at that coffee place. Would it be corny to put a note in the wall saying something like "I like you a lot" and direct her to find it?

idk, someone else might find it and steal it. that will be VERY humiliating. but, on the flip side, someone else may find it and they will use it and leave it for you. you never know...

[Appypollylogges]

idk, someone else might find it and steal it. that will be VERY humiliating. but, on the flip side, someone else may find it and they will use it and leave it for you. you never know...

Well, I don't think that would happen...
I would put the note in right before the date, so it's not like anyone could steal it.

[CyrustheGreat]

Well, I don't think that would happen...
I would put the note in right before the date, so it's not like anyone could steal it.

unless they see you put it in there. haha, they would think your hiding diamonds or something.

[chezhans]

Stop Waiting! That's all I have to say! Just ask her sweetly but discreetly and as we in Sydney say "get in there"

[Blackhawknut1]

Get to know her then ask her it's much easier to ask while knowing them before. Not like deep friends but at least a person who she knows and looks forward to seeing you.