My boyfriend can't cum?

[Anxiety]

Close please

[James Bond]

The more you do it the more comfortable he will get.

It may take a while though, and I don't blame him. I'd be the same. Just give it time. Maybe all the nervousness makes his sperm tube tense up preventing it from delivering sperm.

Just because he can't cum, doesn't mean you aren't pleasuring him. Many guys can't cum, yet still have an orgasm.

Cum does not equal orgasm.

[GigglyAbby]

I'd really have him see a doctor especially if he can't ejaculate from masturbation. It may either be the result of drug use or a physical problem. It seems he's more comfortable with you than he was since he's relaxed. It could be guilt -- nerves- or past trauma that has him not ejaculating -- a doctor visit may not hurt.

[zeebo]

Sometimes it just takes time...maybe he just finds it easier to finish himself, he's obviously still enjoying it

[Anxiety]

I'd really have him see a doctor especially if he can't ejaculate from masturbation. It may either be the result of drug use or a physical problem. It seems he's more comfortable with you than he was since he's relaxed. It could be guilt -- nerves- or past trauma that has him not ejaculating -- a doctor visit may not hurt.

He's diabetic through genetics, could that play a role? He smokes E cigs and the occasional social smoke, but he doesn't drink or do drugs. He can ejaculate through masturbation, but it takes him about 10 or 15 minutes when he's just horny. (Whereas, it only ever takes me 3 minutes at most, but if I'm super horny I can climax multiple times, but I'm a girl) But he says he comes good, fast and hard when he masturbates right after getting home from a visit with me, so it's not like he can't at all, or that I'm not pleasing him enough, he just can't do it in front of me for some reason (or when he was with his ex, so it's not just me..)

Also, even if ejaculation doesn't equal orgasm, he specifically said he couldn't orgasm when he had sex. But the last time I was touching him he did get the slightest bit of precum, so that's a start, right?

[Jasperf]

He's diabetic through genetics, could that play a role? He smokes E cigs and the occasional social smoke, but he doesn't drink or do drugs. He can ejaculate through masturbation, but it takes him about 10 or 15 minutes when he's just horny. (Whereas, it only ever takes me 3 minutes at most, but if I'm super horny I can climax multiple times, but I'm a girl) But he says he comes good, fast and hard when he masturbates right after getting home from a visit with me, so it's not like he can't at all, or that I'm not pleasing him enough, he just can't do it in front of me for some reason (or when he was with his ex, so it's not just me..)

Also, even if ejaculation doesn't equal orgasm, he specifically said he couldn't orgasm when he had sex. But the last time I was touching him he did get the slightest bit of precum, so that's a start, right?

Okay, when me and my girlfriend first started doing sexual thing I couldn't cum either, I don't know what it was but I dunno, I just couldn't. In the end she really wanted to see me cum so I jacked off till I came, after this I could cum for her (: it was like a mental block I think. Though when having sex I can go for ever haha, atleast until I really get myself to cum.

[johnsmith1]

He's diabetic through genetics, could that play a role? He smokes E cigs and the occasional social smoke, but he doesn't drink or do drugs. He can ejaculate through masturbation, but it takes him about 10 or 15 minutes when he's just horny. (Whereas, it only ever takes me 3 minutes at most, but if I'm super horny I can climax multiple times, but I'm a girl) But he says he comes good, fast and hard when he masturbates right after getting home from a visit with me, so it's not like he can't at all, or that I'm not pleasing him enough, he just can't do it in front of me for some reason (or when he was with his ex, so it's not just me..)

Also, even if ejaculation doesn't equal orgasm, he specifically said he couldn't orgasm when he had sex. But the last time I was touching him he did get the slightest bit of precum, so that's a start, right?

Giving he isfinishing off when he get's home, it does just sound like nerves. And that's difficult, as the more you both think about it, the more nerves can be dificult. Just relax a bit more, and yes getting precum is good. It's all about practice, relaxing and time. Maybe the next time he can eventually go "hard and fast" to finish off there, and hopefully after that, things will get easier.

[caliguy]

things should be okay...have you ever had him jack off in front of you....you could try that I know it has helped a couple people I know. The had the girl get him turned on a lot then had her walk out of the room for a few minutes then come back just before they climaxed (make him keep his eyes shut you could even just step aside). The girl would go down on him just as he was about to shoot. Or you could really give him a great massage that turns to an oily hand job. That could work to get him totally relaxed first.