"Wrong" Age Difference

[AleksFlappy]

Hi, I'm a 15 y.o. guy. I'm bi, and I am in a relationship with my bestfriend, but he is only 12. We already did stuff, such as BJ, HJ. I wonder if the age difference makes this relationship "wrong", or should i stop worrying?

[zeebo]

I don't know, 12 seems pretty young

[clmbusboy1]

I think with ages its abotu how you get along...not every 15 is the same as other 15s and not every 12 is the same as other 12s
iIf you guys get along awesome and have a great relationship then I'll say stay with it.

I just think him being 12 might end up boring you after a while. Plus unless he's an "early" 12, then you stop you from doing some things.

Go with what you think feels like the right thing.

[tyler1818]

If you like each other do what you feel Is right

[Lost in the Echo]

If you two are happy together, I don't see a problem. Anyway, in my opinion, maturity matters more than age. If you think he's mature enough for you, and you guys truly love each other, then everything is fine. :)

Also...
Puberty for Boys :arrow: Relationships & Dating.

[Melodic]

I think you both should do what's comfortable. I know people can mature quicker than others so I don't really judge age difference unless it's a very big age difference,

[imaguybro]

12 is young because he is getting ready for puberty. His hormones are going to kick in and if he changes on how he feels out you its going to be bad for the friendship.

[unnamed94]

it seems im the only one who sees that its completely wrong. he's 12 ffs. he's probably not even half way through puberty. hj and bj? thats just sick imo. he is just a kid. i really hope this is just some kind of joke. i dont get why some people here on vt think a relationship between a 15 year old and a 18 year old is wrong but a 15-12 isnt

[photojared]

a little on the young side at least try for anymore 13 years of age

[Cece14]

Age doesnt matter!! Your age shouldnt matter, as long as your with the person you love!

[Harley Quinn]

I think that it's wrong. The guy is 12 years old, and has not gone through puberty yet and neither have you. But, he is at the age where he will just be starting to go through with it. Maturity wise, man, I don't care. I'm thinking more emotionally and physically that it's wrong. I mean, it's also a bit weird. I don't mean that in a rude way because some things that are weird are good, it's just you're old enough to understand in some ways what you're doing. A 12 year old does not know what they are doing and does not know if what they're doing is right. At the end of the day, I don't think our opinions will matter because there will be people that say that it's fine and there's people like me that doesn't think that it is okay. I think some people find it easier to say it's alright though, due to the fact they don't want to start an argument with people. I just think you're taking advantage of this boy.

[CyrustheGreat]

If you two are happy together, I don't see a problem. Anyway, in my opinion, maturity matters more than age. If you think he's mature enough for you, and you guys truly love each other, then everything is fine. :)

Also...
Puberty for Boys :arrow: Relationships & Dating.

'Ya, it sounds ok to me. Oh and another thing...' *Non chalantanly move thread* 'Your welcome!'
I'd say it's ok, but whatd I know...

[Overture Libra]

I think that it's wrong. The guy is 12 years old, and has not gone through puberty yet and neither have you. But, he is at the age where he will just be starting to go through with it. Maturity wise, man, I don't care. I'm thinking more emotionally and physically that it's wrong. I mean, it's also a bit weird. I don't mean that in a rude way because some things that are weird are good, it's just you're old enough to understand in some ways what you're doing. A 12 year old does not know what they are doing and does not know if what they're doing is right. At the end of the day, I don't think our opinions will matter because there will be people that say that it's fine and there's people like me that doesn't think that it is okay. I think some people find it easier to say it's alright though, due to the fact they don't want to start an argument with people. I just think you're taking advantage of this boy.
I agree with you. It's not that the age gap is as much of a problem as the age range. In that age group, it's the prime of puberty and when it's really starting to kick in, so that could affect development in different ways. I would actually agree and say it's alright if you weren't doing anything sexual together, because personally, I feel that 12 is just too young for that. If you said you with a 17 year old I wouldn't have a problem with it, because you're both far enough along in development that it won't cause any major changes. To me, it just feels immoral/wrong to do things like that with a 12 year old.

You can call me misunderstanding and say that I have no empathy, but it's just my honest opinion.

[qurious17]

If it feels right it IS right. Stop fretting.

[shinodas]

If it feels right it IS right. Stop fretting.

feeling good and feeling right is different, and im not sure they know whats right, not claiming i do, if they BOTH want to do that, i frankly don't care,
just look out for when you're an adult and he's still underage

[Jevon]

Um I think it is wrong because that the time when he is just going through puberty and figuring stuff out

[Rayquaza]

The guy hasn't even experienced much or any of puberty yet and you're already doing things like that? You don't love him emotionally but you think you do, because you as a 15 year old are not old enough to make life decisions such as engaging in sexual acts. You two should be children and have fun enjoying life and staying innocent, not getting caught up in this imbecilic underage sex. So the answer? Yes, it is wrong.

[RickMason]

If he changes his views on your relationship (he has plenty of time to do so), he might feel under pressure from you. If you really love him, never stop checking if he really wants this. If he won't feel like it, get off, man. It risky to keep a relationship like this as you both can walk out of this scarred for life.

[Luminous]

If he changes his views on your relationship (he has plenty of time to do so), he might feel under pressure from you. If you really love him, never stop checking if he really wants this. If he won't feel like it, get off, man. It risky to keep a relationship like this as you both can walk out of this scarred for life.

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