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UnfinishedParadox
July 1st, 2013, 04:00 AM
Ok, so back in February, I went all out for this girl. I planned it out and made it all romantic and meaningful, and on Valentine's Day, I told her exactly how I felt. I told her that I liked her a lot, that I had never felt the same about anyone, ever. I told her that I really value the person that she is and that I really wanted us to be more than friends. Then I waited for her answer. She told me that she liked me back, that she didn't know how to respond. She told me that noone had ever gone to the same lengths for her. She showed just a little hesitation, and told me a story about an ex of hers. She was friends with him, and they dated, but eventually, she told me, they began to jist hate each.other, and she liked me so much that she didn't want that to happen with us. I tried to reassure her but nothing helped, so I told her that I would give her some time to think about it.

Exactly two weeks passes and I bring up the subject with her again. February 28th, I asked her out again, and she told me that she was not willing to risk our friendship on a relationship that might not work. I tried to sway her, but nothing could change her mind, so I took the no, and walked away.

Ever since then I had been trying jard to get over her and move on, and I thought I had succeeded.

Fast forward to a few weeks ago. My high school had it's annual Freshman end of the year event, everyone dressed up, everyone looking great. And I saw her, and she was beautiful. I just couldn't. She was amazing, and I couldn't keep away. We danced and had fun together. Then after, I realized that my feelings may had never have been gone, but now they were back, and stronger than before. I didn't know what to do, so eventually I worked up the nerve to aske her out again.

This is what I said

Hey Fransis. It's T.J. I have to say this so I'm not wondering what if for the rest of my life. So, here it goes, I guess. Fransis, like I said back in February, I'm crazy about you. I've never felt this way about anyone, ever. I can't just stop feeling how I feel. I can't just give you up; and I won't. I have to make this move, to try one last time. Fransis, I want us to be together. I want us to be so great a couple that when people see us, they're like "Wow, they're still together?". I want to be closer to you than anyone else. I want to hold you in my arms, to look deep into your beautiful brown eyes and know that you're mine. Honestly, I just want you, and everything that comes with being with you. So if I haven't already made my point, I want there to be an us, a me and you. T.J. and Fransis against the world. I wany to be the boyfriend of the most beautiful girl in the world.

This was her responss

aww I think thats the nicest thing anyone has ever told me >A< im actually surprised I don't really know what to say. I don't understand im so weird and you like me >.< I find that crazy, I feel like your feeling are so strong I don't want to loose them, I want to come to feel the same way, I want to say the same things you said to me. but im a horrible person, I havn't liked anyone for a while, and its mostly because I stopped caring about people. whenever someone says something as sweet as what you said I want to say the same. but I don't want to lie because going out with the person you like is a great feeling! but going out with the person you like... having the person not like you back ,.. I think that's worst than cheating, and its happened to me before and I hate it. so I want to know more about you tj, I want us to hang out and be really close so I can tell you I love you :) w

I really don't know what to do. Someone help me

Melodic
July 1st, 2013, 05:14 AM
Looks like she wants to take things slowly and see what happens. So just live in the moment with her and see what happens between you two.

ForeverTwelve
July 1st, 2013, 05:56 AM
Just spend time with her. Be her friend. Be her best friend. Enjoy what you already have with her. She danced with you, thats a good start. See if you two can hang out sometime, but don't call it a date... telling her its a date will put her in a different mindset, and make her more conscious to your courting, and could push her away. If you gradually develop your friendship into something closer, and she knows you're there for her, then eventually, it'll just fall into place. I believe in fairy tales.