Relationships are hard to come by for me.

[AriannaKitten]

I don't understand why It's like that for me.
I mean me being insecure is pretty well known but that can't be the reason? can it?.
I'm not ugly, I'm nice and sweet.
It is it because I'm not willing to go any further than like kissing? .-. Sick of being single :confused::confused::confused::confused::confused:

[Extreme586]

Well if it makes you feel any better I'm 17 and have never been in a relationship. I'm also insecure and tbh, I've noticed recently its one of the biggest reasons why. I push people away because I don't think I'm good enough for them. Sure I'm one of the nicest people you'll ever meet but without confidence and being proud of who you are inside, being nice doesn't go far.

Biggest thing I found that helps is finding things you like about yourself and reminding yourself about them as often as possible. Makes you feel good and the insecurity starts to go away.

[gotstyle]

Doesn't matter insecure girls in my opinion are more pretty :) and if u don't want to go any further then kissing then that's your say don't let a guy make u guilty or talk u into it if ur not ready then ur not no one can change that but you

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I'm also forever alone! Don't worry, there's somebody out there MADE for us, we just have to find them.

[CyrustheGreat]

I don't understand why It's like that for me.
I mean me being insecure is pretty well known but that can't be the reason? can it?.
I'm not ugly, I'm nice and sweet.
It is it because I'm not willing to go any further than like kissing? .-. Sick of being single :confused::confused::confused::confused::confused:

Maybe guys were just man-wh*res and wanted to go farther, or maybe they are secretly insecure as well and felt bad for trying to push you further, idk.

[AriannaKitten]

I'm also forever alone! Don't worry, there's somebody out there MADE for us, we just have to find them.
I'm still waiting /.\ .

[AriannaKitten]

Well if it makes you feel any better I'm 17 and have never been in a relationship. I'm also insecure and tbh, I've noticed recently its one of the biggest reasons why. I push people away because I don't think I'm good enough for them. Sure I'm one of the nicest people you'll ever meet but without confidence and being proud of who you are inside, being nice doesn't go far.

Biggest thing I found that helps is finding things you like about yourself and reminding yourself about them as often as possible. Makes you feel good and the insecurity starts to go away.
That's the thing, I don't push them away... I just lean towards the ..please don't touch me.. or look directly at me.. I'm shy /.\ ..I'm just waiting for some to tell me, I'm fine that way and they don't need to go further than kissing.

[Overture Libra]

I can relate perfectly with you, as I've also never been in a relationship. I'm also the shyer, nicer type. I can be extremely selfless at times when I get carried away, and I've been told I have a big heart, but that doesn't matter much when little people know that, right?

I'd imagine that since you're the shy type, you don't choose to talk to guys, guys talk to you, which is typically how things go (at least where I am). I'd say that it is your insecurity that's the root of the issue, because that causes you to show off less of your personality and what you're really like. If you're just the type that stays away and doesn't show off any of your personality, than the average guy isn't going to look at you and go "Hey, look at that nice, sweet girl over there.", they're going to say "I wonder why she doesn't like to be around anyone? Maybe she doesn't want to talk..? I won't bother her." They may also think "She's boring and doesn't have anything to show off, so I'm just not gonna mess with her, she's not worth my time."

It's not that your personality or kindness is to blame, but more likely that you don't show it enough. I bet if you talked with more guys and did your best to open up more to them, they'd be a lot more interested in you.

And as for you not wanting sex so freaking much? That's not a problem at all, that's an issue with the guys in your area/the ones you've talked to. There's nothing wrong with not wanting sex, not at all; it just means you prefer cuddling over sex for a night. If you can't find any guys in your area that fit you and that actually want more than just a one night stand, then just give it time. Maybe you'll go on a trip somewhere and meet someone, or maybe someone will move to your area and will stand out to you.

And besides, being single isn't so bad. For some guys, that's seen as an admirable trait and that can be respected.