Need advice to deal with depressed gf...

[Zamorakphat]

Ok so today im sitting outside watching fireworks and whatnot, And my little brother runs out telling me my Gf wants to talk to me. So, Being a good boyfriend I go inside and grab the phone dial her number and whatnot.

But you probably don't want to read Steven Kings newest novel so im going to tell you the story.

-She used to cut alot, Has a knife in her room but she hasn't cut in about a month now
-Her dad got busted with pot because her sister made a bunch of lies about how they were "Physically Abused" and all he did was smoke pot (P.S He smoked it VERY RARELY)
-My gf has been saying suicidal things and it has been worrying me
-When we were talking today, She was sobbing and saying how she wanted to end her life because she is tired of all the drama


I've been woried sick about her past few days and I really need some advice on what to do. I love her so much and I have already dealt with 1 suicide and the last thing I want to do is go to funeral dedicated to my gf. Any reply would be apreciated!

[Overture Libra]

I think you should just spend more time with her. It's obvious that she's going through a hard time emotionally/mentally, and she needs support. I don't really have any sort of specific advice, as you weren't really specific in the source/cause of her depression and suicidal thoughts.

Simply put in more time to be with her and comfort her, because that's what she needs right now. If she's more of the unstable type that may do something irrational at a moment's notice, it's tricky to say what to do then. Most people would say to tell her parents or notify the proper authorities so she can be prevented from doing anything extreme. As for me? I'd rather not. I'm guessing that you've already talked with your girlfriend about her emotional problems and being depressed and all. If you haven't sat down and had a talk with her about it more in-depth, I'd do that. Right now what she needs more than ever is understanding and support.

Although if there were a situation that came up where she were imminent to do something dangerous, I'd definitely still alert the proper authorities. The reason I'm against that in the first place is because whenever someone is depressed, they want someone to understand them and comfort them. They're also private about how they feel and what's going on on the inside, so whenever you threaten to tell parents or the authorities, it only adds pressure to the situation and it's completely unpredictable in how the person may respond. It can lead to worsening the situation and escalating it to the point that she will be more likely to do something to herself.

I wish you the best with your girlfriend, and if you're able to provide any more info on why she's depressed then I could help more. :)

[Zamorakphat]

I think you should just spend more time with her. It's obvious that she's going through a hard time emotionally/mentally, and she needs support. I don't really have any sort of specific advice, as you weren't really specific in the source/cause of her depression and suicidal thoughts.

Simply put in more time to be with her and comfort her, because that's what she needs right now. If she's more of the unstable type that may do something irrational at a moment's notice, it's tricky to say what to do then. Most people would say to tell her parents or notify the proper authorities so she can be prevented from doing anything extreme. As for me? I'd rather not. I'm guessing that you've already talked with your girlfriend about her emotional problems and being depressed and all. If you haven't sat down and had a talk with her about it more in-depth, I'd do that. Right now what she needs more than ever is understanding and support.

Although if there were a situation that came up where she were imminent to do something dangerous, I'd definitely still alert the proper authorities. The reason I'm against that in the first place is because whenever someone is depressed, they want someone to understand them and comfort them. They're also private about how they feel and what's going on on the inside, so whenever you threaten to tell parents or the authorities, it only adds pressure to the situation and it's completely unpredictable in how the person may respond. It can lead to worsening the situation and escalating it to the point that she will be more likely to do something to herself.

I wish you the best with your girlfriend, and if you're able to provide any more info on why she's depressed then I could help more. :)


Hey thanks for the reply, One problem is I can't see her very often because she lives across town and my mom doesn't have time to drive me there every day. Also whenever I try to talk to her about it, She politely asks me not to, I do apologize for not being more specific in my post about this whole ordeal. I just don't want to put all the details onto the internet if you get what I mean? But I'll try my very hardest to see her more often but its going to be very hard to do so.

[Vintage Gamer Guy]

This may sound stupid, but next time you see her for an extended period of time, kiss hrs cuts. I let's hernknow hat she can trust you.

[brooklynchic]

The best thing to do is to be supportive of her. She may not stop thinking these thoughts quickly but just be patient with her. Try to get her mind off of negative things and focus on positive ones. I'm not sure if you or your girlfriend are religious, but one thing that helps me is prayer. Prayer to God for strength to go on helps me a lot. I hope this advice helps :)