idk

[kristsen91]

ok i have this firend and he is a guy and he is gay and i let him give me a b/j and he has this huge crush on me now wat should i do... help me pls

[Gumleaf]

puberty for boys - teen sexuality

[byee]

Well, what did you expect? It's always good to (at least try) to anticipate the possible consequences of your actions beforehand. You looked at (and experienced) this little experiment differently than he did.

Anyway, you need to let him know nicely that you like him as just a friend.

[Sugaree]

So you thought that if he gave you a bj then he wouldn't have a crush on you and he's gay?

Well it's hard to believe that you didn't expect this. I agree with Sam that you need to tell him you guys are just friends

[dietdoctapeppa]

Hmm, if he has a big crush on you, maybe it's a sign that he's questioning his sexuality and thinking he might be straight.... maybe being honest about how you feel and talking to him about it would be your best bet! Is he a close friend? GOod luck...

[Tatsuya]

you can tell him that you`re just experimenting.....and you just want to be his friend and tell him that you are very sorry and hope that you can just be friends....i wish you good luck:)

[kristsen91]

thanks guys

[kristsen91]

but this guy told me that he had a huge crush on me since elementry school so it wasnt the b/j that made him like me...

[whitecar]

idk... talk to him about it... thats really it, just let him know u just wanna b friends...

[byee]

but this guy told me that he had a huge crush on me since elementry school so it wasnt the b/j that made him like me...

This doesn't change my advice to you (that you need to say you like him as just a friend).

I think the larger issue (especially with this additional bit of info you just provided) is that you showed less than good judgement (and kindness to him) when you allowed someone who had a crush on you to perform a sexual favor. That's because if he already had strong feelings for you, giving you a b/j would only intensify those feelings. I'm not sure why you weren't able to see this beforehand, but you might take a lesson from this experience. Unless both parties have the same understanding of the behavior, the chances for complications afterwards are pretty good.

Apologize and let him know you like him as a friend. And I'd strongly recommend you not do this with him again.

[ideasgirl]

Whether you let him give you a b/j or not, he just has a crush on you. It might be an obsessive crush, but loads of people get them and even though they think it'll last forever it wears off. You just have to be very clear on where you stand. Tell him you reguard him as a friend only, and that you don't want his feelings to complicate your friendship and that they're making you uncomfortable. You might have to take a bit of space from each other to let him get over it, but he will eventually. Whateve you do don't feel guilty and fool arond with him again because it'll just get so much worse.