My best friend's apology

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The story starts from Wednesday when we signed each others yearbooks and said goodbye to each other. I wrote in my "best friend" Harold's yearbook;

"Tbh we're not really friends anymore, but good luck because I'll see you in high school next year!"

So yesterday I got his number so I could explain to him why I wrote that in his yearbook. I said that it was because he never talked to me anymore, and he said he was sorry for being a bad friend.

I then asked him why he ignored me after I told him I liked him a couple months ago, and he said he didn't know, and that he was a bad friend. He said that me telling him that confused him, and changed "the friendly relationship we had".

So by now in the story I was kind of having mixed feelings. I wanted to forgive him and all, but I wouldn't be able to get over so much in such a little bit of time.

So then he asked if everything is ok between us, and I said no. He asked why, and in my exact words I said;

I was depressed for the whole year and someone I thought was my best friend never said a word to me. As much as I want to, I cant get over that in less then an hour.

He told me that he understood, and that he hoped that I thought about his apology over the break. He also said that I am "a great person, unique, one of a kind, out going, and set up for success". And he said he was sorry for hurting my feelings.

The rest of the conversation was him trying to tell me that he'd rather talk it out in person then over the phone, and I said ok.


So my question is how and should I forgive him? (In case you never read my previous threads, I'm mad because he stopped talking to me when I needed him and acted like everything was ok when it wasn't.) I want to move past this, but I don't know if we can still be friends.

[PinkFloyd]

Something you need to remember is that everyone makes mistakes. He didn't say to himself that he didn't want to hang out with you because of some stuff you did. He could have had other stuff going on in his own complicated life. Maybe that stuff was really nerve recking, and he didn't know how to reach out to people for help, so he just stayed in his personal bubble for a really long time.

In my opinion, you should tell him that you forgive him and that you want to be friends again.

[photojared]

Just do what feels right and try to forgive if possible

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Something you need to remember is that everyone makes mistakes. He didn't say to himself that he didn't want to hang out with you because of some stuff you did. He could have had other stuff going on in his own complicated life. Maybe that stuff was really nerve recking, and he didn't know how to reach out to people for help, so he just stayed in his personal bubble for a really long time.

In my opinion, you should tell him that you forgive him and that you want to be friends again.

I want to, but I don't know how to.

[johnsmith1]

The story starts from Wednesday when we signed each others yearbooks and said goodbye to each other. I wrote in my "best friend" Harold's yearbook;

"Tbh we're not really friends anymore, but good luck because I'll see you in high school next year!"

So yesterday I got his number so I could explain to him why I wrote that in his yearbook. I said that it was because he never talked to me anymore, and he said he was sorry for being a bad friend.

I then asked him why he ignored me after I told him I liked him a couple months ago, and he said he didn't know, and that he was a bad friend. He said that me telling him that confused him, and changed "the friendly relationship we had".

So by now in the story I was kind of having mixed feelings. I wanted to forgive him and all, but I wouldn't be able to get over so much in such a little bit of time.

So then he asked if everything is ok between us, and I said no. He asked why, and in my exact words I said;

I was depressed for the whole year and someone I thought was my best friend never said a word to me. As much as I want to, I cant get over that in less then an hour.

He told me that he understood, and that he hoped that I thought about his apology over the break. He also said that I am "a great person, unique, one of a kind, out going, and set up for success". And he said he was sorry for hurting my feelings.

The rest of the conversation was him trying to tell me that he'd rather talk it out in person then over the phone, and I said ok.


So my question is how and should I forgive him? (In case you never read my previous threads, I'm mad because he stopped talking to me when I needed him and acted like everything was ok when it wasn't.) I want to move past this, but I don't know if we can still be friends.

I'd say you'd need to have that conversation first. I'd say the only way to forgive him and move past him is to clear the air. By the sounds of it, things still need to be said and the air cleared. This should help both of you to move on. I can't say that it wil allow you to foregive him (I hope it does), but unless you do clear the air and have that conversation, things won't get any better.

[Harry Smith]

I want to, but I don't know how to.

Forgive your enemies but never forgot their name

I've been in your exact situation, my best mate pretty much didn't talk to me for about 6 months. 6 months of absolutely no contact, then he just acted like it didn't happen. I suppose if you love someone enough after being apart you come to appreciate their worth. Don't punish yourself by rejecting him.

