Mom read texts

[Nottoocool]

So as my title implies, my mom was reading through my texts and found my conversation with two girls who were the only people in real life I am out to. Now she knows I'm gay and she basically told me not to come out because it could be a phase but she trusts what I think and is ok with it. She's been asking me soooo many questions and its very annoying. Also, she is more mad at me for telling friends before her. She keeps making comments to me about trusting people over text and my sister is getting suspicious. Other than the sibling thing, have any of you ever experienced any thing like this?

P.S. my family is VERY conservative as am I with everything but gay marriage but I don't think my dads side of the family will take me very well. Any advise us helpful!!

[Jevon]

Well that's good your mom is ok with it....and at least you didn't have to actually tell her

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Just be confident, and try not to show any weakness. If you're confident, then they might take you more seriously, and there reactions might be a slight bit softer.

[drew6]

So as my title implies, my mom was reading through my texts and found my conversation with two girls who were the only people in real life I am out to. Now she knows I'm gay and she basically told me not to come out because it could be a phase but she trusts what I think and is ok with it. She's been asking me soooo many questions and its very annoying. Also, she is more mad at me for telling friends before her. She keeps making comments to me about trusting people over text and my sister is getting suspicious. Other than the sibling thing, have any of you ever experienced any thing like this?

P.S. my family is VERY conservative as am I with everything but gay marriage but I don't think my dads side of the family will take me very well. Any advise us helpful!!

Well, I'm not gay but the title caught my attention because I leave my phone around and when i first got one the rule was that they can ask for my phone at any time and go through it. I leave it around, they can I don't mind. I don't know if they do or don't there's definitely some stuff on there they wouldn't be happy about though. Things that would be upsetting to my mom. I'm an only child and she'd not be thrilled to read stuff that implied I've had sex. Not like a ton or anything or anything graphic, but she'd know what happened on at least one occasion from some msgs.

Anyway, sorry to hear your mom found out before you were ready.

I'd cut your mom a TON of slack on questions because you? You've been pondering and questioning for years or at least for a long time. Even now, still wondering about it. So for you it was this .01% thing one day to 10 a while later and eventually to the point where you were sure enough to tell some people. For your mom it was like, 0, 0, 0 bam 100.

So she hasn't had time to think about and plan like you clearly have right?

So the good new is, her gut reaction was pretty dang good imo. You, we, I'd like to think that's an honest reaction, so ... cool for you..

The questions are the same way, this reaction type thing. It's new to her, so she has questions. Let's say your mom said, we're moving to Green Bay, Wisconsin in hour. You'd be like, WHAT? mom! Wait why are we moving? can you explain this to me? Where we gonna live? How are we going to afford two places, what about the dog, hold on what about...

Right, like a bunch of questions....that'd be annoying to her because she's been planning this and already thought about that stuff and some of the questions you're asking are just dumb and pretty insulting a little bit because you haven't had any time to get your head around it, so you're trying to figure it out all at once and she's being all short and snaps at you because you aren't gettin' it. You're asking questions about why and that's irrelevant. You're leaving in an hour, why doesn't matter.

Yeah buts. Yup, you got all these yeah but did ya stop the mail, yeah but, yeah but and you're moving forever, so you wanna be sure...
But Mom, i hate cold weather - the reality is that's great an all, but we got a plane to catch cmon, let's go.

So see what I'm doing to you with my made up thing? You're not bad for being how you are and maybe it is a phase, who knows, but allow your mom a bunch of questions like you're planning the trip. Tons of questions and discussion early on and as day and weeks pass, less and less.

Again, not gay, but being on vt i read abt kids experimenting and wondering and thinking and fearing and all that takes time. Then when they come out they're surprised that the people in their life can't just go from one second of thinking someone is straight...TICK.... one second later..... and then OMG, my friends said THIS, my mom that, my neighbor etc etc. It's a huge deal Right?

Your publically changing your identity. Your sexual identity, but still, a very base type thing. It takes time. Like one of your guy friends first thoughts might be OMG how many times did I say something anti gay. You're wondering why he hasn't reacted yet, but he's in front of you thinking uh-oh.

Took you time, give people time.
Huh, my typical long winded ramble and all from thinking hey, some other kid has his parents lookin at his phone.

have a good day and ooooo it's now the 4th of july.

[Miserabilia]

wow.
1. why she reading thru your text?! thats private
2. just tell her its not a phase and come out officialy

[kryptonite]

wow.
1. why she reading thru your text?! thats private
2. just tell her its not a phase and come out officialy

It's not private if your parents for it. Maybe it's not that way overseas, but a lot of people have that rule...mainly so that their kids don't get in to anything like gangs, bullying, drugs or whatever.

[steve102998]

its cool that your moms cool with it but she needs 2 respet your privicy