Hey um I lost my virginity and got some questions!!!

[Hippy98]

My girlfriend and I had sex on Saturday night for the first time for the both of us. I used to lurk on here before and from the penis size thread I learned that I am above average adult size penis and thought that we would be okay since we are both young (Also cause I didnt think i'd last long either :c ). The thing is that when we had sex.

When I looked down I noticed she was bleeding. I felt so bad I didnt know what to do :( . After we cleaned up she asked if I could go home which see never does and she went to take a shower and that was it.

We havent talked since and I called her house and her sister said she was at the doctors today.

Is it my fault? If I would have know I would have done that I would have never had sex with her. Or is it her period? My friend told me I popped her cherry but I didnt think that was real. You think she would break up with me?

[allie127]

Try calling her again...eventually when you get hold of her ask her how she felt about it.poping her cherry means breaking the hymn which happens when a girl is a virgin, some irls bleed others dont.

[Overture Libra]

First of all, that's not EXTREMELY uncommon. I doubt she'd do that with you while she's on her period, but you never know. I'd imagine that since it is your first time you didn't go gentle enough, so it caused some bleeding.

I'm actually a virgin, but I do know a good bit about sex (at least for being one), but I've never been in anything close to your position, nor hers, so I wouldn't know if she'd be willing to break up over it. I'd definitely consider sitting down and talking with her about it as soon as you can though, since you shouldn't leave it in the dark.

And I can't help but feel that you thought her screaming was a good thing because of watching porn. I'm just going out on a limb, so I'm not saying that's true, but if it is then you should understand that what you watch is a helluva lot different from what you should actually do. Most of the time, porn is catered to only arousing you, and isn't a shining example whatsoever of what the real situation should be like. I wouldn't be surprised if she was screaming out of pain or because it was uncomfortable to her. Like I said, I'd address it with her and patch up the problem.

Considering it was her first time, I would say that it's not as bad as it would seem, since you popped her cherry and all.

[Steven1]

Most girls bleed on their first time having sex, so it's probably that, so your friend was right.

[nevillee9]

That will be the hymen, don't worry!

[DerBear]

Since I'm assuming she was a virgin, you penetrated her hymen which if she's a virgin would still be intact and therefore can cause about a table spoon to two table spoons of blood. Generally it looks worse than it is. It can cause some pain as well.

The fact is medically you do nothing wrong but assuming you didn't know this maybe you weren't ready/educated for sex.

[gloverjake]

thats normal for her to bleed if it was her first time you tore her hymen..it was probably just a really big moment in her life and she doesnt exactly know what to think of it

[Taryn98]

It's very common to bleed the first time a girl has sex. It has nothing to do with your size.

[Nomad_X]

The fact is medically you do nothing wrong but assuming you didn't know this maybe you weren't ready/educated for sex.



I would tend to agree here.

[SammyG17]

Some people tend to "freak out" on their first contact, or second...or few contacts with someone else. If her sister wasn't mean about talking to you, that might be a good sign.

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The fact is medically you do nothing wrong but assuming you didn't know this maybe you weren't ready/educated for sex." I agree with this. And apply it to your girlfriend also.

Blood is common, especially if you are larger than what a girl has had inside of her. I've had friends that have had a decent amount. And I've had others that didn't bleed at all. The same for pain. Some say it was unbearable, and others didn't feel any.

" I used to lurk on here before and from the penis size thread I learned that I am above average adult size penis and thought that we would be okay since we are both young" Totally wrong reason to have sex.

The fact its been a few days is concerning also. You know where she lives, why not stop by and check on her?

[foxtrot.12]

sex changes people a lot it's been scientifically studied in fact. often girls retract from others because they feel exposed and vulnerable. this is why we are told to wait to have sex...but you're past that sooo let's move forward she'll decide how she feels you decide how you feel relationships DON'T require sex it's something meant to be saved but if that's what you want then take that above average dick and go to town.

[PinkFloyd]

Bleeding is not irregular when the hymen (cherry) is popped. If I were you, I would call again later when you feel like it.

[CyrustheGreat]

its ok. her cherry popped. shes probably just a bit freaked out.

[LitBlackRose]

Since she was a virgin it hurts the first time so yeah maybe you just weren't as gentle but it was your first time you should try calling her again

[Sharona]

Talk about not being old enough

[GigglyAbby]

I'm a bit concerned that she ended up going to the doctor 2-3 days later as a result of her period starting or a highly probable hymen tear as that seems quite long to have issues. The only thing I could guess is that the pressure from sex could have elevated a blood disorder she may have [saw a similar story on a show like Bizarre E.R.]. Have you spoken to her since? Did you find out what happened and why she saw a doctor 2-3 days later?