The Great Confusion

[lijrobert]

I've been confused about my sexuality for a while now, but it recently got a whole lot more confusing. I'm only going into 9th grade but I started puberty young. I've never been physically attracted to a girl. Put me in front of the "hottest" women in the world and nothing stirs in my mind. I think "wow, some people could find her attractive" or "thank women needs to put on more clothes before she catches her death of cold" but never "man I want to have sex with her." I have been really good friends with girls and thought to myself "Is this what it's like to be in love?" I think I have been physically attracted to men. When I look at a men in porn things start to stir down stairs. You may think well there you go, you're gay, but I think I may be simply attracted to the idea of sex and not the men themselves. The big "and then it got worse" I mentioned earlier happened at Boyscout camp. I saw a guy (about a year or two younger than me" and immediately thought that he was cute. I may just be venting, but I could use some help, or at least someone to talk to about figuring out my sexuality.

[Dark Blue]

During puberty, hormones tend to go haywire so your body does things that it may or may not do when your older. Just go with the flow and whatever you feel is right. Try not to label yourself (I know its hard) but just think past it.

[Nottoocool]

I thought the same way about girls and then within the last few months I started to think something of it. Then I realized guys get me horny and I have numerous guy crushes and just came out for the first time to two of my friends who are girls last night. So yeah I turned out gay but I doesn't mean you will. It's not bad at all to be gay of that's what you're worried about

[Lost in the Echo]

During puberty, hormones tend to go haywire so your body does things that it may or may not do when your older. Just go with the flow and whatever you feel is right. Try not to label yourself (I know its hard) but just think past it.

This is absolutely correct. ^ Your hormones are raging right now. Puberty is a very confusing time. Once your hormones start to settle, after puberty, it will be easier to label yourself.
Really though, it's just a label. It doesn't change who you are, at all. :)

[photojared]

go in a relationship with a boy and see how you feel

[Miserabilia]

ofcourse you cant say during puberty, but I think you are gay. If not, you may be bi or something else. You can just find out during puberty

[lijrobert]

Thanks for all your responses. I feel much better about myself now.

[Dunce]

Well, my only insight into this is that being in love isn't like the friendship you have with girls. That's what I thought too, I had a few male friends over the years who I wasn't attracted to but I wished I was, I kind of convinced myself that I felt love for some of them but it was just friendship. Just be honest with yourself, I'm not saying you'll figure it out easily, but you'll know attraction when it happens (which seems to be with men for you).
Some people have tried to tell me the feelings I had for women as a teenager were only feelings of female-female intimacy on a friendship level. Sure, it makes me wonder about what I really felt, but I know at the time I was definitely into girls and no one can tell me otherwise because they don't know.
I've been questioning for years, feel free to message me if you want to talk :)