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Dylan12133
July 3rd, 2013, 06:35 AM
Okay, so I have a huge crush on my teacher and have had one for quite some time. Four years, to be exact. It all started back in year 9 when she was my homeroom and English teacher. At that point in time, the crush was essentially just a strong fondness, but still a crush nonetheless – however miniscule it may have been. It wasn’t until this year that it has actually begun to flourish uncontrollably. It sounds gay as shit, but I can’t stop thinking about her. I’m 18 and she’s 33 – fairly big age differential I know, but I just can’t help it. She’s not necessarily one of those stereotypical ‘hot teachers’ with big boobs and skimpy outfits, but I think she’s perfect. She’s kind, caring, comical, compassionate, humorous, sometimes immature and just great to be around in general.

I often wonder whether 18 years of age is still old to be crushing on your teachers; truth be told, I just feel like a bloody smitten imbecile. It sounds naïve and foolish, but I’ve never felt this way about a woman. I’ve had a few things and a few girlfriends, but they don’t compare to her – not one bit. She’s always been there for me, and I her. She’s readily made herself available when I’ve needed a chat or a pick me up, always taking the time to make sure I’m in a good headspace. More often than not, we’ll end up having chats in the library about absolute shit for periods of up to half an hour when I don’t have a class, and I cherish each and every one of them. With her, I can be myself – I don’t have to create a façade or force myself. It just comes naturally.

Here’s where it gets embarrassing. A few weeks before I finished year 11, I stumbled upon her blog that she’d been writing for a few weeks. I thought that, by writing a blog, she’d take more notice of me – that and I’d be able to keep in touch over the summer holiday break. Anyway, my plan worked brilliantly. I wrote a few posts, told my mates, one of them told her, she asked me if I had a blog in class, come home that night and wallah – 1 new follower (since then, the whole blogging thing has grown on me, and I’m regularly writing posts). We often interact with each other through it, writing funny comments and offering sage words when we seem down – I like to chuck her the odd compliment every now and again as well. Nothing to untoward or suspicious though, just subtle.

I think it’s fair to say that said teacher hasn’t had the best love life and I’m always picturing myself a few years down the track being the one that would sweep her off her feet. Only, she’s into your man’s man. She’s mentioned umpteen times that she likes her men to be “built like brick shit house” and is “a sucker for beards and tats”. Here’s where it gets even more embarrassing. Because I like her so much, I started working out, started saving for a tat, and have researched how to grow facial hair quicker in an attempt to be all that she desires. I feel like such a loser. I’m probably friend-zoned, though. In fact, I know so. She even said that she “considers me to be a part of her friendship group”. I can’t help but think it has something to do with, not only my age, but the fact that I’m her student. We share a lot of similar interests and have a really fun time when we chat – and it kills me inside to know that something probably won’t happen.

It may just be a stupid school-boy crush, but I really do like her. I’d be fine if we’d just be friends after school, but I wouldn’t be able to handle it if I still liked her and couldn’t express it (I wouldn’t want to ruin what is already a great friendship). We text each other everyone once in a while (nothing illegal, she just likes to check up and see how I’m doing emotionally) and it always brings a smile to my face – no matter what mood I’m in. Sometimes it’s fine, as in, it makes me happy to know that I have a crush on her, but other times it just kills me inside knowing that I just can’t say anything. I’m always happy when I see her/hear from her – I really do like her a lot. But yeah, there’s my story. Anyone have a similar experience/willing to pass on advice?

Thanks for reading, sorry if it was lengthy.

Miserabilia
July 3rd, 2013, 07:06 AM
Hm... sounds like a problem yeah...
You can't really have a relationship with your teacher... I can't give you any advice besides trying to get over it or talk about it or something (sorry im terrible advice)

Zamorakphat
July 3rd, 2013, 07:23 AM
Well, Im sorry to say I have never had this problem, Mabey you should just tell her how you truly feel?

unnamed94
July 3rd, 2013, 03:38 PM
dont tell her. she says she sees you as a friend and thats probably the only way she sees you. shes tour teacher and shes known you for 4 years now. she probably sees you as a friend who she can help and mentor in some way. you are now friends and theres nothing wrong with that, but dont make it awkward by telling her you have a crush.

p.s. dont change for a girl (beacuse of the beard and tats). do it if you like it, not because she does

Party Poison
July 3rd, 2013, 05:48 PM
Don't tell her how you feel, only because she is your teacher. Somebody in my grade told a teacher that this recent school year, and the teacher went to the principal. The principal had the girl's schedule all moved around and all her class rearranged so she would be taken out of that class and not be in any contact with the teacher. It was really awkward for her because she had all her classes changed in the middle of the year, the teacher didn't react the way she had expected, and everyone pretty much knew. A-W-K-W-A-R-D.

CyrustheGreat
July 3rd, 2013, 09:52 PM
hmmmmmm... i cant think of anything but simply dont tell her.

Dylan12133
July 3rd, 2013, 09:56 PM
Thanks for the feedback, I know it's a touchy subject. I think just actually telling someone or being able to express it helps a little bit - albeit if I'm telling random strangers on the net...

AriannaKitten
July 4th, 2013, 01:05 AM
Wait till you get out of school to confess. You could get her into big trouble ..
because of the big age difference .. most likely nothing will happen unless she's a cougar.
She's 33. If she doesn't have a love interest, she'll be looking. She has a clock and needs to have a baby soon enough and you're 18 and you would need to support her and a baby. Also, how is she suppose to go out to anyone? . Her friends? parents? family members? ._. I'm dating a former student whom is 18... ._. that won't go so well. Another thing is you won't be able to affordably lavish her. She's in her early 30's. She's over that whole, teen.. movies, and McDonalds'. 99.9% is that she won't return her feelings.. so moving on would be the best.