Don't wanna be gay!

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Hi guys, so basically I'm scared I might be gay. I'm not homophobic, not at all, I'm just worried about all the shit that comes with it. The abuse I'd get off the guys at school, my dad will certainly NEVER speak to me again, at the least.

I wank over guys. I get boners at urinals. Boys at school turn me on, and it literally reduces me to tears ever night. I have these thought about girls a lil too, but I don't WANT these feelings about guys! I'm a strong christian too, I'm so scared. So basically, is there anyone else who's been through this? And what can I do to get rid of this whole 'gay' side of me? Could it just be a phase?

P.S - Pleaseeee nobody like be nasty to me at all, I'm not being homophobic! Plus don't just say that I can't, that I'm born with it, because that's not gonna help me much bro's

[TheGlowingCactus]

Hey buddy :)

This is all very basic stuff that happens during puberty, your hormones are raging really bad and that's probably the reason why you're wanking over guys and things like that. I get this too, seriously. There are definitely boys at my school that turn me on too - But I'm sure this will go away once our hormones begin to calm down.

You don't need to label yourself just yet pal! This is all perfectly normal activity! :)

[jaxian rhyder]

Hey buddy :)

This is all very basic stuff that happens during puberty, your hormones are raging really bad and that's probably the reason why you're wanking over guys and things like that. I get this too, seriously. There are definitely boys at my school that turn me on too - But I'm sure this will go away once our hormones begin to calm down.

You don't need to label yourself just yet pal! This is all perfectly normal activity! :)

Exactly wat I was gonna say

[DerBear]

Puberty for Boys :arrow: Teen Sexuality

[Soldier212]

I am a homosexual and I know what u are going through. I am 16 and I have come out of the closet to both of my parents. You can choose to accept it in your heart but not inform others about it, because how is it there business? If you are feel like you are living a lie you can always talk to a close friend (preferably a woman who can keep a secret and who would understand). In the bible homosexuality is brought up in the story if lot. It was in the old testament Lot was exiled and he found a new home. There it was said that it was a city of sin. Also men came up to Lot in a sexual way. They also gave him horrible hospitality and that was considered a sin. We don't know the true sin of that city but the fact that homosexuality was never something written to not do, but pore hospitality is just that. In the end you are not alone and never be afraid of not loving you. If you want to talk to me on private I have an email but my yahoo I rarely check so reply to this if you decide to email me and what time.

[llwoahll]

I'm bi and I like both u could b by And since ur still in school and they'd give u hell all u need 2 do is wait till u leave for college 2 come out

[camiam]

Hey man im in the exactly the same situation and im also a strong christen, but i just found it was easer to accept it and learn to deal with it than trying to figh tit all the time! Im really keen to have a chat to you about it man. Flick me an email or skype or something

[justin 13]

Dude I totally understand you. Im gay, still in the closet and will be there until go to college. BUT I'm gay, that's is a fact. I'm trying to meet friends like me, I got tons of friends on here, and 1 or 2 gay/BI friends in RL...I'm catholic too, but I cant fight against myself. I LOVE BOYS. that's it.

[Ben4ever]

Exactly wat I was gonna say

I agree! Even if you do end up liking men, you will always be loved by the people that matter. If you'd like to talk my door(inbox) is always open:yes:

[Troy35216]

And what can I do to get rid of this whole 'gay' side of me?

P.S - don't just say that I can't, that I'm born with it, because that's not gonna help me much bro's

so in other words, "I have a question: is it going to rain this weekend or be sunny? But don't say it's going to rain cuz that's not going to help me much."

