Advice?

[nwf13]

My girlfriend and I have been together for a while now and she thinks she is ready for sex. She's about two years older than I am, and used to be very sexual active. This will be my first time having sex. Should I be worried about not being able to exceed her expectations? Also, she is allergic to latex, so should I look for some latex free condoms, or just trust the pill? She has been on it for almost three years now... :what:

[Lost in the Echo]

You obviously want help from the girls too, seeing that you made a duplicate thread, in the girls forum. So i'll move this to the appropriate section.
Puberty For Boys :arrow: Questions For Both Boys and Girls.

[sdude]

Protection isn't just for pregnancy dude...ALWAYS wear a condom, you said yourself she was "VERY" sexually active...I don't know if you are ready for sex with this girl...

[zeebo]

Yeah man, use a condom anyways, you never know

[GigglyAbby]

You should talk to her about your fear of not satisfying her during your first time -- while you discuss the likelihood of having sex -- during and after sex [ask her what things you can do to satisfy her. I'd highly recommend that she and perhaps you get a recent STI screening due to her prior sexual activity. Is she okay with you buying the non-latex condoms or does she trust the pill by itself? Keep in mind that if the pill is used around same time daily [not skipped] that if it's effective isn't reduced [diarrhea -- certain antibiotics -- some herbal drugs] -- it's more effective than a condom by itself. If you want to lessen the slim chance of becoming a father -- use a non-latex condom or wait to have sex.

[Mob Boss]

First of all, if you aren't ready, you shouldn't have to do anything you don't feel comfortable doing. Just because she is ready doesn't mean you have to be. You should both be on the same page as one another, as relationships aren't one-sided things. And you being two years younger, might mean you're not necessarily ready for that step. I agree with sdude, condoms aren't just a form of contraceptive; they're there for your protection as well. You said she's been sexually active for quite some time, so it's in both of your best interests if you do wear one. You should always wear one. There are latex-free condoms. Go to your local pharmacy, or you may have to get them online from a company that specifically sells latex-free condoms.

[johnsmith1]

A comdom will give extra protection. Talk with your girlfriend. Communication is asmuch helps it to be fun for both of you.

[Second Chance]

I would be really careful before you start having sex with this girl especially since she has had it before with other people. The first thing you need to make sure is that she is clean, and she should have a STD test done. It is one thing if you both are virgins, but since she has been with others you have to be careful.

Even though your girlfriend is on the pill you should still protect yourself. Sometimes folks take the pill improperly, or they might deliberately not take the pill before sex to get pregnant. Trust me, people do funny things. There are non-latex condoms out there though they are a bit harder to find. With that being said, the non-latex condoms are out there especially because there are a lot of folks allergic to latex. Like mentioned above, go to a drugstore or any discounter like Target which will have non-latex condoms. No matter what, wear a condom because you have to protect yourself because you can't depend on others to always do the right thing.

I agree with the person above who said that all because your girlfriend is ready for sex doesn't mean you have to do it. There are a lot of things that go with sex especially the emotional and financial parts of it. If you don't have the ability to pay for condoms, doctor's visits if there's a problem, or can't be honest about your sexual activity with your parents, then you're best off waiting until you're an adult. If your girlfriend is creating a situation where you either have sex with her or else she'll dump you, then that is definitely someone you shouldn't have sex with. Take things slow and do your research. The fact that you're asking us about sex means that you have doubts. You're fine if you don't want to have sex now, and a lot of people wait.

If you do end up having sex, then remember that very few people's first times are great. It takes practice with sex, and you're not going to do it exactly right your first time. Don't put pressure on yourself, and don't worry about what your girlfriend thinks. If she really cares about you, then she'll help you with your first time especially since she's experienced. I am pretty sure your girlfriend will help you out since she knows you're a virgin, and you need to be open and honest with her rather than trying to impress her.

[Myxox]

There are really good polyeurothane condoms now so the latex thing shouldn't be an issue. If I were you I'd wear one for a few reasons, one to be safe, two to help you last longer with her. Good luck!

[Elysium]

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