Talking to Girls Outside of School help?

[chillaxman]

Hello, VT, I have another question for you. I'm not going to explain my history with girls again since it's pretty much pointless. I just don't have particularly good history in the romance department.

Going into my third year of high school in August, I'm a little disappointed to say that there aren't any girls for me there. The girls that have likable personalities amount to a small number, but not in the single digits. I don't like every one of them that way, though. They're cool and all, but I don't see myself dating them. The ones I've felt attraction to have either friendzoned me or pulled bs. That last part about the bs might make me sound like a dick but I can explain it if you want. Anyway, it doesn't seem like I'll get a school girlfriend anytime soon.

Now, if you've gotten the wrong idea and you're reading this far, thank you. I've noticed that I need to be more social and outgoing. This summer I've done nothing but apply to jobs. I've had minimal social interaction. I'm planning to go out to the movies and the mall this weekend, and I'd like some advice on how to talk to girls. I can't muster up the courage to talk to girls, especially in a place as public as a movie theater. I do the worst when she's with a group of friends. At that point I'm like f it I'm done and abstain from talking to them at all.

tl;dr - How can I talk to girls in public places like the mall or movies and possibly get their number to continue talking to them and befriend them?

Thanks for taking your time to read this.

[Cinderella96]

The first thing is to get to know each other by asking her questions. Like how old is she, her hobbies, the music she likes, where does she usually go out and simple things like that. Try to find out some similarities that you have and talk about them ( even if that means mutual friends ). If the girl is not shy, asking her about some events in her life will always help ( yes, girls like talking cause we like guys listening to us :D ) if you see that she has a hard time, try making her laugh. By doing that, she will be relaxed and open up for more talking I hope I helped a little. Good luck :)

[chillaxman]

The first thing is to get to know each other by asking her questions. Like how old is she, her hobbies, the music she likes, where does she usually go out and simple things like that. Try to find out some similarities that you have and talk about them ( even if that means mutual friends ). If the girl is not shy, asking her about some events in her life will always help ( yes, girls like talking cause we like guys listening to us :D ) if you see that she has a hard time, try making her laugh. By doing that, she will be relaxed and open up for more talking I hope I helped a little. Good luck :)

Thanks for the advice. :) How do I start talking though? It seems like it would be creepy to just walk up and say hi and ask them questions without a reason for talking to them.

[Salader]

I strangely enough, find this to be of some help to me when trying to talk to girls: http://wordpress.morningside.edu/cdl001/files/2010/08/SFF-2.gif

Simplify it to your own version but it helps if you sort of structure it like that

[Cinderella96]

Thanks for the advice. :) How do I start talking though? It seems like it would be creepy to just walk up and say hi and ask them questions without a reason for talking to them.


Well the first thing that came up to my mind was asking her where she got her case for her phone or her sneakers cause you are thinking about buying a gift to your friend or simply your friend is looking for something similar that she has. A small compliment never hurts. Then later on, you simply introduce yourself :)
Don't forget to make small jokes, that always helps.

[chillaxman]

I strangely enough, find this to be of some help to me when trying to talk to girls: image (http://wordpress.morningside.edu/cdl001/files/2010/08/SFF-2.gif)

Simplify it to your own version but it helps if you sort of structure it like that
Wat.

Well the first thing that came up to my mind was asking her where she got her case for her phone or her sneakers cause you are thinking about buying a gift to your friend or simply your friend is looking for something similar that she has. A small compliment never hurts. Then later on, you simply introduce yourself :)
Don't forget to make small jokes, that always helps.
Thank you. :) I think I'll try that out.

[Cinderella96]

good luck :)

[mnk222]

Hey man, you helped me on my post earlier so I have some advice to give you. I try to keep a nice split between my friends by having a good balance of male and female friends and from what my female friends tell me, girls don't always want to be bothered by a guy when they are shopping or trying to watch a movie so it's not always possible to immediately walk up to someone and befriend them. However, if they are in a social place or situation, then they are looking to meet people and you can openly walk up to them and compliment them and start a conversation. For example, there are quite a few teen nightclubs around where I live as well as minor league sports teams where you can go and easily talk to people around you because the situation is a social one rather than something they have to get done (shopping) or a private setting (the movies). You might want to bring some friends with you if you want to meet groups of girls at the mall because it's less intimidating than a random guy that's alone walking up to them.

I wouldn't put yourself down about girls, everyone differs in the amount of time that they dedicate to their love life and if you're feeling a lack of confidence in yourself, I would spend some time to work to improve some of the areas that your are insecure about before you pursue any relationships. Confidence is a big factor in attracting women, so make sure that you are sure of yourself before going into a relationship. I would definitely pursue a job as well as exercise as much as possible because that'll give you a sense of responsibility and commitment that girls will see and you'll feel a boost in self worth and pride in your accomplishments from it as well. Just remember that women are people too and aren't too different from men, so just talk to them like normal people, you don't need any special lines or techniques to be successful.

[benjisea]

I don't like typing so much so here. Be natural. Don't pre-meditate in the morning of what to say when you see a girl. It will come out forced and you need to be able to just be yourself.

Here are some situations you can be in.
You see a girl looking at purses in the mall and her eyes are just like in awe. What would I say?
"Wow so many purses to choose from. I know, I know I have trouble picking purses out too."

Say something funny and witty. USE YOUR SURROUNDINGS. If you don't know what to say in your given situation, shut your ego up and just listen.

(I'll type more later :P)

[colepuck]

You say you have a hard to start talking and when she is with a group of her friends it's harder. What I do if I'm feeling shy about talking a someone I'll plan something to do with a group of friends you both know. This way there will be less pressure and for me it's easier to talk to someone.