Please help soon im desperate

[jacktheawesome]

Thank you so much for looking at this.

In have an amazing friend. She is talented and smart and just kind overall. But I'm scared for her. I think she is going to kill herself, and I don't know how to talk her out of it. I need help and fast. Please this could save my friends life.

[MartyG]

Hi,

That's a mighty scary scenario. I really feel for you; and I'm glad your friend has you. I'm sure you'd do anything to help her.

Is she in immediate danger? Like RIGHT NOW? If so.....you should call 911 and follow their instructions.

Is she living with her family? Is her family in a position to help? I know that you might be concerned about sharing her secrets with her parents.....but this is a scenario where her parents need to know the situation....if they don't already.

Where is your friend at this moment? Who is she with?

[jacktheawesome]

Hi,

That's a mighty scary scenario. I really feel for you; and I'm glad your friend has you. I'm sure you'd do anything to help her.

Is she in immediate danger? Like RIGHT NOW? If so.....you should call 911 and follow their instructions.

Is she living with her family? Is her family in a position to help? I know that you might be concerned about sharing her secrets with her parents.....but this is a scenario where her parents need to know the situation....if they don't already.

Where is your friend at this moment? Who is she with?

She is not in danger right now... I don't know.much about her family. Thank you so much

[Mob Boss]

Hi, wow


Remind her that what she's going through right now isn't life. It's a fleeting moment in her life, so it shouldn't define her entire life. That everyone has struggles. Having struggles doesn't make us weak; in fact, pushing through the struggles is what forms strong people. Remind her that she deserves all the happiness in the world and that no one or nothing should ever take that happiness away from her. Tell her that there are many, many people that find themselves in her exact position, but she can be one of the ones that realize life is worth soso much more than what she's facing. Tell her that she can find happiness in everything if she searches for it, and only she can take that happiness away. Remind her just because she's going through a tough spot, doesn't mean she should end her life. It's a permanent solution. There is no turning back, second-guessing once she's done. There's very rarely re-do's. This is real. Nothing is worth that. Tell her about VT, if you'd like. We'd all love to help her.


And lastly, send her this:

http://25.media.tumblr.com/93f9f70ad1c7be1601f26dd2c4b80dc0/tumblr_mp2g6hsCPZ1rgr9gjo1_500.jpg

[foxtrot.12]

hug her...dont let go...hug her again...dont leave...and get her professional help she wont want to but you can at least tell the most understanding adult you can find..try firemen they're pretty awesome or teachers

[MartyG]

you're welcome awesome.....

Is your friend a friend IRL....someone you can physically be with to hug? Or; as so many of are friends are nowadays....an online friend?

[Sharona]

Speak to her parents asap

[jacktheawesome]

you're welcome awesome.....

Is your friend a friend IRL....someone you can physically be with to hug? Or; as so many of are friends are nowadays....an online friend?

Yeah she is. But now I'm scared... she just started drinking

[Overture Libra]

I actually feel differently about this...I wouldn't go to the police, I wouldn't tell her parents, and I definitely wouldn't attempt at talking her out of anything.

If she's suicidal, she's obviously depressed. She's depressed because she's unhappy. I wouldn't be surprised if it's because no one understands her. She most likely feels like no one cares, and those that she's talked to don't understand her, why she's feeling what she's feeling, and they pressure her to do things without putting themselves in her shoes, so if you just went up to her or texted her or something saying "Don't do it, there's more to life.", she'll only think "He doesn't understand how I feel. He doesn't get why I'm doing this, the pain I've felt. No one understands me..."

I say you should get closer with her. Don't mention how she's depressed. Instead, treat her with respect, talk to her like you would any other person. Once you get that casual level of friendship, you should take it to that next level and start talking about personal things. She should be comfortable with sharing whatever it is that's causing her depression and suicidal tendency. Of course, you sharing the bad things that have happened in your life will only help and she'll see that you understand her, instead of just another person that urges her not to do anything bad.

Of course, that could bring up the issue of "That takes too long. I don't want to do that because I could easily be too late to save her." and while that's true, it's also true that if you're a good friend and you can be great friends with her, then it'll help with her depression and sadness, which should mean that it would hold her off from doing anything irrational for the most part.

I've always found that even though you should contact the authorities, her parents, or pressure her not to do anything bad, it's never actually helped. It tends to just put more pressure on the person, like they're doing something wrong and they don't want everyone to know, they want to keep it private and in the dark. Of course, if she does do something crazy suddenly, I definitely think you should pressure her not to do anything. If things escalate, then I'd agree that you have no problem but to tell her parents/contact the authorities. Even though that escalates the situation, exposes her to everyone else, and puts even more pressure on her, anything is better than suicide.

I hope I was of some help. I wish you luck in helping your friend.

[jacktheawesome]

Thank you all.

[MartyG]

jacktheawesome.....

Remember my friend that you are only one person.....and you're 13. Please don't think that you can bear this burden on your own. Please realize that; possibly, you will do everything that you possibly can......and it still might not be enough.

Do you really want to have that hanging over you for the rest of your life......that you tried; by yourself....to help this person and you failed?

You have your own welfare to think about too.

I strongly urge you to bring others into this scenario.....other teens....other adults.....other MINDS so you all can put your heads together and figure out what is best.

No way do you want to bear this responsibility for another person's life all by yourself.

I want to hug you man.......

[MoonMan]

This responsibility isn't on your shoulders my friend. You may do everything in your power to help and be there for this person but, ultimately, it's their choice. Don't start blaming yourself already, just try and be the best friend you can be and contact someone if she starts doing something drastic or out of the ordinary. That's all you can do at this point and that's all anyone should ask of you. Everything else is out of your control, unfortunately.

[MartyG]

Yeah she is. But now I'm scared... she just started drinking

Yeah she is.....

Yeah she is what? An IRL friend or an online friend?

This sort of thing sucks with online friends. You can't really know what their life is like. You can't really look them in the eye (webcams aren't the same) and you sure can't hug them.

Does your circle of friends include anyone who knows her IRL?

PM me if you want; I wish you both peace.

[jacktheawesome]

jacktheawesome.....

Remember my friend that you are only one person.....and you're 13. Please don't think that you can bear this burden on your own. Please realize that; possibly, you will do everything that you possibly can......and it still might not be enough.

Do you really want to have that hanging over you for the rest of your life......that you tried; by yourself....to help this person and you failed?

You have your own welfare to think about too.

I strongly urge you to bring others into this scenario.....other teens....other adults.....other MINDS so you all can put your heads together and figure out what is best.

No way do you want to bear this responsibility for another person's life all by yourself.

I want to hug you man.......

Thanks... but here's the thing.
I need to help others. When someone is down... I can't live with myself if I don't do something and this is scaring me