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Forgive your enemies but never forgot their name

I've been in your exact situation, my best mate pretty much didn't talk to me for about 6 months. 6 months of absolutely no contact, then he just acted like it didn't happen. I suppose if you love someone enough after being apart you come to appreciate their worth. Don't punish yourself by rejecting him.

I'll try to move past it. Thanks for the advice everyone.

[PinkFloyd]

I want to, but I don't know how to.

I think you should start a conversation with him and bring the topic up.

[Charlie48]

forgive and forget

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I think you should start a conversation with him and bring the topic up.

I'm not gonna see him until school starts in September ...

[justinglives]

I think you should start a conversation with him and bring the topic up.

I agree get into a conversation with him and turn the tables around. make him answer the question how would you feel if I did this to you? put him in a position where he has to experience exactly the same emotions that you did, and his reaction will tell you wheee this is going. if you can identify and understand what you're going through, there may be a chance. if he refuses to accept some responsibility for this, or cant at least TRY to identiy.with how thia made u feel, the accept it will go nowhere, and move on..

[Ethan1369]

Something you need to remember is that everyone makes mistakes. He didn't say to himself that he didn't want to hang out with you because of some stuff you did. He could have had other stuff going on in his own complicated life. Maybe that stuff was really nerve recking, and he didn't know how to reach out to people for help, so he just stayed in his personal bubble for a really long time.

In my opinion, you should tell him that you forgive him and that you want to be friends again.

I agree with this 100%

[James Bond]

Forgive him. Life will be simpler and easier.

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I agree get into a conversation with him and turn the tables around. make him answer the question how would you feel if I did this to you? put him in a position where he has to experience exactly the same emotions that you did, and his reaction will tell you wheee this is going. if you can identify and understand what you're going through, there may be a chance. if he refuses to accept some responsibility for this, or cant at least TRY to identiy.with how thia made u feel, the accept it will go nowhere, and move on..

How do I do that if I'm not gonna see him?

[justinglives]

How do I do that if I'm not gonna see him?

Text? Phone?

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Text? Phone?

He said he doesn't want to talk about it until September, when school starts, so we can do it in person.

[justinglives]

He said he doesn't want to talk about it until September, when school starts, so we can do it in person.

In that case you have no choice but to let it go and move on. don't torment yourself over something that might never be. you're just lose a summer and have regrets. find other friends and try and enjoy life. I understand and it absolutely sucks when it happens.... but it doesn't seem like any of it was your fault so just move on....

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In that case you have no choice but to let it go and move on. don't torment yourself over something that might never be. you're just lose a summer and have regrets. find other friends and try and enjoy life. I understand and it absolutely sucks when it happens.... but it doesn't seem like any of it was your fault so just move on....

But if I forgive him that easily doesn't it make me look bad?

[justinglives]

But if I forgive him that easily doesn't it make me look bad?

I dont think i said forgive. I mean move on. you have no control over anyone else, only your own reactions and emotions. Dont let yourSelf put you in a cage.

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I dont think i said forgive. I mean move on. you have no control over anyone else, only your own reactions and emotions. Dont let yourSelf put you in a cage.

I tried that for the past few months but I don't want to do that. It's like I want to be friends but I don't know how to do that because I'm not the one who messed everything up, so I shouldn't have to fix it, right?

[justinglives]

I tried that for the past few months but I don't want to do that. It's like I want to be friends but I don't know how to do that because I'm not the one who messed everything up, so I shouldn't have to fix it, right?

NOW ure getting it!

[Axw_JD]

do you care about him? do you care about the friendship you two had and the good times spent together?

If so, that should be more important than "whose fault it was". He was asking for forgiveness, the ball is in your court now, its your decision whether you forgive him and give your friendship a chance or not.

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do you care about him? do you care about the friendship you two had and the good times spent together?

If so, that should be more important than "whose fault it was". He was asking for forgiveness, the ball is in your court now, its your decision whether you forgive him and give your friendship a chance or not.

Of course I care. I've been trying not to care so I didn't have to deal with this, but I think you can see how well that turned out

I'm gonna try to forgive him and forget about everything that's happened, but it's not gonna be easy.