Sad confused and depressed

[Mynick]

Hello VT i haven't posted for a while but i guess im back and need your advice.
Since the last 3 years i've been in love if that's possible with this girl. If that's if possible you ask, simple i've never talked with her face to face with the exception of "Hi and bye". However we've talked on (its on? never get this sorry) facebook several times. We both have problems like self-harm and paranoia and low self-esteem but we also share similar tastes (Hunger Games, Harry Potter, Game of Thrones, all that kind of books/movies). So this allowed me we talk we her for a few moments. But the thing is we only talked for a few weeks them we stoped, and start talking again, and stop etc etc (I've got the feeling that i have failed all the tenses here).
She made crystal clear that she doesnt like me and got a crush (who had sex with and them dumped her.)
So i appear to love this girl but never talked with her. I tryed to forget her bur every single day i see her in school and everything comes again.

[Mynick]

So no one?
Guess im a lost case.

[Lost in the Echo]

Just tell her the way you feel. Maybe she feels the same way about you, as you said, you both share similar interests and traits.
And maybe she's just waiting for you to make the first move?
You'll never know unless you try. You might even regret it.

So yeah, just tell her everything you just said.

Good luck. :)

[MoonMan]

Relax, it can take time for people to respond on here. Doesn't mean you're a lost cause.
If she told you that she honestly doesn't like you, then perhaps you should try and move on from this girl. You could try and get her on the rebound I guess since you guys share similar interests and, in my opinion, have good chemistry. Maybe you can go and talk to her about these interests or maybe some small talk about anything (girls are just people as well and enjoy the attention, it's not like they analyze every word you say and cast you out if you don't always have something interesting to say) and see if you build something along the lines of a friendship. From there you can make the next move and ask her out. But you need to understand you can't force someone to become attracted to you. Chances are you'll more than likely get friendzone since she's made it clear she doesn't initially have an interest in you romantically. You have to be ready to accept this. If you are willing to accept these risks, and you really have feelings for this girl, go and approach her now and again. Talk to her enough to pitch your personality her way so maybe she'll change her mind about not having an interest in you. And if she still has no interest in you or rejects you, move on. It takes two to tango and she's not guaranteed to reciprocate these feelings just because you have some for her. Understand that, be yourself, and try your best. Not much else you can do.

[Mynick]

Thanks, yeah i know people take time to responde, i do it myself, but i was apprehensive.
After we talk a bit she posted on twitter: I want to talk to someone / / he doesnt want to know me at all
someone talk to me / / is usually a boring person

My main problem here is that i can't forget her, i see her pretty much every day.

[MoonMan]

Thanks, yeah i know people take time to responde, i do it myself, but i was apprehensive.
After we talk a bit she posted on twitter: I want to talk to someone / / the doesnt want to know me at all
someone talk to me / / is usually a boring person

My main problem here is that i can't forget her, i see her pretty much every day.
Could you rephrase the twitter posts if possible? I'm not sure I understand what they meant.

[Mynick]

Could you rephrase the twitter posts if possible? I'm not sure I understand what they meant.
We were talking before she posted that.
Basicly means, if she tries to talk with the guy she loves he doesn't want to talk with her. And if someone talks with her usualy is someone the she doesn't fancy.

[Miserabilia]

Sounds like your perfect for each other, but best as friends.

[Mynick]

Sounds like your perfect for each other, but best as friends.
With the exception that we are both f***ed up and in result we dont talk anymore. She's kinda like Effy from Skins.

Anyway thanks for the advices guys.

[MoonMan]

We were talking before she posted that.
Basicly means, if she tries to talk with the guy she loves he doesn't want to talk with her. And if someone talks with her usualy is someone the she doesn't fancy.

Well, I would say that pretty much seals the deal to be honest. She's not interested dude, sorry. Don't worry it happens to all of us at one point or another. I personally get rejected by the majority of the girls I ask out, yet I still managed to get some girlfriends here and there, which made up for all the times I tried and failed. Trust me. Whatever you do, don't dwell on this. I would suggest to keep looking, there's a lot of girls out there and a lot of possibilities for finding another girl you might like. All it takes is one to say yes and losses like this will just fade away into the past where they belong.

[Mynick]

Well, I would say that pretty much seals the deal to be honest. She's not interested dude, sorry. Don't worry it happens to all of us at one point or another. I personally get rejected by the majority of the girls I ask out, yet I still managed to get some girlfriends here and there, which made up for all the times I tried and failed. Trust me. Whatever you do, don't dwell on this. I would suggest to keep looking, there's a lot of girls out there and a lot of possibilities for finding another girl you might like. All it takes is one to say yes and losses like this will just fade away into the past where they belong.
Thanks
Yeah i already kinda knew this but i'm dumb enought to try over and over again. The main problem is to forget her.
So going out and meet new girls helps?

[MoonMan]

Thanks
Yeah i already kinda knew this but i'm dumb enought to try over and over again. The main problem is to forget her.
So going out and meet new girls helps?
That's usually what I did, and I have plenty of experience when it comes to being rejected. You don't have to forget her to move on, by the way. It is possible to relinquish your feelings for her after them not being reciprocated by developing similar feelings on someone or something else. Think of it as a fillable void, or a satisfiable hunger. It is very possible for you to still be around her and fall for someone else in this case. The key is being in touch with your feelings. Identify what it was you liked about this girl and set preferences to guide you in finding another girl with similar qualities. Because, believe or not, she was most likely a small fish is a vast ocean with the amount of girls you can possibly meet. A girl's only a catch if she truly loves you back, remember that if you start to think there's no one out there who can replace her. If you find your attraction to her is really that strong to where you can't stop thinking about her, perhaps you should respectably distance yourself from her before trying anything with other girls. It wouldn't be fair to these new girls if you're just using them as a distraction from the feelings you have for another girl whom you're crushing on every time you see. Take time to think about other things (other girls, hobbies, whatever) and eventually you'll begin to realize it's a possibility to move on and, soon after, it'll become a reality.

[Mynick]

That's usually what I did, and I have plenty of experience when it comes to being rejected. You don't have to forget her to move on, by the way. It is possible to relinquish your feelings for her after them not being reciprocated by developing similar feelings on someone or something else. Think of it as a fillable void, or a satisfiable hunger. It is very possible for you to still be around her and fall for someone else in this case. The key is being in touch with your feelings. Identify what it was you liked about this girl and set preferences to guide you in finding another girl with similar qualities. Because, believe or not, she was most likely a small fish is a vast ocean with the amount of girls you can possibly meet. A girl's only a catch if she truly loves you back, remember that if you start to think there's no one out there who can replace her. If you find your attraction to her is really that strong to where you can't stop thinking about her, perhaps you should respectably distance yourself from her before trying anything with other girls. It wouldn't be fair to these new girls if you're just using them as a distraction from the feelings you have for another girl whom you're crushing on every time you see. Take time to think about other things (other girls, hobbies, whatever) and eventually you'll begin to realize it's a possibility to move on and, soon after, it'll become a reality.
Thanks, she's moving to another thing so i guess that's a good thing. The rest i think i'll figure out

[MoonMan]

Thanks, she's moving to another thing so i guess that's a good thing. The rest i think i'll figure out

Glad I could help. Good luck.