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Trae329
July 2nd, 2013, 12:39 AM
Hello everyone,

I probably will start just blabbing and blabbing like crazy, so make sure you're ready to read.

I've had some fights recently with other best friends, and I honestly was fed up with one of them. We are no longer friends anymore, so I was kind of alone recently until Memorial Day weekend of this year, in which my friend (but not best) asked me if I wanted to go to a party with him and another friend that also happened to be one of my friends as well. Sweet! We had a great time, there was a pool and stuff... Oh my gosh I'm getting off-track.

So he asked his parents if we could sleep over at his place for the night. His name is Jason, and he is 14 as well as I am. So we did, and later that night, I forget who said it, but Jason got off of his bed in his room (keep in mind his parents were already asleep) and showed us his "bush". Honestly I thought it was just a little bit of straight hair, nothing really impressive. Adam then got up and he basically had the same bush. Well, it was my turn, so I got up and showed them mine. Now don't get me wrong, but AFAIK, when pubes are more developed, they get thick, black, and curly. Mine are; my pubic hair was at a point like theirs but it just started to happen. They thought I had a small bush and in the back of my mind I was like "Uh... Switch that around." But I didn't say anything. And then I noticed... Jason started to stare at me. Like, into my eyes kind of stare. But most of all, it turned me on. Something that had never happened before between the both of us.

Later on, it was almost 1 AM when Adam brought up the idea of watching porn. Jason said he never watched it before, which surprised the both of us. But hey, he is a little shy so it wasn't THAT unexpected. So we showed him porn on my iPhone through a VPN (hehe :3) and he was really excited about it.

We were halfway through the "film" when he started to lean on my shoulder. When Adam tried to lean on Jason's, he'd push him away. When I did however, he was completely fine with it. He said in a very calm (almost aroused) voice, "You're shoulder is really comfortable." Now don't get me wrong but it was almost really emotional and usually normal straight guys don't do that..

But whatever, I brushed it off. We went to bed but oddly he said "Good night and sweet dreams." Something he had never said before when we had a sleepover in the past. I thought to myself, "Hey, it could be true that he does like me but once again we were all delirious, so I'll let it go."

The next day we played wiffle ball with the neighbors around, and during that period he was staring at me even when I looked away, surely realizing to myself that I started doing the same. On the way back to his house, he kept brushing shoulders with me and "getting in my personal space."

Damn did that turn me on. Next thing I knew I became best friends with him. I always talk to him when I can and he does too, but when I text him sometimes I'll try to flirt and he says "Dude that's a little gay." Tonight however I texted something to cool things down: "Hey dude, when I send gay stuff like that you should just know that I am joking.."

What did he say? It surprised the hell out of me.

"Dude, that doesn't bother me. I was just kidding when I said it was gay."

Along with a heart smiley kind of like this :wub: with a kiss emoticon beside it and a wink.

I really don't think this is normal for a straight guy, he might not be gay but he definitely seems curious. One time I asked him if he "needed anything" and he thought it was gay, I just said "I wasn't going to show you my dick geez" and he laughed and immediately switched to another subject.

Also, we text constantly now and we always say good night to each other every night.

Please help - I really think I like him a lot, unless it's my hormones acting up..
I mean, I do feel attraction to girls but I feel that I can really trust him with my life.. And it seems the same with him.

Any ideas? What should I do? I might have him over this week so any help would be gladly appreciated.

-Trae

NikosamA98
July 2nd, 2013, 06:32 AM
I wish that happens to me one day :P
i think he is curious and obviously a str8 guy wouldnt do that. Im not saying he is gay but he do have an attraction for you

Trae329
July 2nd, 2013, 11:18 AM
I wish that happens to me one day :P
i think he is curious and obviously a str8 guy wouldnt do that. Im not saying he is gay but he do have an attraction for you

You wish that would happen to you?
Well, don't. I wish more would happen. I need to know the truth about him as it's making me extremely confused. He denied that he is gay twice but come on, I don't think straight guys do what he did.

Also, forgot to mention that we brought up the "comparing pubic hair" idea and he said that it was just sexual experimentation because we are both going through puberty. He also agreed with me on the fact that I didn't want to do it but I also wanted to do more experimenting at the same time.

What I'm hoping is that he either comes out as gay and tells me the truth or is at least bisexual / bi-curious and has feelings for me.

He also blushes whenever I talk to him sometimes, and almost the same with him. When we talk sometimes we make it seem awkward but he always smiles and stares at me because he knows that I'm fooling around with him.

And he likes it.

