Step Brothers and New Room Arrangement

[BigBoy1324]

Ok, so my Mom recently got remarried...woohoo...And I used to share a room with my brother when I was little, until he moved out. Then I had my own room. So we moved in with my new step-dad. There were three bedrooms. He has two sons who are 11 and 12. I am fourteen (male) and I have a 17 year-old sister. So obviously one room went to my sister since she is the oldest by far and the only girl. But I had to move in with the younger step-brother!!! The reasoning was that my step-dad didn't want them to feel like they had to make room for us and that they shouldn't have to feel like they were sacrificing too much. I understand that, but my reasoning is, you don't want to make one of them move down the hall.....BUT I HAD TO GIVE UP MY HOUSE!!! And I like to stay in my room, they don't, but I like to have my own sanctuary....I can't think of that room as being my private place when there is a bunk bed, dresser, desk and a couple shelves worth of his stuff!!! First I want to bring it up to my step-bro, then mom and step-dad. How should I approach this....do you think bribes would work? I have my brothers old computer in my room....should I offer them that? ...I don't want to!!!! ...but if that is a last resort...maybe...any advice?

[MoonMan]

I wouldn't say you should bribe anyone since that can lead to trouble later on. I would just try to explain to both your mom and step dad why you would like your own room, beyond that, there's not much else you can do. Tell them you're also sacrificing a lot as well and the reasoning behind wanting your own room, try not to seem desperate or unreasonable or else they'll just dismiss it as you throwing a temper tantrum or being ungrateful. Besides I think an 11 and 12 year old would be a much better choice to share a room than someone who's older like yourself. Older kids usually need more privacy than younger kids, there's nothing wrong or selfish about that.

[Sharona]

Pee in his bed and say you don't want to share with a bedwetter

[James Bond]

Tell your mom that you feel you're sacrificing a lot too and tell her that you really want your own room and that you will allow them to use your computer if they let you get your own room.


It's going to take some time to just get used of this new marriage, for everyone. So expect everything to be out of the norm and maybe even a bit chaotic for the first 6 months or so.

[Sharona]

Or just share your porn and get along

[HockeyLovesMe]

i think u should come up with a plan for your own room and then tell them the plan because if u just go up to them and be like i dont want to share a room they would be like forget it! good luck though

[imaguybro]

Their are ways to get around to this maybe like what Sharona said its weird but it works out. Or you can tell your mom that you want your room back, who cares about the other kids.

[Troy35216]

But I had to move in with the younger step-brother!!! is this a typo? you had to move in with the younger step-brother or the younger step-brothers? just one of them or both or them? cuz it makes zero sense that they are 11 and 12 and blood brothers but they would be split up so that an 11 year old and 14 year old who are not blood brothers but step-brothers would share a room but the 12 year-old gets his own room. plus there aren't enough bedrooms for this to be possible.

So we moved in with my new step-dad. There were three bedrooms.
okay so 3 bedrooms. one room for your mom and step-dad. One room for your sister. that leaves one bedroom left for you and the two step-brothers. if you have that berdroom all to yourself, where are the younger step-brothers supposed to sleep? The backyard? You already know you can share a room cuz you did it with your brother till he moved out. your sister is 17 so I guess she will be moving out soon. tough it out till she moves out and then ask if you can move into her room. Or, since I'm sure your two step-brothers are also going from their own rooms to suddenly sharing a room with two other people hate it as much as you do, ALL of you go the parents and suggest that instead of moving into step-dad's house or everyone moving into mom's house. the thing to do is sell BOTH houses and then buy one that has enough bedrooms that everyone has their own room.