I'm gay but I have a girlfriend...

[daniel155]

So here's my thing..

I know I'm gay. I like guys and I've admitted that to myself - but I've been going out with this girl for over 11 months.

I've never felt physically attracted to her, we haven't even kissed properly, however we see each other all the time and always text etc etc.

I feel emotionally attracted to her, but not physically.

We cuddle sometimes and hold hands when we're out, but I don't feel like I want to kiss or anything more with her :/

I told her that I was bisexual and that I still like her that way.. which isn't strictly true.. but at least she knows something's up with my sexuality

She's ok with me being bisexual, but I know I'm only emotionally attracted to her, not physically . . . What do I do?? What do I say and how do I go about this?

I still want to continue being really really good friends/whatever we have at the moment with her, but is it fair on her?

Thank you !:D

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You should break up with her. Honestly, you're just leading her on, and the longer you wait the worse it'll be.

[Bazinga]

I agree with Myles, the longer your in a relationship with a girl the harder you'll find it to come out. & 11 months is a long time in a relationship without even kissing properly I'd say (I'm not an expert lol), but maybe she might be ok with being friends if your boyfriend/girlfriend type relationship isn't really going anywhere?

[Abyssal Echo]

If you are sure that you are gay and not Bi then you need to be honest with her and tell her. I know how I feel about being lead on by someone because I just went thru it. It sucks so expect her to be upset, hurt, and maybe pissed off. 11 months is a long time to lead someone on. For me it was only a few months so, it didn't kill our friendship but it has changed it. I wish you luck and hope it turns out Ok for you.

[nice]

The longer you lead her on the worse it's gonna get. 11 months is already so long being lead on hurts and it's fucked up if its a really long time. She might hate you in the end if you keep waiting.

[Lovelife090994]

If you like her emotionally and have been with her this long be honest and tell her, she should understand. I have the same problem with girls but I know that love is not all physical, it's emotional, I'd think it out a bit first but don't wait any longer.

[tundravortex]

just come out to her she might understand...might not be happy but might understand

[Jerwolf38]

i truely think u surely are bi and u love her thats the emotional part but its ur call but if u break up and she doesnt accept it shes not friend material

[DepartInSecret]

Well believe it or not I had this problem and made a post with the same title a while ago...
What I did was tell her that I was gay. It wasn't easy but when i finally told her she was fine with it and to be honest I feel closer to her now then I did when we where going out... If I where you I would tell her.
Good Luck.

[DerBear]

Like others have said, if you leave it too long then its only going to add salt to the wound. I'd tell her soon.

[williamgarlok]

You are bisexual person who likes both male and female because you are attracted to male and female also. If you only have a physical attraction to a male then you are gay otherwise bisexual. You are emotionally attracted to your girlfriend and want to maintain a relationship with her long time also.

[BenjiCleland]

If your gay then tell her that and say it can't work out

[Morgoth42]

Myles is correct, you have to tell her now and not let it go on for to long. Most people will not be very happy about that. Especially if and when it reaches the father. Father's are very protective of their daughters. It would not be fun to make them mad.