Harder to climax when having sex?

[Perfectly Flawed]

When I masturbate I have no troubles reaching orgasm, but when having sex I have to try pretty damn hard to finish. I'm not sure if this is normal, but even if I enjoy the sex more than masturbating it still takes a lot longer. Hell sometimes I don't even finish when there are time restraints which is pretty frustrating.

Does anybody know why this may be? I don't watch porn often so it's not like I need that to get off.

[GigglyAbby]

If you wear a rubber -- that could be stopping you from cumming. Maybe you're fearful of making her pregnant. Maybe you need to fantasize during sex like you do when you masturbate.

[Perfectly Flawed]

If you wear a rubber -- that could be stopping you from cumming. Maybe you're fearful of making her pregnant. Maybe you need to fantasize during sex like you do when you masturbate.

It's a problem with men too, so I doubt that's it. :what:

[Pontiac67]

I think the problem is as you said you are trying damn hard to finish and there are time restrictions, plus there is more work on your part, making sure you are pleasing her, keeping your penis erect ect, wondering when you are going to cum and the whole time thing.. With masturbation you really don't have that you are just there to get pleasure from masturbating, you are relaxed... next time make sure you have the time and privacy and have her or your self get you really hard and then enjoy it, the more you enjoy it the more she will & ALWAYS WEAR A CONDOM WHEN HAVING SEX

[justinglives]

If you wear a rubber -- that could be stopping you from cumming. Maybe you're fearful of making her pregnant. Maybe you need to fantasize during sex like you do when you masturbate.

Totally agree!
I dated 1 girl who said several times how scared she was of getting pregnant..eve. thoughw wee always ouber ovsrly careful, i found it really hard to get off inside her. Never had that problem until her, never hadit after her, and NEVER when i was with another dude!

[Perfectly Flawed]

Totally agree!
I dated 1 girl who said several times how scared she was of getting pregnant..eve. thoughw wee always ouber ovsrly careful, i found it really hard to get off inside her. Never had that problem until her, never hadit after her, and NEVER when i was with another dude!

I've already stated that I know that's not the problem. I've had a pregnancy scare before (with a condom) and that was one of the most stressful experiences of my life, but that was the last time I've had sex, so it's not like that event has carried over.

To the person who said maybe it's because I'm trying to hard:

I don't think that's it either. I would describe why, but it would be on the verge of breaking the rules and I would rather not risk that.

[drew6]

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[SkootuGurl]

This might sound a bit selfish, but maybe don't trry to think about the girl and just relax and let your vody feel the pleasure. Then when you're used to doing that and ur body takes care of itself, start thinking of her pleasure again

[Silicate Wielder]

Masturbation face down is known to make it more difficult, while yes it feels better it desensitizes you to sex, so to speak. try to go about a month without masturbation, everytime you masturbate before the 3week period you have to start over at day 1. after 3 weeks you may masturbate, but keep to once a week for a while before going back to your normal routine. and don't face downward when doing it.