My main point here is that although he might be showing signs of someone going through puberty but he also shows that staring, close physical attractions, and blushing isn't really normal for puberty. We always joked around with each other as friends but it just seems a little stronger now.

photojared
July 2nd, 2013, 11:50 AM
in a way that happened to me, try to get him alone and just ask in all seriousness "are you gay or bi-curious" and say it face to face, and if he say's yes then let things take its course

foxtrot.12
July 2nd, 2013, 11:55 AM
its hard to tell when someone is done joking even if he wasnt maybe he just wants to experiment if neither of you are "gay" just lean in towards doing more and then eventually just ask if he's gay you'll figure it out. honestly i agree with the hormones thing

NikosamA98
July 2nd, 2013, 03:22 PM
I wish it happens to me because im horribly in love with my bestfriend and he is horribly hetrosexual...he doesnt know about my sexuality. I think you have to give time to your friend. He wont decide in 2 days what he likes and what not, and he is interested on you because he wants to experiment as he said. Maybe he has feelings for yoy but he wont tell you and he wont decide if he is gay/bi soon...:/

Trae329
July 2nd, 2013, 08:29 PM
in a way that happened to me, try to get him alone and just ask in all seriousness "are you gay or bi-curious" and say it face to face, and if he say's yes then let things take its course

its hard to tell when someone is done joking even if he wasnt maybe he just wants to experiment if neither of you are "gay" just lean in towards doing more and then eventually just ask if he's gay you'll figure it out. honestly i agree with the hormones thing

He had said that he was not gay once before, but he got EXTREMELY embarrassed when I asked him because another friend was there when I asked.

I mean, I'd like to experiment more just because I want to but the thing is I think he wants to also. So if its in the case that we are both not gay how would I get to experimenting without scaring the hell out of him?

Trae329
July 3rd, 2013, 05:57 PM
Any help guys?

From my previous post, I'd like to experiment more with him because I want to but I don't know how to ask him. How would I get to experimenting without getting a negative reaction?

billybigfish
July 3rd, 2013, 06:42 PM
Basically dude, I would just tell him how you feel, maybe one night when you're staying round his house, but make sure it's just you and him there. But I'm sure if you tell him how you feel and maybe even ask him if he wants to try stuff them you never know, maybe he will.
Best of luck dude! P.s I would give anything to be in your position right now!
I'm always free if you wanna talk some more about it by the way

Trae329
July 3rd, 2013, 07:26 PM
Basically dude, I would just tell him how you feel, maybe one night when you're staying round his house, but make sure it's just you and him there. But I'm sure if you tell him how you feel and maybe even ask him if he wants to try stuff them you never know, maybe he will. Best of luck dude! P.s I would give anything to be in your position right now! I'm always free if you wanna talk some more about it by the way


Thanks for the response.

Honestly I don't know how I feel, but if he can come over tomorrow I'll see if I can get him to sleepover. (Just so my parents are asleep upstairs, I sleep downstairs when I have a sleepover with my friends)

Trae329
July 4th, 2013, 10:51 PM
Of course, duh, I forgot today was the 4th of July, so he had to go to a picnic.

I'm going to try to get him to come over tomorrow even to sleepover, so yeah.. Gonna act a little flirty so see if I can at least do SOMETHING closer than before.

And I have the idea kinda planned so if he can actually come over then I'll post back on my results.

Thanks again everyone!

Seth.
July 4th, 2013, 11:30 PM
Don't be so uptight. Lots of straight boys who are 14 have a lot of fun playing around and experimenting. It's something that comes and goes and not to be taken too seriously. If it were me, I'd come into the room being shared for the sleepover let him see me naked after coming in from a shower. You are both boys after all. You guys can get naked together, masturbate together and even sleep in the same bed together, without either of you being gay. It's just horny young teen boys who are good friends having some fun and closeness. Boys who are friends can love each other without being in love.

Trae329
July 5th, 2013, 08:34 PM
Don't be so uptight. Lots of straight boys who are 14 have a lot of fun playing around and experimenting. It's something that comes and goes and not to be taken too seriously. If it were me, I'd come into the room being shared for the sleepover let him see me naked after coming in from a shower. You are both boys after all. You guys can get naked together, masturbate together and even sleep in the same bed together, without either of you being gay. It's just horny young teen boys who are good friends having some fun and closeness. Boys who are friends can love each other without being in love.

Yeah, I understand. However I'm just a little nervous because if I do that and he freaks out it's going to be a little awkward so I just want to make sure he's at least curious.

Thanks

Seth.
July 6th, 2013, 02:53 AM
Yeah, I understand. However I'm just a little nervous because if I do that and he freaks out it's going to be a little awkward so I just want to make sure he's at least curious.
Thanks

Well then you'll have to think of what you consider an appropriate way to test his curiosity. He sure seems to be putting out signals. You know him better than I do. Hope it works out right. Please give an update whichever way it goes. But I think you'll be fine.