First Date

[Faolan]

So today I went on a date with my friend (who's also a guy). Anyways, I was really uncomfortable the whole time and just pretended that I was jittery and nervous (which I was). But the problem is, I'm not ready for a relationship. Plus, I don't really like him that way; I like other friends (one guy, one girl). I told him that I don't want to be in a relationship in the kindest words possible on Facebook chat, but should I have told him in person? It is summer vacation, and I rarely see people. Will he get over it, since it was only the first date? Thanks for your help.

[Miserabilia]

Why did you go on a date if you don't want to be in a relationship with him

[Harley Quinn]

Why did you go on a date if you don't want to be in a relationship with him

You can go on a date without wanting anything out of it, you know.


OP, I think he'll be just fine. It never reached anything of a serious level, a date is a date, it doesn't mean you want a relationship anyway. I'm pretty sure others realise that one date does not constitute to something serious.

[Faolan]

Why did you go on a date if you don't want to be in a relationship with him

It's more complicated than that. I had thought that I liked him in that way, and it's really hard for me to say "no" to people, so I couldn't have told him I didn't want to.

[unnamed94]

It's more complicated than that. I had thought that I liked him in that way, and it's really hard for me to say "no" to people, so I couldn't have told him I didn't want to.

by not telling him you dont like him in that way you are probably making him think you do like him (because you went on a date with him and people assume that when you go on a date its because you like the other person). better tell him now because he may start thinking it all went great and stuff, and then when you tell him the truth it will hurt him more.

[Faolan]

by not telling him you dont like him in that way you are probably making him think you do like him (because you went on a date with him and people assume that when you go on a date its because you like the other person). better tell him now because he may start thinking it all went great and stuff, and then when you tell him the truth it will hurt him more.

I did tell him that and he told me "thank you for telling me sooner than later." I thought everything was fine, and then he posted all these depressing breakup quotes on Facebook, at least ten, and I feel absolutely awful about what I've done. How could I have been so rash and stupid? Now I've ruined our friendship and hurt someone badly. This goes against all my morals and ethics on kindness! I apologized as sincerely as I could, which is a lot, and all I can do now is hope that he forgives me for being the naive and stupid dumbass that I am.

[James Bond]

You should've told him in person, or at least tell him next time he calls for another date.

He'll get over it.

[Faolan]

So he told me he was hurt, but he would get over it. I apologized again, and hoped for both of us that we can still be friends.

[Cece14]

You should have told him in person

[CyrustheGreat]

It's more complicated than that. I had thought that I liked him in that way, and it's really hard for me to say "no" to people, so I couldn't have told him I didn't want to.

You cant say no, but you sure can spell it. hahaha. but yes i can see how his feeling would have been hurt.

[Jevon]

I'm sure he will understand and if he doesn't well then there are better people to be friends with