That kind of thinking is great if it's going to be sunny. But if it's going to rain, then sometimes that is what you need to hear whether you want to hear it or not. I don't know you so I don't know if you are gay or not. most of the people here will tell you that you're not, that it is only hormones or whatever. And there is no reason to label yourself. I don't know what that means. If water is falling from the sky it doesn't matter if you don't label it as rain, it's still raining.

so the answer to your question, what can you do to get rid of this gay side of you is "nothing." If everyone else is right and it is just hormones or whatever then all you can do is wait for your hormones to balance out and wait for puberty to end. There aren't any Straight Hormones that the doctor can give you. If it is NOT hormones and you feel this way because you really are gay, then the answer is still "nothing." Whether you put a label on it or not, you are what you are. All you can do is learn to accept who you are and learn to live with it. For some people that means a life in the closet and not telling anyone so they don't get hassled by their church or friends or family. for other people it means saying what the hell and being yourself. But there is no rule that says you have to decide right now how you are going to live your life. and even tho I am not a big believer in "it's just hormones" I do believe that some people go thru phases where they bone up for anything that moves so maybe that is where your at. sorry if this doesn't help any. If it helps i know what your going thru and i wish you luck.

[Extreme586]

I agree to a certain extent with the hormones theory, you could definitely be going through a phase. But if you have always liked boys for longer than just puberty, then your probably gay.

It seems like you don't want to take the fact that you could very well be gay as an answer. The fact is, if you are gay and you like boys, you can't change it. And people telling you other things on this site just because you don't want to take being gay as an answer is irresponsible. Yes sure there are possibilities that you aren't, but from my experience, no matter how much I wanted to lie to myself or play it off as something else, I knew from the time I was little that I had different feelings for boys than most boys of my age.

Just remember, it's all perspective. If the majority of guys in the world were gay, you wouldn't even be on this site worried. All your worry originates from the idea of not being accepted by what is conceived as a social norm by our society. Just because being gay is different than the majority, it doesn't mean it is a bad thing.

Be proud of who you are!

[photojared]

its not gay until you have a mental connection with a guy and if you are then what of it, your family will still love you it may take time and start when your ready

[Cece14]

its just a phase, don't worry about it and just pay attention to girls

[Conqueror of Hearts]

OmHi guys, so basically I'm scared I might be gay. I'm not homophobic, not at all, I'm just worried about all the shit that comes with it. The abuse I'd get off the guys at school, my dad will certainly NEVER speak to me again, at the least.

I wank over guys. I get boners at urinals. Boys at school turn me on, and it literally reduces me to tears ever night. I have these thought about girls a lil too, but I don't WANT these feelings about guys! I'm a strong christian too, I'm so scared. So basically, is there anyone else who's been through this? And what can I do to get rid of this whole 'gay' side of me? Could it just be a phase?

P.S - Pleaseeee nobody like be nasty to me at all, I'm not being homophobic! Plus don't just say that I can't, that I'm born with it, because that's not gonna help me much bro's

Ok, so a while ago I was doing a little research about what Bible says to being gay etc, for my friend. What I came up with is that the Bible is against it. It could be put like this: we are all born with something that will pull us away from God. Someone is an alcoholic, others are suicidle, other are attracted by the same sex....so, we should be "fighting" with those things whatever it is. For example I cut myself and that pulls me away from God each time I do it and I know that, but I still cut, because it helps me in some way. I know that if I pray that God will help me, because I can't deal with this without him. Those things that we should fight will bring us closer to Him. So maybe this is your thing to fight, just remember you don't have to fight alone.

I have nothing against gays...I am against those who hate them and say bad things about them. No matter who you like or love you should be proud of yourself.
I am a christian and I just wanted to share with you those things I've found out and to give you that perspective as well.

Also, I have a friend who thought she liked girls...she even dated a few, and after 2 years she said "Nah...I'm not attracted by girls anymore, i'm straight" . So that could be just a phase you're going through.

[Nocturnal_Insomniac]

It might be a phase, it might not be. If it scares you too much, just concentrate on the feelings you have about girls, and wait a few years. For some boys, teenage hormones can make anything sexual, i know a guy who would get hard reading through sex. ed notes about guys (particularly anything with illustrations), never mind actual guys he'd seen in the communal showers, and is now very happily engaged, and the relationship has been going strong for 4 years. Don't sweat it yet, concentrate on other stuff, let your hormones settle, and chances are, everything will be fine. Having said that, you wanna talk, shoot me an email, or Skype me. I'm open at all hours (it's currently 3 am...)

[Zanman11]

Don't worry. If your friends are like me, they won't care, and if they do, they aren't your true friends. It is important that you are comfortable being you!!