How Do I Win her over?

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i have a major crush on a girl at my school and so does my friend. today, they started going out. i was lost for words when my friend told me. he did it apologetically, which i am thankful for. i just don't know how to get her to like me back now, because my friend is more sporty, more good looking, and is more muscular than me.

Please Help!!!!!!!!

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[Overture Libra]

For the sake of your friendship with him and not to stir things up, I'd keep your mind off of her. I know that must be hard since you really like her a lot, but you need to find hobbies, distractions... Something so that you don't keep thinking about her all the time and let it stress you out.

For the moment there's nothing you can do, plain and simple, that can win her over. Trying to win her over at the current time while she's in a relationship, especially with a friend of yours, is just asking for trouble. Try talking to other girls and don't focus on her so much. Broaden your horizons for other girls and make other friends. If you spend so much time thinking about her you'll forget about everything else you have, so that's a good way to keep the stress to a minimum.

If you distract yourself and you don't find a different girl that you can be with, then keep finding distractions. Do something as simple as looking up funny videos on Youtube, listen to carefree music, or go out and apply for a job. I will say that I wouldn't be surprised if they don't last long, as relationships in the teens can vary greatly in how long they last. I know a lot of teens have long, successful relationships, but it's much more common for relationships to last a very short amount of time, so I wouldn't be surprised if in just a week or two, or just a couple of months, that they break up. Even then, it's not the end of the world at all, they could still break up down the road.

For me, I'd immediately distance yourself and get your mind off of her and find some other people to talk to. Expand your social circle/bubble and talk to other people. Like I said, you just might find another girl that you never knew anything about. People can hide a lot of stuff from the surface. I'd give them around a month or two and if they're still together after that, I'd focus on moving on completely and getting her out of your mind. There's a large world out there, so you never know what you may find around the corner.

And if they do break up, then go and be there for her. I don't want to say that doing that will work, since you can always become a victim of the friendzone, but at the same time you can also flirt with her and show hints (I'd start subtle at first, and slowly get more obvious as days go on) that you like her. If she returns them and acts positively, then just keep it up until you're confident enough that you can go out with her. Going out with someone is similar to marriage in the sense that when you pop the question, you shouldn't actually be asking the question. You should know that she'll say yes, it should be painfully obvious. So if you can get on a comfort level with her that you can feel confident about how she feels about you, then you can take the next step and make a move on her. Don't wait too long, because eventually she'll lose interest, but at the same time, you don't want to move too fast.

I hope I was of some help. I've been put in a very similar situation before, and I know it sucks. Best of luck to you.